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Index
Cover
Contents
Foreword
Introduction
How to Put This Book to Work for Your Family
What Teens Want Most (But Won’t Admit)
1: Anger in Teens: The Problem and the Solution
The Ancient Context for Anger
Where There’s Smoke: What Sparks Teen Anger
Mental Health Factors in Teen Anger
Anger Can Serve as a Mask for Depressed Mood in Teens
Anger Can Give Teens a Way to Escape Intense Experiences of Anxiety
Anger Can Develop as a Self-Protective Mechanism When Teens Have Experienced Significant Loss or Trauma in Their Lives
Anger Can Be the Primary Clue that a Teen Has Suffered or Failed in Some Way in Relationships with Peers
Deciding If It’s Time for Professional Help
It Takes Two to Get Tangled in Anger
The Anatomy of Parent–Teen Communication
What Makes a Communication Breakdown?
The Destructive Dance Between Parents and Teens
What Is Mindfulness and How Does It Help?
But You Already Know Mindfulness
What Positive Psychology Brings to the Table
The PURE Method of Dealing with Communication Breakdowns
Basics of Mindfulness
Basics of Positive Psychology
Your Parental Agenda
2: Presence: Mindfulness of the Senses for Managing Heat from Teens
Mindfulness: The Oxygen of Effective Parenting
Mindful Parenting Self-Assessment
How Mindfulness Soothes Tough Interactions with Teens
More Than Deep: Anchoring with the Breath
Having an In-the-Body Experience During Tough Exchanges with Teens
Seeing Clearly: Concentration and Clarity of Mind
Opening Up: Body Awareness Skills for Defeating Tunnel Vision
The Parental Lap: Acceptance Skills for Holding the Good, the Bad, and the Otherwise
Time Issues: Forget the Cushion, Just Practice!
Your Parental Agenda
3: Understanding: Creating Clarity in the Cycle of Teen Anger
The Core Question: Are You Willing?
Identifying Your True North as a Parent
The Costs of Miscommunication
The Heirs of Our Actions: Emotional Patterns in Parenting
Understanding Your Own Emotional Patterning
Sticks and Stones: Understanding How Teen Behavior Affects the Parent
The Universal Errors in How We See Bad Behavior
Distancing Yourself from Distorted Thinking About Your Teen
Learning to See Behind Behavior
The Courage of Compassionate Communication
Your Parental Agenda
4: Responsive Leadership in Parenting Angry Teens
Seeing Beyond Power Moves and Pitched Battles
Giving Leeway
And Yet Standing Your Ground
Confidence Amidst Chaos
Fueling Yourself for Action
On Target in Managing Your Teen’s Behavior
Speaking the Truth to Your Teen
Attuning to Your Teen By Tuning Out
Being the Calm: Co-Regulation Skills for Managing Behavior
Building Your Teen’s Problem-Solving Skills
Holding the Line with Unsafe Behavior
Your Parental Agenda
5: Empowering Change for You and Your Teen
Self-Compassion: Moving Past Self-Blame
Revving Up: Inner Power
From Garbage to Flowers
Attunement to Your Angry Teen
Inviting the Choice to Change
Eyeing the Prize in Your Teen
Your Parental Agenda
Conclusion: Bringing It All Together with the PURE Method
Matching PURE Skills to the Moment at Hand
Coaches Can’t Quit
Maintaining Your Momentum
Working with Professionals
Acknowledgments
References
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