How to Make Anyone Like You by Lowndes, Leil -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

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Title Page Also by Leil Lowndes Dedication Contents Introduction How to be a people magnet

How we’re going to find the answer The fatal FUD factor (Fear, Uncertainty and Doubt)

Friends, lovers and Knights

Platonic male/female friendships: ‘There’s no such thing!’ (Or is there?) And, of course, love: the magic that makes the world go round Men’s friendships: ‘I love you, man!’ Women’s friendships: ‘Oh, why can’t a man be more like a woman?’ Networking friends: so who are these Knights?

Why this book is guaranteed to work!

It is not a book – it’s a contract! Everything in the contract is backed by sociological studies It contains confidential testimony from thousands in my seminars

Part I: Making strangers like you instantly!

1 Hi! How do you like me so far?

But is being popular really being liked? What’s your OQ? (Optimism Quotient)

2 How to spread sunshine wherever you go 3 Making everyone feel special 4 Win their hearts, in 10 words or less 5 The magic wand – your body 6 Like Hallmark cards, a smile for every occasion 7 Why do we prefer one person over another?

Deborah gets the last laugh (and Leil eats her hat)

8 Fine-tuning your tongue 9 Never hear ‘You’re not listening!’ again 10 Fragging the fatal FUD factor

But what about me? I’m no Olympic athlete When you love the one who hurts you How you can go for gold Confidence alone isn’t enough

11 How to work a room like royalty 12 Nice shake! 13 The Hugganary 14 The secret of confident conversing

What separates social ‘winners’ from social ‘losers’?

15 Shyness stinks! (Not only that, it can trash your life)

Wait, there are more bummers! So, if schmooze-ophobia is a disease, what’s the cure?

16 Does this confidence make money? 17 Ah, mystery of life (and how optimism saved one!) 18 Pass the Pollyanna please

Part II: Friends and lovers: How to find them, how to keep them

19 Why have friends? or Pollyanna plummets into Pandora’s box

Suddenly last summer Pollyanna plummets into Pandora’s box The bottom of the pit So what’s this got to do with making people like you? Pandora’s box suddenly snaps shut

20 Friendship’s first commandment

Thou must have something to give in order to receive You don’t make friends, you earn them And yes, you earn lovers too

21 Ways to say ‘I love you’ to a friend

Plan private pleasures for precious people ‘I love ya, man’, and all that jazz Actions speak louder than words (just ask any guy) The power of gifts (or a great way to get rid of junk you don’t want!)

22 Standing up for your friends

The green-eyed monster in my closet

23 Planting seeds for new friendships

Prissy’s present You can never go back (and would you really want to?) You made my day! Now, about your promotion …

24 Do you want to be popular, or do you want to be liked? 25 What if I only feel those butterflies when I’m talking

Great, so I know why; now how can I get rid of those butterflies?

26 Have you ever had a friend ... who changed your way of looking at life for ever? 27 If you’ve got it, flaunt it! 28 Diversity, it’s not just for the workplace

Guess who’s coming to dinner?

Part III: Cupid’s secrets: Sexy schemes for luring lovers – and keeping them

29 Cupid’s got LOTS of secrets!

Cupid, please tell me – Why him? Why her? When two of Cupid’s arrows cross Some Cupids who crashed and burned

30 Finally science captures Cupid

Cupid does drugs Why do so many women go for the bad boys? Cupid grows up! So how long can I enjoy this legal high before I come down?

31 A better, deeper kind of love sets in – really!

What if I still want the ‘can’t wait to jump your bones’ kinda love? How Cindy keeps the sex cinders hot

32 What about turning a friend into a lover? 33 Cupid’s last words

Can you have the peaceful for-ever kind of love straight away? So what’s Cupid’s secret? What really keeps couples together?

34 Mirror, mirror, find me a mate 35 Get off my bottom 36 If you want to date, you must initiate

The dance of love Inviting someone to the Dance of Intimacy

37 Don’t think lines, think lyrics 38 Men ‘pick her up’, gentlemen ‘make her acquaintance’

How to know the answer to ‘How do you like me so far?’

39 The failure fallback plan 40 Creative courting 41 Shhh, he’s annoyed! 42 Give me a strong shoulder and a big ear 43 Go figure!

You be the judge

44 How would you handle this, dear?

It’s not just for schmoozing her

45 I just want you to be happy! 46 Hyperbole as aphrodisiac 47 Understanding my clam

Who talks more – men or women? Clams à la grecque

Part IV: Networking: Recruiting Knights for my personal Round Table

48 The world’s best contact sport (once you learn 49 ‘Networking?’ Did I hear you say ‘networking’? 50 Plan ahead! 51 The guide to sharing your gifts

Networking, it’s kids’ stuff too

52 Do you carry enough friend insurance?

One man’s Knight is another man’s nobody The Knights at my Round Table

53 Who ya gonna call? 54 Making deposits in the good neighbour account

Part V: Marketing me!: Just like Hollywood celebrity makers promote a star

55 How’s my packaging? 56 What they see is what they think they get 57 You’re the brand manager (and the product is YOU) 58 Beauty is as beauty feels

Thunder Thighs wins Olympic gold medal for love Gentlemen, lest you feel left out of the beauty game ...

59 What can I change? And what am I stuck with?

To see or not to see The best case of self-packaging I ever witnessed Just add a scarf here, pin that there and don’t get dead in that!

60 The making of a star – me! 61 What’s your story? 62 Getting to know me, getting to feel free’n’easy 63 Give yourself a priceless gift

Appendix A – How to say it to the opposite sex Appendix B – The e-mail sent to me by Dr Stan on ‘smart women’ Appendix C – What love equity theorists would say about your compatibility Appendix D – Reading her subconscious ‘sex signals’ Appendix E – The minute-an-hour treatment Appendix F – On developing a deeper sense of self Back Ads Notes About the author Copyright About the Publisher

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