The Five Things We Cannot Change by Richo, David -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Cover Title Page Copyright Dedication Contents Introduction Part One: The Givens of Life

1. Everything Changes and Ends

How We Avoid or Accept Attracted or Repelled Growing Older: A Changing Image in the Mirror What Makes Us So Controlling Nothing Separate A Two-Handed Practice Death and Renewal

2. Things Do Not Always Go According to Plan

Nature’s Design Our Calling The Larger Life It All Balances in Love

3. Life Is Not Always Fair

Revenge or Reconcile? Why Does Harm Come to the Innocent? The Art of Taming Ego Commitments beyond Ego A Mindful Reply to Unfairness

4. Pain Is Part of Life

Are We Victims? A Yes to the Pain Nature Brings Being with the Suffering of Others When Cheer Doesn’t Work The Fertile Void

5. People Are Not Loving and Loyal All the Time

The Lifelong Influence of Childhood Taking Care of Yourself As You Open to Others Givens of Adult Relating A Checklist on Boundaries in Our Relationships Egoless Love

6. Refuges from the Givens

Religion as a Refuge Religion and Refuge in Nature Three Refuges Distraction or Resource? Magical Thinking Backstreet Refuges Safety in No Refuge Wisdom within Us

Part Two: An Unconditional Yes to Our Conditioned Existence

7. How to Become Yes

Loving-Kindness Tonglen Practice No Outside Nature Practices Yes

8. Yes to Feelings

Our Gifts from Nature How Feelings Become SAFE Love Liberates How Fear Holds Us Back The Life Span of a Feeling How Do We Receive the Feelings of Others? Tracking Our Feelings What Feelings Are Not Feelings Are Three-Dimensional

9. A Yes to Who I Am

Psychologically Spiritually Mystically Self or No-Self? A Stable Sense of Myself

Epilogue About the Author Also by David Richo E-mail Sign-Up