Divorce Poison New and Updated Edition · How to Protect Your Family From Bad-Mouthing and Brainwashing by Warshak, Richard A. -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Cover Title Page Dedication Epigraph Contents A Note to the Reader Introduction: Stealing the Soul 1 The Delicate Balance

The United Front When Silence Is Not Golden How to Distinguish Between Helpful and Harmful Criticism

2 Bad-Mouthing, Bashing, and Brainwashing

Bad-mouthing Bashing Brainwashing Parental Alienation Syndrome Children Who Resist Divorce Poison

3 Alienated Children

The Hate Campaign Trivial Explanations for the Hatred False Abuse Accusations Polarizing Parents: Saints and Sinners Parroting Adults Declaration of Independence Hatred by Association Alienation Without Divorce Poison Justified Alienation Child-Driven Alienation Understanding the Roots of Alienation Is It Alienation or Not? False Accusations of Parental Alienation

4 Malignant Motives

Poor Boundaries Revenge Narcissism Guilt Insecurity Seeking Validation Holding On with Hate Paranoia Reenactments Hostility Toward the Children Custody Litigation Preventing Alienation During Custody Litigation Remarriage

5 The Alienating Environment

Isolation Relocation Kidnapping Stripping Fear

6 The Corruption of Reality

The Name Game Repetition Selective Attention Judging Behavior Out of Context Exaggeration Lies Concealing Contrary Facts Revisionist History The Total Change Theory Suggestions and Innuendos Exploitation Projection Rationalization Holier Than Thou With God on Our Side “The Truth” Overindulgence Encroachment Cloak and Dagger Cognitive Dissonance Conspiracy Tamper-Resistant Packaging

7 Poison Control

Empathy The Power of Indirect Communication Fly on the Wall Two Steps Removed Using Third Parties Strike While the Iron Is Cold Creating Bridges Healing Experiences Memorializing the Positive The Way We Were Sowing Seeds in the Psyche Vacations Divide and Conquer: The Value of Separating Siblings Contagion Control: Helping Children Stay Neutral With God on Our Side—Revisited Agree to Disagree No One’s Perfect Think for Yourself Brainwashing 101 Films and Television Become a Better Parent Avoid Common Errors Damage Control Ann Landers’s Reconciliation Day

8 Getting Professional Help

When to Call the Therapist How Therapy Can Help How You Can Help Your Therapist Selecting Therapists Conditions of Treatment Child Custody Evaluations Options for Healing Damaged Parent-Child Relationships Hiring an Attorney

9 Letting Go

When to Let Go How to Let Go Staying in Touch after Letting Go New Bridges Alienated Children as Adults Reconnecting with Adult Alienated Children Coping with the Loss Hope for the Future

Afterword: Restoring Lost Identities and Lost Relationships Searchable Terms Acknowledgments About the Author Praise Other Books by Dr. Richard A. Warshak Copyright About the Publisher