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Index
Cover
Title
Dedication
Contents
Introduction: True Masculine Power
Softening Does Not Necessarily Mean Emasculation
Shame Left Unattended Is Shame That Runs Us
Shame, Aggression, and Sex
Toward True Masculine Power
Part I: Orientation and Groundwork
Chapter 1: Tarzan Must Also Weep: Manhood ReEnvisioned
Longing to Belong
When Power Gets Derailed
Sex as an Initiation into Manhood
Neither Rejecting nor Succumbing to the Dark Side of Male Power
Chapter 2: Navigational Pointers: Things to Consider for the Journey
Shame
Vulnerability
Empathy
Emotional Literacy
Turning toward Your Pain
Distinguishing between Anger and Aggression
Distinguishing Thought from Feeling
There’s More to Sex than Meets the Eye
Connecting the Dots between Your Past and Present
De-Numbing
Chapter 3: Working with Shame: From Humiliation to Humility
Signs That Shame Is Present
Healthy and Unhealthy Expressions of Shame
Getting Better Acquainted with Your Shame
Shame and Performance
Shame and Aggression
Disempowering Your Inner Critic
How to Work with Your Shame
Chapter 4: Bringing Your Shadow Out of the Dark: Facing What You’ve Disowned in Yourself
Facing Your Shadow
Practice: Getting More Familiar with Your Shadow
Cultivating Intimacy with Your Shadow
Chapter 5: The Gift of Challenge: An Edge That Can Bring Out Your Best
Being at Your Edge
Cutting through Your Illusions
Challenge as a Relational Practice
Part II: Power and the Modern Man: Anger, Aggression, and the Hero
Chapter 6: Fighting for Power: From Overpowering to Empowering
Fight Club: Meeting Masculinity in the Bare-Knuckled Raw
A Deeper Empowerment
Chapter 7: Anger: Tending the Fire
Anger and Aggression Are Not the Same Thing!
Shifting from Aggression to Healthy Anger
Reactive Anger
Being Vulnerable in Your Anger
Four Approaches to Working with Anger
Practice: Anger-In, Anger-Out, Mindfully Held Anger, and Heart-Anger
Chapter 8: Aggression Unveiled: When You Shift into Attack Mode
Aggression as Instinct
Aggression as Social Construction
The Many Faces of Aggression
Antidotes to Aggression
An Integrative View of Aggression
Chapter 9: Violence: The Brass Knuckles of Aggression
A History of Violence
How We Relate to Our Violence
The Many Faces of War
Working with Violence
Chapter 10: The Hero: Courage, Pride, and Embodying Your Natural Heroism
Heroism in Avatar: A Full-Blooded Awakening
Courage: Having the Heart to Persist Regardless of Your Fear
Keeping a Compassionate Eye on Your Pride
The Presence and Evolution of the Hero
The Anti-Hero
The Hero as Human
Part III: Relational Intimacy
Chapter 11: Clearing the Relationship Hurdle: Some Preparatory Considerations
The Vulnerability and Challenges of Relating
Chapter 12: Relational Intimacy for Men: Relationship as a Sanctuary for Transforming Your Life
Essential Steps to Authentic Intimacy
Chapter 13: Deep Communication: When Dynamic Receptivity and Expression Work Together
The Way Back to Connection
Deep Listening
Chapter 14: Fighting for the Relationship: Transitioning to Shared Power
Chapter 15: What Women Need from Men: An Invitation to Be a Full Partner
Chapter 16: Gay Men: Outsiders No Longer
Chapter 17: Deep Connection: Foundational Practices for Intimate Relationship
Part IV: Sex
Chapter 18: Eros Illuminated: An Introductory Look at Sexuality
Chapter 19: Sex Uncovered: Freeing Your Sexuality from the Obligation to Make You Feel Better
The Selling of Sex
The Language of Sex
Bringing Sex Out of the Closet
Chapter 20: Eroticitis: Obsessive or Compulsive Interest in Sexual Activity and Possibility
Eroticitis and Sexual Excitation
Sex without Eroticitis
Chapter 21: Eroticizing Our Wounds: Acting Out Old Hurt through Sexual Channels
Why the Eroticizing of Our Wounds Gets Little Recognition
How the Eroticizing of Our Unresolved Hurt Happens
What Our Sexual Fantasies Dramatize
Chapter 22: Pornography Unplugged: Understanding and Outgrowing Porn
Pornography Illuminated
The Price of Being Possessed by a Pornographic Mindset
Facing the Pain That Drives Us toward Pornography
Outgrowing Pornography
Chapter 23: Taking Charge of Your Charge: Responsibility and Sexual Arousal
Chapter 24: The Penis: A Sensitive Topic
Chapter 25: Breasts: Mammary Mania
How the Original Appeal of Breasts Gets Eroticized
When Breast Fantasies Are Stripped of Their Eroticism
Moving beyond Breast Fixation
Chapter 26: Fully Facing Rape
Do All Men Have an Inner Rapist?
The Issue of Consent
Cutting the Ties to Rape
Chapter 27: Ecstatic Intimacy in the Raw: Awakened Sex
Part V: Wrapping Up
Chapter 28: Full-Spectrum Healing: Bringing Together All That You Are
When Your Past Occupies Your Present
Integrating Body, Mind, Emotion, Psyche, and Spirituality
Embodying Wholeness
Chapter 29: The Passage to Authentic Manhood: Your Flaws No Longer in the Way
Appendix: Having a Conscious Rant
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Further Reading from Robert Augustus Masters
About Sounds True
Copyright
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