Goodbye to Shy by Lowndes, Leil -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

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Cover Page Goodbye to Shy : 85 Shybusters That Work! Copyright Page Dedication Contents Preface 1 How to Deal with People Now Until Your Shyness Is Gone

1 Should I Tell People I’m Shy? 2 How Savvy Shys Get Out of a Situation They Can’t Face . . . Yet! 3 How to Battle the Blushing, Sweating, and Other Shy Signs 4 How to Talk to Yourself About Your Shyness 5 When the Going Gets Tough

2 What People Really Think of You

6 Can People Tell I’m Shy? 7 Take Off Your Mud-Colored Glasses 8 Slay the Memory Monsters 9 Avoid Toxic People 10 Smart Shys Don’t Play Stupid Games 11 The Movie Called “Me” 12 How to Handle a Past Bummer

3 Your Three-Step Game Plan

13 Hooked on Hide-and-Seek 14 Shave Years Off Your Suffering 15 The Wacky Confidence Warm-Up

4 The Seven Best Beginner’s ShyBusters

16 It’s Show Time! 17 So Who’s the Boss Here, Your Mind or Your Body? 18 Eye Contact Made Easy 19 The Clinically Proven Cure for “No Eye Contact” 20 A Quick Smile and a Slow Jet Get You Nowhere Fast 21 Snobs Don’t Smile 22 If at First You Don’t Succeed, Swear!

5 Four Rare ShyBusters That Work Wonders!

23 The Masked Shy 24 How Can I Help You? . . . Help Me 25 The Out-of-Town Caper 26 Dress as Your Fantasy Person

6 For Big-Time Sufferers: Get a (New) Life

27 Just Something to Consider

7 Parties and Other Places in Hell

28 Building Up to Big Bashes 29 Don’t Growl at the Guests 30 Personality Is Catching 31 Shys and Booze Don’t Mix

8 Fearless Conversation

32 Terrified to Be Trite? 33 What If I Have Nothing to Say? 34 Your Enthralling Answer to a Clichéd Query 35 Voice Quality Counts, Too 36 So, What Do I Say Next? 37 Using Their Name Says a Lot About You 38 It’s All Sooo Predictable 39 Your Turn for the Kick-Off 40 The Final Conversational “Gotta Do” 41 Some of the Best Conversationalists Never Open Their Mouths! 42 How to Forget Being Shy

9 Eight Advanced, Sure-Fire Shy Extinguishers

43 A Dare a Day Drives Shyness Away 44 Take a Bite Out of Shyness for Lunch 45 Shop ’til You . . . Stamp Out Shyness 46 Let Man’s Best Friend Lend You a Paw 47 Blooper Therapy 48 The Confidence “Stage” 49 Fast Audiotrack to Confidence

10 Sex and the Single Shy

50 The Lovin’ Is Easy—It’s the Gettin’ There That’s Hard 51 No Lookin’, No Lovin’ 52 Relationship Rehearsals 53 Computer Dating: A Shy’s Opportunity—or Trap? 54 Find People Who Share Your Passion 55 Two Sexy Little ShyBusters for “Almost Sures” 56 Enticing Attire for Shys 57 Don’t Mistake Sex for Love

11 For Parents and Shys Who Want to Know Why (and How to Prevent It!)

58 Born Shy? 59 Inherited Shyness? 60 Are You a Closet Extrovert or “Situational Shy”? 61 Bullies in Bygone Days? 62 Mom’s and Dad’s Overprotection?

12 Getting to Know Yourself and Love Yourself and Becoming a “Certified Sure”

63 Five Minutes a Day for a Priceless Gift 64 Graduation Day

Appendix A: Cheryl’s Full Letter Appendix B: 100 Self-Knowledge Questions Acknowledgments References Recommended Reading Index