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Index
Cover
ALSO BY JUDITH MARTIN
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication
Contents
LIST OF ILLUSTRATIONS
PREFACE
1. INTRODUCTION
Some Thoughts on the Impulse Rude and the Mannerly Way of Life
Gentle Readers Wrestle with Philosophical Problems Arising from the Great Study of Manners
On Manners and Morals
2. BIRTH
Prebirth Manners for Parents and Others
Showers
Announcements
Names
Baptisms and Circumcisions
Social Life Begins
Social Life Resumes
3. BASIC CIVILIZATION
CONCERNING CHILDREN
Manners toward Children
Manners for Children
Children’s Social Events
COMMON COURTESY FOR ALL AGES
Introductions and Greetings
Handshakes, Kisses and Other Introductory Gestures
Saying No: Silence as a Social Skill
Common Annoyances
Relations between the Genders
The Virtuous Life in Wicked Cities
Transportation
TABLE MANNERS
Methods
Family Dinner
Manners for Particular (and Ornery) Foods
SOCIAL INTERCOURSE
Vocabulary
Conversing (Rather than Communicating)
Conversational Hazards
ELECTRONIC COMMUNICATION (PERSONAL)
The Domestic Telephone
The Itinerant Telephone
The Internet
FAMILY RELATIONS
Family Crises
VISITING
HOUSEGUESTS
House-Sitting
UNPLEASANT FACTS OF LIFE
Major and Minor Illnesses
Messy Emotions and Minor Emotional Distress
Disgusting Habits
Citizen Participation
4. RITES DE PASSAGE
BAR AND BAT MITZVAHS, COMMUNIONS AND CONFIRMATIONS
GRADUATIONS AND REUNIONS
DEBUTS AND DANCES
COURTSHIP
Love Problems (from Bad to Worse)
Breaking Up
5. MARRIAGE (FOR BEGINNERS)
ENGAGEMENTS
FAMILIES AND FRIENDS
The Bride’s Family
The Bridegroom’s Family
New Family Nomenclature
The Attendants
WEDDINGS
Invitations and Responses
Announcements
Wedding Clothes
Wedding Procedure
Wedding Receptions
Photographs
Wedding Presents (and Of Course Thank-You Letters)
THE TROUSSEAU
Silver
China
Glass
Linens
THE WELL-APPOINTED HOUSE
6. WORK
INTERVIEWS, RECOMMENDATIONS AND RAISES
WORKPLACE ETIQUETTE
BUSINESS ENTERTAINING: NEITHER BUSINESSLIKE NOR ENTERTAINING
BUSINESS COMMUNICATIONS
Business Letters
Telephones
Email
Notebooks and Laptops
CUSTOMER SERVICE
When Things Go Wrong
Common Complaints
THE JOB ENDS
7. INTERMEDIATE CIVILIZATION
SOCIAL FORMS, SOME STUNNING AND OTHERS GHASTLY
INVITATIONS AND REPLIES
Responding
The Social Unit
Breaking Social Engagements
SOCIAL PROCEDURE
Social Disasters
Apologies
DINNER PARTIES
The Guest List
At Table
Adding the Guests
The Menu
Correct Service
SOCIAL CORRESPONDENCE
The Form
The Content
Greeting Cards and Christmas Letters
PRESENTS
DECENT DRESS FOR LADIES AND GENTLEMEN
Dressing for the Occasion
Controversial Clothing
Confusing Clothing
Children’s Dress
Jewelry and Other Adornments
8. EVER AFTER
DIVORCE
Announcements and Demeanor
The Children
MARRIAGE TWO (PREREQUISITE: MARRIAGE FOR BEGINNERS)
ANNIVERSARIES
9. ADVANCED CIVILIZATION
PROTOCOL
THE WHITE HOUSE
THE LARGE HOUSEHOLD
CELEBRITY AND PUBLICITY
PLAY
Culture
Sports
Clubs
Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Stimulants
Restaurants
Travel
Vacation Trips
Holidays
10. DEATH
FUNERALS
BEREAVEMENT
CONDOLENCES
11. ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS NOBODY ASKED
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
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