Children of the Aging Self-Absorbed by Brown, Nina W. -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Contents Preface Acknowledgments Aging and the Self-Absorbed Parent

Dennis’s Story Some Assumptions About You Why Your Parent’s Aging Matters Your Parent’s Self-Absorbed Characteristics Healthy and Constructive Adult Narcissism How Your Parent’s Aging Impacts You Some Short-Term Suggestions Summary

Types of Self-Absorbed Parents

Your Parent’s Impact on You Four Self-Absorbed Parent Types Summary

Why You React as You Do

Understanding Your Reactions Moderating Your Feelings Observing Reaction Patterns Different Responses and Outcomes Why Your Response Pattern Matters Summary

Changing Your Thinking to Change Your Response

The Fantasy That Holds You Back Reducing Ineffective Responses Managing Your Distress with Distractors Managing Your Distress with Affirmations Changing Your Thinking Summary

General Coping Strategies

Managing and Coping Summary

Coping Strategies for Clingy and Suspicious/Defensive Types

Aging and Clingy The Suspicious/Defensive Type Summary

Coping Strategies for Arrogant and Belligerent Types

The Arrogant Type The Belligerent Type Summary

Managing Conflict and Assaultive Confrontations

How You Perceive Conflict Respond More Effectively Coping Strategies Summary

Protecting Your Self

Old Parental Messages Reinforcing Your Inner Self Learning Protective Actions Summary

Protecting Others

Why It Can Be Difficult to Explain to Others Your Personal Preparation Strategic Planning Protective Strategies Summary

Winning and Thriving

What You Can Do to Achieve Success and Thrive Summary