The Everything Parent's Guide to Dealing with Bullies by Carpenter, Deborah -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Title Page Title Page Copyright Page Dedication Contents INTRODUCTION CHAPTER 1: What Is Bullying?

Definition of Bullying History of Bullying Facts and Statistics Common Markers of Bullying Bullying Versus Normal Conflict Why Most People Underestimate the Impact of Bullying The Triad: The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander

CHAPTER 2: Types of Bullying

Verbal Bullying Physical Bullying Social, Relational, and Emotional Bullying Extortion Direct Bullying Versus Indirect Bullying Cyber Bullying

CHAPTER 3: Types of Bullies

Confident Social Detached Hyperactive Bullied Bully Bunch of Bullies Gang of Bullies

CHAPTER 4: The Bully

Characteristics of a Bully Why Do Some Kids Bully? The Bully’s Role in the Triad The Stereotypical Bully Common Places Bullying Occurs The Mean Bully The Meaner Bully The Meanest Bully

CHAPTER 5: The Bullied

Characteristics of a Bullied Child The Bullied Child’s Role in the Triad The Making of a Victim: F-E-A-R Why Me? Why Victims Don’t Tell The Victim Who also Becomes a Bully

CHAPTER 6: The Bystander

Characteristics of a Bystander The Bystander’s Role in the Triad Bystander Roles Why Bystanders Don’t Tell Why Bystanders Aren’t Innocent How Bystanders Can Stop Bullying

CHAPTER 7: Factors That Lead to Bullying Behavior

Violence in the Family Lack of a Positive Role Model Violent Television Violent Video Games Prior Victim of a Bully School Failure Peer Rejection School Climate

CHAPTER 8: Common Bullying Myths

Myth 1: Bullying Is a Normal Rite of Passage Myth 2: Kids Need to Learn to Defend Themselves Myth 3: Children Who Are Bullied Always Tell an Adult Myth 4: People Are Born Bullies Myth 5: Bullying Doesn’t Happen at My Child’s School Myth 6: Bullies Are Loners with No Social Skills Myth 7: Bullying Is a School Problem

CHAPTER 9: Warning Signs That Your Child Is Being Bullied

Physical Clues Psychological Clues Educational Clues Most Likely Targets How to Respond (Dos and Don’ts) Steps to Take if Your Child Is Being Bullied

CHAPTER 10: The Consequences of Bullying

Physical Emotional Educational Short-Term Effects of Being Bullied Long-Term Effects of Being Bullied How Parents Can Help

CHAPTER 11: Boy Bullies

The Boys-Will-Be-Boys Myth The Danger of Stereotypes Physical Aggression Boys Bullying Girls Why Boys Bully Other Boys How Parents Can Help

CHAPTER 12: Girl Bullies

Verbal Bullying When Girls Get Violent Group Bullying Why Girls Bully Other Girls The Good-Girl Persona How Parents Can Help The Ophelia Project

CHAPTER 13: How to Bully Proof Your Child

Teaching Social Skills Ways to Improve Your Child’s Self-Esteem Teach Your Child How to Be a Friend Encourage and Foster One Good Friendship Allow Your Child to Join a Group Enroll Your Child in a Self-Defense Class Teach Basic Prevention Skills

CHAPTER 14: Social Skills and Assertiveness Training

Why Your Child Needs Social-Skills Training The Most Essential Social Skills For Kids Body Language Voice Quality Conversational Skills Friendship Skills Assertiveness Skills

CHAPTER 15: Parental Responsibility and Why Getting Involved Can Help Enact Change

Fear of Making the Situation Worse Embarrassed by a Bullied Child Kids Beg Parents Not to Tell Parents Fear Being Seen as Overprotective Parents Want the Child to Stand Up for Herself Reasons Why Bullying Should Always Be Reported What Works in Bullying Prevention?

CHAPTER 16: Cyber Bullying

Types of Cyber Bullying Why Cyber Bullying Has Become such a Problem You Can’t See Me, I Can’t See You Impact of Cyber Bullying Signs of Cyber Bullying Ways to Protect Your Child Responding to Cyber Bullying200 Prevent Your Child from Being a Cyber Bully

CHAPTER 17: What if My Child Is a Bully?

Signs that Your Child Might Be a Bully204 Keep an Open Mind205 Intervention206 Teaching Your Child Friendship and Interpersonal Skills Create More Feel-Good and Do-Good Opportunities Engage in Constructive, Supervised Activities and Sports Limit Exposure to Violent Media

CHAPTER 18: Bullying Among Children with Special Needs

Are Schools Protecting Your Children? Is Your Child Vulnerable? New Threat to Kids: Food-Allergy Taunts What Is Disability Harassment? What You Can Do if It Doesn’t Stop What to Do if Your Child Is Being Bullied Is Legal Action Necessary?

CHAPTER 19: When Bullying Becomes a Crime

Do You Know the Law in Your State? Directives in Bullying Laws Definition of Bodily Injury or Threat of Bodily Injury Dealing with Uncooperative School Officials Filing a Complaint Resolution Bullying Prevention Programs

CHAPTER 20: Why Zero Tolerance Policies Don’t Work

What Is a Zero Tolerance Policy? Why Zero Tolerance Actually Decreases Reports Student Exclusion Policies Bullies Need Intervention and Positive Role Models Other Misdirected Policies What Policies and Programs Should Be Implemented?

CHAPTER 21: How Students, Parents, Schools, and Communities Can Work Together

Identify the Extent of the Problem Create an Awareness Campaign Implement Educational Programs Start a Peer-Counseling Program254 Specify Classroom Rules Practice Cooperative Learning Activities Increase Supervision in High-Risk Areas Whole-School Policies

APPENDIX A: Glossary APPENDIX B: Resources APPENDIX C: Existing Anti-Bullying Education and Prevention Programs APPENDIX D: Anti-Bully Pledge for Use in the Classroom