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Index
Cover
Title Page
Permissions
Dedication
Acknowledgments
Contents
Part One - Adoption Through the Eyes of a Child
Chapter 1 - Hidden Losses
Chapter 2 - Entering Your Child’s World
Part Two - Twenty Things Your Adopted Child Wants You to Know
Chapter 3 - “I Suffered a Profound Loss Before I Was Adopted. You Are Not Responsible.”
Chapter 4 - “I Need to Be Taught That I Have Special Needs Arising From Adoption Loss, of Which I Need Not Be Ashamed.”
Chapter 5 - “If I Don’t Grieve My Loss. My Ability to Receive Love From You and Others Will Be Hindered.”
Chapter 6 - “My Unresolved Grief May Surface in Anger Toward You.”
Chapter 7 - “I Need Your Help in Grieving My Loss. Teach Me How to Get in Touch With My Feelings About My Adoption and Then Validate Them.”
Chapter 8 - “Just Because I Don’t Talk About My Birth Family Doesn’t Mean I Don’t Think About Them.”
Chapter 9 - “I Want You to Take the Initiative in Opening Conversations About My Birth Family.”
Chapter 10 - “I Need to Know the Truth About My Conception, Birth, and Family History, No Matter How Painful the Details May Be.”
Chapter 11 - “I Am Afraid I Was ‘Given Away’ by My Birth Mother Because I Was a Bad Baby. I Need You to Help Me Dump My Toxic Shame.”
Chapter 12 - “I Am Afraid You Will Abandon Me.”
Chapter 13 - “I May Appear More ‘Whole’ Than I Actually Am. I Need Your Help to Uncover the Parts of Myself That I Keep Hidden So I Can Integrate All the Elements of My Identity.”
Chapter 14 - “I Need to Gain a Sense of Personal Power.”
Chapter 15 - “Please Don’t Say I Look or Act Just Like You to Acknowledge and Celebrate Our Differences.”
Chapter 16 - “Let Me Be My Own Person … But Don’t Let Me Cut Myself Off From You.”
Chapter 17 - “Please Respect My Privacy Regarding My Adoption. Don’t Tell Other People Without My Consent.”
Chapter 18 - “Birthdays May Be Difficult for Me.”
Chapter 19 - “Not Knowing My Full Medical History Can Be Distressing at Times.”
Chapter 20 - “I Am Afraid I Will Be Too Much for You to Handle.”
Chapter 21 - “When I Act Out My Fears in Obnoxious Ways, Please Hang in There With Me, and Respond Wisely.”
Chapter 22 - “Even If I Decide to Search for My Birth Family, I Will Always Want You to Be My Parents.”
Appendix
Bibliography
Copyright
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