Contents 

Foreword by Thomas Moore

Introduction

• Part 1: Why We Need to Let Go of “Good”
  and Learn to Be Genuine Instead
• 1 Becoming Genuine
• 2 Understanding Projection, Introjection, and the
  Good-Guy Identity
• 3 Reinforcements:
  Empathy and Bargaining
• 4 The Importance of Self
• Part 2: Becoming Aware of the Falsehoods
  That Hold Us Back
• 5 Give Them the
  Benefit of the Doubt
• 6 I’m Just a Giver
• 7 Life’s Purpose
  Is Helping Others
• 8 You Are Selfish If …
• 9 Do Not Judge
• 10 To Love Is to Trust
• 11 Guilt Is a Good Thing
• 12 Innocence Is Sacred
• 13 You Are Responsible
  for How I Feel
• 14 The Lie of Loyalty
• 15 Do Your Duty
• 16 I Should Love Them Unconditionally
• 17 I Should Forgive Them
• 18 I Should Always Smile
• 19 Be the Bigger Person
• 20 When the Good
  Guy Misuses Others
• Part 3: Healing: Making Friends
  with Difficult Emotions
• 21 Understanding
  the Inner World: Your
  Internal Messaging System
• 22 My Friend, Resentment
• 23 My Friend, Anger
• 24 My Friend, Fear
• 25 My Friend, Sorrow
• Part 4: Healing: Making Friends
  with Your Personal Powers
• 26 My Friend, Intuition
• 27 My Friend, Discernment
• 28 My Friend, Desire
• Part 5: What to Expect from
  the Overall Healing Process
• 29 The Differentiation/
  Integration Process
• 30 Practice That
  Becomes Process
• 31 Arriving at Peace

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