notes

introduction

1. Douglas Gentile and David Walsh, A Normative Study of Family Media Habits (Minneapolis: National Institute on Media and the Family, 2002), quoted in ParentFurther, “E-Parenting: Media and Advertising,” www.parentfurther.com.

2. Andy Andrews, The Noticer (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2011, 111).

chapter one: screen time: too much, too soon?

1. American Academy of Pediatrics, “Policy Statement: Media Use by Children Younger than 2 Years,” American Academy of Pediatrics (2011) http://pediatrics.aappublications.org.

2. K. Nelson, “Structure and Strategy in Learning to Talk,” Monographs of the Society for Research in Child Development, 38, no. 1–2 (1973): 1–35; and D. L. Linebarger and D. Walker, “Infants’ and Toddlers’ Television Viewing and Language Outcomes,” American Behavioral Scientist, 48, no. 5 (2005): 624–45.

3. F. J. Zimmerman, D. A. Christakis, and A. N. Meltzoff, “Television and DV/Video Viewing in Children Younger than 2 Years,” Archives of Pediatric and Adolescent Medicine, 161, no. 5 (2007): 473–79.

4. E. A. Vandewater et al., “When the Television Is Always On,” American Behavioral Scientist, 48, no. 5 (2005): 562–77.

5. M. E. Schmidt et al., “The Effects of Background Television on the Toy Play Behavior of Very Young Children,” Child Development, 79, no. 4 (2008): 1137–51.

6. V. J. Rideout and E. Hamel, The Media Family: Electronic Media in the Lives of Infants, Toddlers, Preschoolers, and Their Parents (Menlo Park, CA: Kaiser Family Foundation, 2006).

7. V. J. Rideout, U. G. Foehr, and D. F. Roberts, “Generation M2: Media in the Lives of 8- to 18-Year-Olds,” Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation, January 20, 2010, http://kff.org.

8. “Too Much ‘Screen Time’ for Kids Could Cause Long-Term Brain Damage, Warn Experts,” Huffington Post UK, May 22, 2012, www.huffingtonpost.co.uk.

9. American Heart Association, “Many Teens Spend 30 Hours a Week on ‘Screen Time’ during High School,” Science Daily, March 14, 2008, www.sciencedaily.com.

10. Dr. Kathy Koch, “Parenting Tech-Savvy Children: Negative Effects of Digital Technology,” Hearts at Home conference, 2013.

11. American Academy of Pediatrics, “Media and Children,” policy statement, www.aap.org.

12. A. O. Scott and Manohla Dargis, “Big Bang Theories: Violence on Screen,” New York Times, February 28, 2013, www.nytimes.com.

chapter two: the A+ method for relational kids

1. National Center for Biotechnology Information, U.S. National Library of Medicine, research date January 1, 2014, quoted in “Attention Span Statistics,” statisticsbrain.com.

chapter three: the A+ skill of affection

1. Mary Bellis, “The Invention of Television,” About.com Inventors, www.inventors.about.com.

2. V. J. Rideout and E. Hamel, The Media Family: Electronic Media in the Lives of Infants, Toddlers, Preschoolers, and Their Parents (Menlo Park, CA: Kaiser Family Foundation, 2006).

3. Shane Hipps, Flickering Pixels (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2009), 183.

4. Gwenn Schurgin O’Keefe and Kathleen Clarke-Pearson for the American Academy of Pediatrics, “The Impact of Social Media on Children, Adolescents, and Families,” Pediatrics Digest, March 28, 2011, www.pediatricsdigest.mobi/content.

5. Diane Swanbrow, “Empathy: College Students Don’t Have as Much as They Used To,” MichiganNews, University of Michigan, May 27, 2010, http://ns.umich.edu.

6. The American Academy of Pediatrics, “Media Education,” Pediatrics, September 27, 2010, http://pediatrics.aapublications.org.

7. Anita Chandra et al., for the American Academy of Pediatrics, “Does Watching Sex on Television Predict Teen Pregnancy?” Pediatrics Digest, November 1, 2008, http://pediatrics.aapublications.org.

8. The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, Sex and Tech: What’s Really Going On (Washington, DC: National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, 2013), www.thenationalcampaign.org.

9. Jocelyn Green, email interview, September 4, 2013.

chapter four: the A+ skill of appreciation

1. Shawn Achor, The Happiness Advantage (New York: Crown Business, 2010), 7.

2. Melinda Beck, “Thank You. No, Thank You: Grateful People Are Happier, Healthier Long after the Leftovers Are Gobbled Up,” Wall Street Journal, November 23, 2010, http://online.wsj.com.

3. C. Nathan DeWall et al., “A Grateful Heart Is a Nonviolent Heart: Cross-Sectional, Experience Sampling, Longitudinal, and Experimental Evidence,” Social Psychological & Personality Science vol. 3, no. 2, March 2012, 232–40, http://spp.sagepub.com.

4. Eun Kyung Kim, “Teen Uses Tweets to Compliment His Classmates,” Today News, January 8, 2013, www.today.com.

chapter five: the A+ skill of anger management

1. American Academy of Pediatrics Council on Communications and Media, “Policy Statement: Media Education,” Pediatrics, November 1, 2010, http://pediatrics.aapublications.org.

2. M. E. Hamburger et al., Measuring Bullying Victimization, Perpetration, and Bystander Experiences: A Compendium of Assessment Tools (Atlanta: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, 2011), www.cdc.gov.

chapter six: the A+ skill of apology

1. This chapter is based on When Sorry Isn’t Enough by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas (Chicago: Moody, 2013). This book is an update of the authors’ The Five Languages of Apology.

chapter seven: the A+ skill of attention

1. Statistic Brain, “Attention Span Statistics,” January 1, 2014, www.statisticsbrain.com.

2. Nicholas Carr, The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains (New York: W. W. Norton, 2011), 87.

3. Kendra Cherry, “What’s the Best Predictor of School Success?” About.com Psychology, March 2, 2009, http://psychology.about.com.

4. Kathryn Zickuhr, “In a Digital Age, Parents Value Printed Books for Their Kids,” Pew Internet & American Life Project, May 28, 2013, http://libraries.pewinternet.org.

5. Carr, The Shallows, 116.

6. Rutherford Elementary School, “Reading at Home,” February 11, 2014, http://rutherford.jefferson.kyschools.us.

7. American Academy of Pediatrics, “Video Games Linked to Attention Problems in Children,” press release, July 5, 2010, www.aap.org.

8. Bob Sullivan and Hugh Thompson, “Brain Interrupted,” New York Times, May 3, 2013, www.nytimes.com.

9. Christine Rosen, “The Myth of Multitasking,” New Atlantis, spring 2008, www.thenewatlantis.com.

10. Ibid.

11. Ibid.

12. Statistic Brain. “Attention Span Statistics,” January 1, 2014, www.statisticsbrain.com.

13. Bob Sullivan and Hugh Thompson, “Brain Interrupted,” New York Times, May 3, 2013, www.nytimes.com.

14. Kenneth R. Ginsburg et al., for the American Academy of Pediatrics, “The Importance of Play in Promoting Healthy Child Development and Maintaining Strong Parent-Child Bonds,” Pediatrics, January 1, 2007, http://pediatrics.aappublications.org.

15. Carr, The Shallows, 219.

chapter eight: screen time and shyness

1. M. Burstein et al., “Shyness versus Social Phobia in U.S. Youth,” Pediatrics, November 2011, www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov.

2. Mayo Clinic, “Children and TV: Limiting Your Child’s Screen Time,” Mayo Clinic E-Newsletter, August 16, 2013, www.mayoclinic.org.

3. Marla E. Eisenberg et al. “Correlations between Family Meals and Psychosocial Well-being among Adolescents, JAMA Pediatrics, August 2004, http://archpedi.jamanetwork.com.

4. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “Childhood Obesity Facts,” July 10, 2013, www.cdc.gov.

5. Sue Hubbard, MD, “Kids, Media, and Obesity: Too Much ‘Screen Time’ Can Harm Your Child’s Health,” Chicago Tribune, September 30, 2013, www.chicagotribune.com.

chapter nine: screen time and the brain

1. Kurt W. Fischer, William T. Greenough, Daniel Siegel, and Paul Thompson, “Inside the Teenage Brain,” Frontline, WTTW: Chicago, 2002, www.pbs.org.

2. John Bruer, Mary Carskadon, and Ellen Galinsky, “Inside the Teenage Brain,” Frontline, WTTW: Chicago, 2002, www.pbs.org.

3. Nicholas Carr, The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains (New York: W. W. Norton), 121.

4. Matt Richtel, “Silicon Valley School Sticks to Basics, Shuns High-Tech Tools,” New York Times, October 23, 2011, www.boston.com.

5. Eun Kyung Kim, “Bill Gates: My Kids Get Cell Phone at Age 13,” Today News, January 30, 2013.

6. Dr. Archibald D. Hart and Dr. Sylvia Hart Frejd, The Digital Invasion: How Technology Is Shaping You and Your Relationships (Grand Rapids: Baker, 2013), 60.

7. Carr, The Shallows, 51.

8. Ibid., 77.

9. Chelsea Clinton and James P. Steyer, “Is the Internet Hurting Chilren?” CNN Opinion, May 21, 2012, www.cnn.com.

10. Hart and Frejd, The Digital Invasion, 63.

11. Jenn Savedge, “Is Your Child Addicted to Screens?” Mother Nature Network, August 12, 2013, www.thestar.com.

12. BBC News, “S. Korean Dies after Games Session” August 10, 2005, http://news.bbc.co.uk.

13. Hart and Frejd, The Digital Invasion, 124.

14. Kayt Sukel, “Playing Video Games May Make Specific Changes to the Brain,” Dana Foundation News, January 9, 2012, www.dana.org.

15. Carr, The Shallows, 32.

16. Hart and Frejd, The Digital Invasion, 65.

17. R. Morgan Griffin, “Your Kid’s Brain on Exercise,” WebMD, May 8, 2013, www.webmd.com.

18. Benjamin Carson, Brainyquote.com.

chapter eleven: screen time and security

1. Nanci Hellmich, “Death of a Florida Girl Is a Wake-up Call for Parents,” USA Today, October 16, 2013, www.usatoday.com.

2. i-SAFE, “Cyber Bullying: Statistics and Tips,” 2004 data, www.isafe.org.

3. Peter Brust et al., “Growing Up Online,” Frontline, January 22, 2008, www.pbs.org.

4. Ibid.

5. Ibid.

6. Britney Fitzgerald, “Facebook Age Requirement,” Huffington Post, November 30, 2012.

7. Daily Infographic, “The Stats on Internet Pornography,” January 4, 2013, http://dailyinfographic.com.

8. V. J. Rideout, U. G. Foehr, and D. F. Roberts, “Generation M2: Media in the Lives of 8- to 18-Year-Olds,” Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation, January 20, 2010, http://kff.org.

chapter twelve: screen time and parental authority

1. Dan Kloeffler and Nick Poppy, “Bill Cosby: ‘I Wanted to Take the House Back’ from Kids,” Newsmakers, June 15, 2013, http://news.yahoo.com.

chapter thirteen: screen time and the single parent

1. Jonathan Vespa et al. “America’s Families and Living Arrangements: 2012,” August 2013, www.census.gov.

2. Mayo Clinic, “Children and TV: Limiting Your Child’s Screen Time,” August 16, 2013, www.mayoclinic.com.

3. V. J. Rideout and E. Hamel, The Media Family: Electronic Media in the Lives of Infants, Toddlers, Preschoolers, and Their Parents (Menlo Park, CA: Kaiser Family Foundation, 2006).

chapter fourteen: screen time and you

1. College pastor, quoted by Archibald Hart and Sylvia Hart Freud, Digital Invasion (Grand Rapids: Baker, 2013), 30.

2. James Fallows, “Linda Stone on Maintaining Focus in a Maddeningly Distractive World,” Atlantic, May 23, 2013, www.theatlantic.com.

3. Dallas Theological Seminary, “Howard Hendricks Tribute,” February 2013, www.dts.edu.

4. Beth Teitell, “Dad, Can You Put Away the Laptop?” Boston Globe, March 8, 2012, www.boston.com.

5. Beth Kassab, “Are You Addicted to Your Smartphone?” Orlando Sentinel, November 25, 2013, http://articles.orlandosentinel.com.

6. Pew Research, “Mobile Technology Fact Sheet,” Pew Research Internet Project, December 27, 2013.

7. William Powers, Hamlet’s BlackBerry: A Practical Philosophy for Building a Good Life in the Digital Age (New York: Harper, 2010), 228–29, 230–31.

8. Dan Ariely, “Ask Ariely: On Pointless Gaming, Topics and Teachers, and Getting Over It,” Wall Street Journal, November 23, 2013, http://danariely.com.

conclusion: a tale of two homes

1. Dan Zevin, “A Ride in Dad’s Traveling Think Tank,” Wall Street Journal, July 16, 2012.