Index

acceptance, 110, 111

accomplishments, 86–87

adrenaline, 42

agency, 112–113

Alzheimer’s disease, 43

amygdala, 5, 20, 24

anger, 7, 68

anxiety

about screwing up, 87

causes of, 44

and cognitive functioning, 112

and empathic concern, 24–25

and feeling overwhelmed, 67, 69

and prevention focus, 87–88

attention. See also awareness; focus/focusing

to breathing, 69

control over, 11, 14–18

and creativity, 34

directing, 3

and distractions, 55–61

and excellence, 36

exercises to strengthen, 8–9

focusing your, 3–4, 68–70

and leadership, 35–36

management of, 121–130

and mindfulness, 47–48

modes of, 3–4

phases of, 57–60

and power hierarchy, 29–30

selective, 9, 34

to social context, 28

word origins of, 18

attention economy, 134

Authentic Leadership Development course, 10–11

authentic self, 4, 7, 10–11

automated social hierarchy detection, 30

auto-responders, 124, 126. See also email

awareness

defined, 136

expanding your, 8–9

open, 7, 10–13, 34

self-awareness, 5, 6–7, 10–11, 20, 44–45. See also emotional intelligence

systems, 34–35

backup roles, 129

boundaries, 70–71, 78–80, 114

brain

amygdala, 5, 20, 24

and creativity, 33

effects of stress on, 43

and empathy, 20–21, 24, 26–27

and focus, 67, 143–150

gamma waves, 33

hippocampus, 20, 28–29

hypothalamus, 20

limbic, 112

neural networks, 33

orbitofrontal cortex, 20

positive mood and, 13

prefrontal cortex, 11, 24, 26–29, 112

resting the, 46–47

and social sensitivity, 28–29

training to focus better, 134–139

breathing, focusing on, 9, 69, 135

burnout, 43, 129

calm focus, 9

Calming Technology Lab, 9

choice, 112–113

chronic stress, 42–43

cognitive control, 11, 14–18

cognitive empathy, 19–20, 27, 28

communication

channels, choosing, 125–126

with colleagues and loved ones, 113–115

email, 75, 77, 78, 123–125, 136–137

timely responses to, 123–125, 126

commute, 138

compassion, 25, 99, 105, 115–116

compassion fatigue, 24

concentration, 8, 44, 55

control, 112–113. See also self-control

core values, 69–70, 104

cortisol, 42–43, 134

coworkers

communicating with, 113–115

as distractions, 66

interacting with, 71–73

creativity, 33–34, 144, 145, 146, 148–149

daydreaming, 145–147

deadlines

and productivity, 103

renegotiating, 114

decision making, 144, 145

default mode network (DMN), 67, 144–145

dementia, 43

digital detox, 46

diligence, 35–36

direct attention network, 67

distraction

boundaries against, 70–71, 78–80

case studies, 75–80

constant, 42, 65–66

costs of, 122

and coworkers, 71–73

email, 75, 77, 78, 123–125, 136–137

filtering out, 3, 44, 68–69

historical examples of, 56–57

and multitasking, 66–67

noticing, 57–60

principles to remember for, 74–75

resisting, 15, 104–105, 143

and self-care, 73

stress from, 43

structure of, 55–56, 60

susceptibility to, 16

at work, 65–82, 122

dopamine, 136–137

doubt, 87

email, 75, 77, 78, 123–125, 136–137

emergency monitoring, 128–129

emotional empathy, 19–23, 27

emotional exhaustion, 43

emotional intelligence, 4–5, 18, 35, 43–49

emotions

from feeling overwhelmed, 67–68

managing, 11, 14

observing and labeling, 111–112

empathy, 18–28

cognitive, 19–20, 27, 28

deficit, 35

emotional, 19–23, 27

empathic concern, 19, 21, 24–25

learning, 22

energy levels

and too much focus, 143–145

during work crunch, 109–116

Eriksen Flanker Task, 16

etiquette, 28

executive function, 11

exercise, 73, 100

exploitation, 32

exploration, 32

Facebook, 73, 76

fight-or-flight system, 112, 134

focus/focusing. See also attention; distraction; unfocus

and the brain, 67, 143–150

on breathing, 9, 69, 135

calm, 9

case study, 75–78

choosing, 58

defined, 136

and environment, 122–125

improving, 55–61

lack of, 43

losing, 41–45, 55

on others, 3, 4, 18–30, 48

prevention, 86–88

problems with, 121–130

promotion, 86–87

on strategy, 32–33

strengthening, 35–36

and success, 41

tips for, 97–105

on wider world, 3, 4, 31–35

on work, 85–93

during work crunch, 109–116

on yourself, 3, 3–18

frustration, 67, 100

future goals, 15

gamma waves, 33

Gates, Bill, 31

Gates, Melinda, 31

goals, future, 15

gut feelings, 5, 10

help, asking for, 114–115

hippocampus, 20, 28–29

hypothalamus, 20

identity, taking on different, 148–149

if-then planning, 91–92

information overload, 36

inner voice, 4–5

innovation, 33–34

inquisitiveness, 20

inspiration, 103

instant messaging, 125

insula, 5

interruptions. See distraction

intuition, 5, 10

inward focus, 3–18

knowledge work, 122

labeling, emotions, 111–112

leaders

and empathy, 19–26

focus of, 3–4, 35–37

natural, 18–19

with outward focus, 31

leadership

and attention, 35–36

and mindfulness, 143

skills, 36

tasks of, 3

and willpower, 11, 14

limbic brain, 112

loss avoidance, 87–88

loved ones, communicating with, 113–115

“marshmallow test,” 14

meditation, 8, 9, 57

meetings, 137

mental exhaustion, 42, 43

mind-body connection, 100

mindfulness, 17–18, 47–48, 57, 133–139, 143

moral judgments, 25

motivation, 86–90

multitasking, 66–67

naps, 147–148

negative thoughts, 111

neural networks, 33

office culture, 122–123

open awareness, 7, 10–13, 34

orbitofrontal cortex, 20

outlining, 102–103

outward focus, 18–35, 48

overseas assignments, 28

oxytocin, 24

personal interactions, 71–72

perspective, thinking from another person’s, 148–149

pessimism, 12–13

positive constructive daydreaming (PCD), 145–147

positive thinking, 12–13

power hierarchy, 29–30

prefrontal cortex, 11, 24, 26–29, 112

prevention focus, 86–88

priority setting, 113

procrastination, 85–93

productivity, 71–72, 77

productivity strategies, 97–106

promotion focus, 86–87

“psychological halloweenism,” 149

relationships, building, 26–30

resilience, 48, 144

resistance, 110

selective attention, 9, 34

self-awareness, 4–5, 6–11, 20, 44–45. See also emotional intelligence

self-care, 73, 77–78

self-compassion, 99, 105, 115–116

self-control

about, 11, 14–15

exercises to strengthen, 16–18

self-management, 46–49

self-reliance, 114–115

self-restraint, 15–18

self-revelation, 10–11

sensory impressions, 7

sleep

deprivation, 46–47

needs, 73, 77–78

social and emotional learning (SEL), 17–18

social contagion, 71–72

social context, 28

social hierarchy, 29–30

social media, 73, 76

social networks, 29

social relationships, 18

social sensitivity, 26–30

somatic markers, 5

StayFocused, 79–80

strategy, 32–33

stress

chronic, 42–43

and digital media, 46

distractions as source of, 66

hormones, 42, 134

management of, 43–49

negative effects of, 42–43

self-compassion during, 115–116

sources of, 44

success, 41

support, asking for, 114–115

support staff, 126–127

systems awareness, 34–35

systems monitoring, 128–129

teams, attention management problems in, 121–130

technology, as source of stress, 46

temporal-parietal junction, 26–27

Tenacity (video game), 8–9

time management, 76–78, 98, 121–130

True North groups, 10–11

unfocus, 144, 148–149

values, 69–70, 104

victim mentality, 112

vigilance, 34

waking up, 134–135

willpower, 11, 14–18, 91–92

work

crunches, focusing energy during, 109–116

making progress on, 101–105

practicing mindfulness at, 133–139

reasons for putting off, 85–93

routines, 90

workload, 42

workplace distractions, 65–82

work processes, 99–102