Table of Contents

Introduction What Is Relationship Sanity?

Part One Relationship Sanity versus Irrelationship

Chapter 1 Not Wanting What We Think We Want

Chapter 2 Drilldown: How Irrelationship Works

Chapter 3 Compassionate Empathy in Our Everyday Lives

Chapter 4 Self-Other Help

Chapter 5 Self-Other Assessment: The 40-20-40

Chapter 6 The 40-20-40: Relationship Sanity in Action

Chapter 7 Practical Applications of Compassionate Empathy

Chapter 8 Performer and Audience: How It Works

Part Two The Way of Relationship Sanity: The DREAM Sequence

Chapter 9 The DREAM Sequence: The Technique of Relationship Sanity

Chapter 10 Discovery

Chapter 11 Repair

Chapter 12 Empowerment

Chapter 13 Alternatives

Chapter 14 Mutuality

Conclusion The Road of Relationship Sanity

Acknowledgments

Notes

Bibliography

About the Authors