Chapter 1: The Unexpected Door to Joy
1. “Mr. Happy Man—Johnny Barnes,” YouTube, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v_EX5NzqNXc. See also Jarrod Stackelroth, “Mr. Happy Man,” Adventist Record, July 21, 2016, https://record.adventistchurch.com/2016/07/21/mr-happy-man/.
2. Kathy Caprino, “The Top 10 Things People Want in Life but Can’t Seem to Get,” Huffington Post, updated December 6, 2017, https://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathy-caprino/the-top-10-things-people-_2_b_9564982.html.
3. David Shimer, “Yale’s Most Popular Class Ever: Happiness,” New York Times, January 26, 2018, https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/26/nyregion/at-yale-class-on-happiness-draws-huge-crowd-laurie-santos.html.
4. Sonja Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness: A Practical Approach to Getting the Life You Want (London: Piatkus, 2007), 25.
5. Ed Diener, Carol Nickerson, Richard E. Lucas, Ed Sandvik, “Dispositional Affect and Job Outcomes,” Social Indicators Research 59, no. 3 (September 2002): 229–59, https://link.springer.com/article/10.1023/A:1019672513984.
6. Shana Lebowitz, “A New Study Finds a Key Component of Effective Leadership Is Surprisingly Simple,” Business Insider, August 19, 2015, http://www.businessinsider.com/why-happy-people-are-better-leaders-2015–8.
7. Alexandra Sifferlin, “Here’s How Happy Americans Are Right Now,” Time, July 26, 2017, http://time.com/4871720/how-happy-are-americans/.
8. Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness, 37.
9. Pamela Cowan, “Depression Will Be the Second Leading Cause of Disease by 2020: WHO,” Calgary Herald, October 7, 2010, http://www.calgaryherald.com/health/Depression+will+second+leading+cause +disease+2020/3640325/story.html.
10. Jean M. Twenge, “Why Adults Are Less Happy Than They Used to Be: But Young People Are Happier,” Psychology Today, November 6, 2015, https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/our-changing-culture/201511/why-adults-are-less-happy-they-used-be.
11. Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness, 20–21.
12. Melissa Dahl, “A Classic Psychology Study on Why Winning the Lottery Won’t Make You Happier,” The Cut, January 13, 2016, https://www.thecut.com/2016/01/classic-study-on-happiness-and-the-lottery.html.
13. Daniel Kahneman and Angus Deaton, “High Income Improves Evaluation of Life but Not Emotional Well-Being,” PNAS, August 4, 2010, p. 3, http://www.pnas.org/content/early/2010/08/27/1011492107.
14. Ed Diener, Jeff Horwitz, and Robert A. Emmons, “Happiness of the Very Wealthy,” Social Indicators Research 16, 263–74, https://emmons.faculty.ucdavis.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/90/2015/08/1985_1happiness-wealthy.pdf.
15. Carey Goldberg, quoting Daniel Gilbert, “Too Much of a Good Thing,” Boston Globe, February 6, 2006, http://archive.boston.com/yourlife/health/mental/articles/2006/02/06/too_much_of_a_good_thing/.
16. Berkeley Wellness, “What Is the Science of Happiness?” November 9, 2015, http://www.berkeleywellness.com/healthy-mind/mind-body/article/what-science-happiness.
17. Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness, 23.
18. Randy Alcorn, Happiness (Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale, 2015), 19.
Chapter 2: Gimme Five, Rocky
1. W. E. Vine, Vine’s Expository Dictionary of New Testament Words: A Comprehensive Dictionary of the Original Greek Words with Their Precise Meanings for English Readers (McLean, VA: MacDonald Publishing, n.d.), “Comfort, Comforter, Comfortless,” 209–10.
2. Vine, Vine’s Expository Dictionary, “Encourage, Encouragement,” 366.
3. Hara Estroff Marano, “Marriage Math,” Psychology Today, March 16, 2004, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200403/marriage-math.
4. Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman, “The Ideal Praise-to-Criticism Ratio,” Harvard Business Review, March 15, 2013, https://hbr.org/2013/03/the-ideal-praise-to-criticism.
5. Lynne Malcolm, “Scientific Evidence Points to Importance of Positive Thinking,” ABC RN, June 17, 2015, http://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/allinthemind/the-scientific-evidence-for-positive-thinking/6553614.
6. Quoted in Alan Loy McGinnis, The Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care For (Minneapolis: Augsburg, 1979), 69.
7. Andrew Shain, “As He Heads to the U.S. Senate, Tim Scott Praises Early Mentor,” Beaufort Gazette, July 2, 2013, http://www.islandpacket.com/news/local/community/beaufort-news/article33492450.html.
8. Vine, Vine’s Expository Dictionary, “Consider,” 231–32.
9. Gary Smalley and John Trent, Leaving the Light On: Building the Memories That Will Draw Your Kids Home (Sisters, OR: Multnomah, 1994), 27–28.
10. McGinnis, The Friendship Factor, 95.
Chapter 3: Don’t Pet the Peeves
1. W. E. Vine, Vine’s Expository Dictionary of New Testament Words: A Comprehensive Dictionary of the Original Greek Words with Their Precise Meanings for English Readers (McLean, VA: MacDonald Publishing, n.d.), “Longsuffering,” 694.
2. David Hocking, “The Patience of God,” Blue Letter Bible, https://www.blueletterbible.org/comm/hocking_david/attributes/attributes14.cfm.
3. Quoted in Alan Loy McGinnis, The Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care For (Minneapolis: Augsburg, 1979), 69.
4. Story contributed by Alice H. Cook, Reader’s Digest, December 1996, 140.
Chapter 4: The Sweet Sound of a Second Fiddle
1. Hannah Whitall Smith, The Christian’s Secret of a Holy Life: The Unpublished Personal Writings of Hannah Whitall Smith, ed. Melvin E. Dieter (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1994), 10–11.
Chapter 5: The Fine Art of Saying “Hello”
1. Deborah Norville, The Power of Respect: Benefit from the Most Forgotten Element of Success (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2009), 6–8.
2. John Henry Jowett, The Best of John Henry Jowett, ed. Gerald Kennedy (New York: Harper and Brothers, 1948), 89, https://archive.org/stream/bestofjohnhenryj012480mbp/bestofjohnhenryj012480mbp_djvu.txt).
3. Sonja Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness: A Practical Approach to Getting the Life You Want (London: Piatkus, 2007), 150–51.
4. Kasley Killam, “A Hug a Day Keeps the Doctor Away,” Scientific American, March 17, 2015, https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/a-hug-a-day-keeps-the-doctor-away/.
5. John Stott, Romans: God’s Good News for the World (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity, 1994), 395.
6. “Aristobulus,” Bible Hub, http://biblehub.com/topical/a/aristobulus.htm.
7. E. Badian, “Narcissus: Roman Official,” Encyclopaedia Britannica, http://www.britannica.com/biography/narcissus-roman-official.
8. This is believed because Mark, whose gospel was written in or for Rome, is the only Evangelist who mentions the names of Simon’s sons and does so in a way as to imply they were already known. See Mark 15:21.
9. “Sumter County Church Chronology,” June 1965 entry, http://www.sumtercountyhistory.com/church/SC_ChurchChr.htm.
Chapter 6: The Power Posture
1. “Science Proves the Healing Power of Prayer,” NewsmaxHealth, March 31, 2015, https://www.newsmax.com/health/headline/prayer-health-faith-medicine/2015/03/31/id/635623/.
2. Eben Alexander, Proof of Heaven: A Neurosurgeon’s Journey into the Afterlife (New York: Simon and Schuster, 2012), 38, 45–46, 103.
3. Dan Pratt, Tears on the Church House Floor (Bloomington, IN: WestBow, 2018), 74–76.
Chapter 7: It’s Your Serve
1. “The United Healthcare/Volunteer Match Do Good Live Well Study,” March 2010: 19, 33, 43, https://cdn.volunteermatch.org/www/about/UnitedHealthcare_VolunteerMatch_Do_Good_Live_Well_Study.pdf.
2. Bernard Rimland, “The Altruism Paradox,” Psychological Reports 51, no. 2 (October 1982): 521–2, http://www.amscie.pub.com/doi/abs/10.2466/pr0.1982.51.2.521, quoted in Randy Alcorn, Happiness (Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale, 2015), 291.
Chapter 8: Discomfort Zones
1. W. E. Vine, Vine’s Expository Dictionary of New Testament Words: A Comprehensive Dictionary of the Original Greek Words with Their Precise Meanings for English Readers (McLean, VA: MacDonald Publishing, n.d.), “Pharisees,” 863.
2. John Stott, Romans: God’s Good News for the World (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity, 1994), 359.
3. Told to me in person and used by permission.
4. Quoted in Alan Loy McGinnis, The Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care For (Minneapolis: Augsburg, 1979), 70.
5. Email correspondence to me from Brian Reed on February 21, 2016. Used by permission.
6. Mark Rutland, Streams of Mercy: Receiving and Reflecting God’s Grace (Ann Arbor, MI: Servant Publications, 1999), 39.
Chapter 9: Speak Up
1. W. E. Vine, Vine’s Expository Dictionary of New Testament Words: A Comprehensive Dictionary of the Original Greek Words with Their Precise Meanings for English Readers (McLean, VA: MacDonald Publishing, n.d.), “Admonition, Admonish,” 32.
Chapter 10: You’ve Been Bustered
1. “Peace of Mind,” a sociological study conducted by Duke University, cited in Rudy A. Magnan, Reinventing American Education: Applying Innovative and Quality Thinking to Solving Problems in Education (Bloomington, IN: Xlibris, 2010), 23. These are the other four: 1. Staying involved with the living world. 2. Cultivating old-fashioned virtues: love, humor, compassion, and loyalty. 3. Not expecting too much of oneself. 4. Finding something bigger than oneself to believe in.
2. Charlotte vanOyen Witvliet, Thomas E. Ludwig, and Kelly L. Vander Laan, “Granting Forgiveness or Harboring Grudges: Implications for Emotion, Physiology, and Health,” Psychological Science 12, no. 2 (March 2001): 117–23, https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/images/uploads/VanOyenWitvliet-GrantingForgiveness.pdf.
3. “John Wesley,” Bible.org, https://bible.org/illustration/john-wesley-1.
4. Jayson Casper in Cairo, “Forgiving ISIS: Christian ‘Resistance’ Videos Go Viral in Arab World,” ChristianityToday.com, March 17, 2015, http://www.christianitytoday.com/gleanings/2015/march/forgiving-isis-christian-resistance-viral-video-sat7-myriam.html.
Chapter 11: Be Loved, Then Love
1. Ian Fisher, “Fingers That Keep the Most Treasured Violins Fit,” New York Times, June 3, 2007, https://www.nytimes.com/2007/06/03/world/europe/03cremona.html. See also Martin Gani, “The Violin-Makers of Cremona,” Italy Magazine, January 20, 2012, http://www.italymagazine.com/featured-story/violin-makers-cremona.
2. W. E. Vine, Vine’s Expository Dictionary of New Testament Words: A Comprehensive Dictionary of the Original Greek Words with Their Precise Meanings for English Readers (McLean, VA: MacDonald Publishing, n.d.), “Love,” 702.
3. Vine, “Made,” 709–10.
The Next Step
1. John Feinstein, “How Jake Olson of USC Became the Most Famous Long Snapper in College Football,” Washington Post, September 5, 2017, https://www.washingtonpost.com/sports/colleges/how-jake-olson-of-usc-became-the-most-famous-long-snapper-in-college-football/2017/09/05/900672f0–923a-11e7–8754-d478688d23b4_story.html?utm_term=.0a4b2ae5befb.
Questions for Reflection
1. Bible Study Tools, s.v. “parakaleo,” https://www.biblestudytools.com/lexicons/greek/nas/parakaleo.html.
2. Craig S. Keener, The IVP Bible Background Commentary: New Testament (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity, 1993), 448.
3. “3560. Noutheteó,” Bible Hub, https://biblehub.com/greek/3560.htm.
4. Henri J. M. Nouwen, Life of the Beloved: Spiritual Living in a Secular World (New York: Crossroad Publishing, 1992), 77.