Contents

Preface

Introduction

Part One: Making Friends in Yourself

1. Steps toward Finding the Felt Sense

  Exercise 1.1: GAP: Grounded Aware Presence

  Exercise 1.2: Friendly Attending

  Exercise 1.3: Noticing “Something”

2. Gateways into the Felt Sense

  Exercise 2.1: From Physical Sensations to Felt Senses

  Exercise 2.2: Dropping the Story Line

3. The Feeling beneath the Feeling

  Exercise 3.1: The Feeling beneath the Feeling

4. Cultivating Felt Senses

  Exercise 4.1: “How’s It Going?”

  Exercise 4.2: Noticing What Your Body Is Already Holding

  Exercise 4.3: “What Wants My Attention Just Now?”

5. Working with Situations

  Exercise 5.1: Starting with a Situation

6. Bringing the Felt Sense into Focus

  Exercise 6.1: Describing the Felt Sense

7. Requesting Insight from the Felt Sense

  Exercise 7.1: Empathic Inquiry

8. Small Steps, Felt Shifts, and Appreciating What Came

MINDFUL FOCUSING PROTOCOL

9. Cultivating Self-Empathy and Defusing the Inner Critic

  Exercise 9.1: Self-Empathy

  Exercise 9.2: Befriending the Inner Critic

  Exercise 9.3: Reexperiencing Painful Feelings

Interlude

10. Mindfulness, Awareness, and the Sovereign Self

11. The Deep Nature of Life Process

Part Two: Living Life Forward

12. From Insights to Action Steps

  Exercise 12.1: Finding a Right Next Step

13. Deep Listening

  Exercise 13.1: Just Listening

DEEP LISTENING PROTOCOL

14. Conflict

  Exercise 14.1: Vicarious Felt Sense

  Exercise 14.2: Taking Turns

15. Making Tough Decisions

  Exercise 15.1: Deciding from the Felt Sense

FELT-SENSE DECISION PROTOCOL

16. Under-Standing

  Exercise 16.1: Reading with the Felt Sense

17. “First Thought Best Thought”: The Felt Sense in Creative Process

  Exercise 17.1: Composing a Haiku

18. Enlarging Space

  Exercise 18.1: Enlarging Space

  Exercise 18.2: Wandering with Wonder

19. Contemplation: Sensing for the More

  Exercise 19.1: Sensing for the More

Appendix: Mindful Focusing Protocol

Notes

Resources for Further Study and Practice

Index

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