IN CHAPTER 1 WE learned that the girl who ended up getting the preacher prayed for the man rather than praying to get the man.
We learned that prayer is a tool God commands us to use. We are commanders in spiritual warfare. God’s military is standing ready, waiting for us to pray for laborers in the battle for the kingdom.The men in our circle should be on our prayer list as we obey God’s command to pray for laborers.
Record your thoughts on what God taught you in chapter 1.
In Chapter 2 we read the story of Lydia having to decide whether she was open to her parents’ advice to accept the proposal of a relative stranger. An important piece of information we learned from Lydia is that we need to keep our options open. If she had been secretly hoping on some guy she knew, then she might not have had an open heart to be willing to consider a man who had not caught her attention. We learned that if we are walking in truth and have an open mind to the will of God, then he will direct our way. I guess the key words are open mind and heart, which means she was willing to try to like him. Giving attraction a chance was wise, and lasting love is a choice based on wisdom.
How did this story affect you?
In Chapter 3 we learned that man was created in God’s image, which is in three distinct persons: the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. We learned that the Father is King, the Son is Priest, and the Holy Spirit is Prophet. The three offices of Prophet, Priest, and King are found in every culture. Likewise, men come in these three natures. If we marry a man who is in the image of a Prophet (Holy Spirit) we would need to be flexible, encouraging and very chaste in conversation.
Describe a guy you think might be a prophet type.
In Chapter 4 we learned that if we married a man who seems more like Jesus, he will be Priestly, kind and serving. He will want his wife to serve others as he will serve those around him. This will mean keeping a gracious home open for hospitality.
What is godly hospitality? how would you use it as a ministry?
In Chapter 5 we were taught how to be queenly if we marry a man in God the Father’s image, a King. We learned how important it is to reverence this type of man. If this man will be used of God, we must learn our place as his helper.
How would you react if you were at the dinner table having cooked a fine meal and were feeding a toddler while holding your infant, and your husband told you to add ice to his tea? be creative in writing how you hope you will react.
In Chapter 6 was a big surprise! We learned that guys and gals are different! God created us to fill different roles so as to picture Christ and the church, which is why it’s so important to God that we maintain our place as females in his agenda. Our goal is to conform to being the type of woman our man needs, whether he is Prophet, Priest or King.
Write a simple short guideline to a woman’s role in marriage.
In Chapter 7 we were taught to open the door to knowledge, understanding and wisdom. Every day of our lives should be used to learn something new and challenging. If we don’t start learning today, then we have lost something.
Make a list of things you have and will implement in your life in making knowledge a part of your being.
In Chapter 8 we read the story of Ellie and her Italian Prince. Ellie showed us that using her youth to learn and serve made her the kind of woman the Italian Prince highly valued. We learned that the kind of woman we are when we’re single will determine the kind of man we attract. Ellie’s relationship to her man was more of a buddy-type courtship, which was the same as in the first chapter, the story of the Kid.
List the new projects or studies you are going to embark upon after reading this chapter.
In Chapter 9 we learned balance as females. None of us wants to be Grabbers, nor do we want to languish away our life being Hidden Flowers. We learned how to show men we are open to their attention without being a come-on.
Pretend you are quietly sitting in church and this wonderful young man walks in. Your heart starts thumping, you try not to stare, but you wonder how you will ever catch his attention. Give an interesting scenario.
In Chapter 10 we read several stories about Antsy Babes and the funny or sometimes terrible places being antsy will take you. We are all going to learn to be content and patient until God brings us our man.
Tell of a time when you were antsy…just a little too pushy in a possible relationship. Now how would you react?
In Chapter 11 we had a sobering look into Pie in the Sky texting. Through several true stories we learned that texting can be used by the Devil as an evil weapon to destroy lives. We learned the story of a young homeschool girl who totally wrecked her life by believing in Pie in the Sky. We learned in this chapter that there cannot be an honest, clean courtship through texting.
Write a commitment so that if you are tempted you can turn back to this page and remind yourself of your earlier wisdom.
In Chapter 12 was a breath of fresh air. Cinderella taught us the preciousness of the firsts you will share with your lover if you walk in truth and purity. Two statements from Cinderella were profound:
The first: As you run fast and hard after Jesus, look to the left and to the right and marry the man who is running beside you.
The second: Don’t try to find Mr. Right. Learn to be Miss Right, and the one who finds you will be Mr. Right.
Are you running hard and fast after Jesus, or are you just sitting around being spiritual? Running is doing. Get started in ministry and then become acquainted with those in your circle.
Cinderella’s relationship with her man came from him checking her out and then taking her on two dates so he could get to know her before he asked her dad if they could pursue a possible relationship.
What style of courting do you visualize for yourself?
In Chapter 13 was the Wedding. We learned we have an obligation to prepare to be a good wife by learning trades, saving money, and buying things that will aid our husband when we marry. Our bride taught us that the wedding is the first place you can demonstrate that you are not in this marriage for yourself but for your man. Plan a wedding that will leave you refreshed for the honeymoon!
Our bride taught us that a man proving his honor causes a woman’s love to bloom. He gently won her heart. For this bride, love came softly. She is indeed a blessed young woman.
Have you started saving money for your marriage yet? Write down what you are going to do to start making money for your coming life.
Chapter 14 has the story of the rock-and-roll singer getting saved. His young wife could see that she didn’t know Jesus like her newly saved husband. It was a wakeup call. We were admonished to make sure we truly know the Savior. Until we are sure we are saved, all else is moot.
Write a note to God concerning how you feel about your relationship with him.
Chapter 15 was about the fleas. We learned that God uses all manner of things to cause us to reverence our husband. We were also reminded that the rebellion of our youth will follow us into our marriage. We must beware.
Do you think God has ever used anything “different” to get you to turn around? What would you dread most?
In Chapter 16 was the most sobering of all. The Thread grew dim, so dim it seemed all color had been lost. Through this terrible story we saw how critically important it is for us to keep our minds and hearts full of thankfulness. Stinking Thinking can destroy your marriage and your life.
All of us are guilty of mean, ugly thoughts from time to time. How has this chapter changed the way you think?
In Chapter 17 we heard from the men. They told us all men are looking for a joyful, uncritical, supportive woman. Through them the bold ribbon found new meaning as we could see it in the lives of the women they love. They spoke highly of their hard-working and smart wives. Farmer Johnny told us that love is a choice. He taught us that just because we are “in love” doesn’t mean we should make a commitment to marriage. We learned that we can choose to not love when it is clear that the love we entertain is not wise, and we can choose to love when it is a good choice.
Which of the three men’s messages stirred you the most? Why?
If I had to boil this whole book down to one sentence it would be this:
Walk in truth and
joy, become a servant,
study and learn all manner of
different skills, practice
honoring those in authority over
you, and pray for every
man you know who seeks the
Lord; pray that these men
have the heart to labor
for the harvest
In all this you will become the kind of woman a man wants
and needs. You will become a Miss Right. When you are that
kind of woman…God will make sure Mr. Right finds you.
“Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto
thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge
him, and he shall direct thy paths”(Proverbs 3:5-6).
I Corinthians 13 is known as the LOVE chapter. God uses the word charity because charity is the act of love–not passion, not feeling–but the deep giving of one’s self. Charity is love without asking for an equal return.
If a girl becomes totally acquainted with this chapter, reading it often to wash and re-wash her soul in its purity, and if this girl makes a commitment to have this kind of love, then surely she will become a bride most noted. In the portals of heaven her marriage will be recorded as a glorious picture of things to come. Her husband will adore her, her children will rise up and call her blessed, and indeed, she will be of all women most blessed.
For your Treasure Chest, rewrite this love chapter in your own words, making it your own.
“Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have the gifts of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth: Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth…” (I Corinthians 13:1-8).
“Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the LORD for ever” (psalms 23:6).
“And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not” (Galatians 6:9).
I can think of nothing
I want more
than someone to truly love me.