1. Thucydides 1989: xxi.
1. Oruch 1981: 535, 538, 556–8; Schmidt 1993: 210–13, 233; http://www.businessinsider.com/valentines-day-spending-2011–2?slop=1#.
2. de Rougemont 1983: 173.
3. de Rougemont 1983: 5; Davidson 2007: 11; Sullivan 2000: 24.
4. Thornton 1997: 17, 23; Davidson 2007: 14–24.
5. Davidson 2007: 31.
6. Flacelière 2002: 73–4.
7. Tabori 1966: 35.
8. Flacelière 1962: 11.
9. McMahon 2006: 27–9; Flacelière 1962: 106.
10. Mitchell 1997: 1–21; Davidson 2007: 32–4; Vernon 2005: 12–13; Flacelière 1962: 155.
11. Lee 1998: 37; Grayling 2002: 64; Sullivan 2000: 26.
12. Tabori 1966: 218–30.
13. Huizinga 1950: 77.
14. http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199907/the-power-play.
15. Flacelière 1962: 66, 95, 99.
16. Grayling 2002: 64.
17. Fromm 1962: 11, 22.
18. http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2008/mar/28/socialtrends; http://www.divorcerate.org/
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20. Lewis 2002: 141–70; Davidson 2007: 12; de Rougemont 1983: 67–9.
21. Wang 2003: 127–8.
22. Fromm 1962: 45.
23. Peck 1978: 70.
24. http://www.virginia.edu/marriageproject/pdfs/SOOU2001.pdf; Peck 1978, 79.
25. http://www.wollamshram.ca/1001/Vol_2/v012.htm.
26. Zeldin 1995: 83; Sullivan 2000: 37.
27. Zeldin 1995: 78, 83; de Rougemont 1983: 106–7.
28. Hazm 1953.
29. Ackerman and Mackin 1998: 604.
30. de Rougemont 1983: 73–4, 106–7; Paz 1996: 71, 72; Lewis 1958: 2.
31. de Rougemont 1983: 90.
32. Paz 1996: 30, 67; Russell 1976: 51; Sullivan 2000: 36.
33. Tabori 1966: 139; Lewis 1958: 13.
34. Huizinga 1965: 67, 76, 79; Russell 1976: 49.
35. Lewis 1958: 3–4; Tabori 1966: 207–11.
36. Huizinga 1965: 104.
37. de Rougement 1983: 50–51.
38. Schama 1988: 414, 421.
39. Schama 1988: 185–6, 377, 422, 424, 521.
40. Schama 1988: 423–7.
41. Thomas 2009: 214–18.
42. de Rougemont 1983: 218; Armstrong 2003: 3.
43. Lane 1987: 7.
44. Goody 1999: 98, 106–9, 121; Sullivan 2000: 17; Giddens 1992: 41.
45. Epstein 1982.
46. Illouz 1997: 6–16.
47. http://www.surgery.org/sites/default/files/Stats2010_1.pdf.
48. Fromm 1962: 10.
49. Fromm 1962: 9, 22.
50. Comfort 1996: 7, 201.
51. Hite 1990: 339.
52. Russell 1976: 55.
1. Ballard 2008: 182–6, 199, 206, 227; http://www.jgballard.ca/interviews/sunday_times_1988interview.html.
2. http://careerplanning.about.com/cs/altoptgen1/a/stay_home_dads.htm; http://www.stayathomedads.co.uk/news.html.
3. Gatenby 2004.
4. Lader, Short and Gershuny 2006: 3, 11, 63.
5. http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1067969-It-has-just-dawned-on-me-that-my-husband-has.
6. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/7638056.stm.
7. Burgess 1997: 87–8; Hewlett 2000: 63.
8. Coltrane 1996: 176–85; Burgess 1997: 86; Hewlett 2000.
9. Burgess 1997: 74–83.
10. Coltrane 1996: 38; Cowan 1983: 16–18.
11. Cowan 1983: 17–31; Lamb 2000: 27; Miles 1989: 187.
12. Burgess 1997: 44; Abbott 1993: 169.
13. Berry 1993: 42.
14. Burgess 1997: 46–8; Sabatos 2007.
15. Pollock 1987: 12; Ruggles 1987: 4–5; Burgess 1997: 43; Schama 1988: 386–7; Gottlieb 1993: 3–23.
16. Townsend 1957: 31.
17. Miles 1989: 150–51.
18. Kerber 1988: 11, 29–30; Coltrane 1996: 35; Miles 1989: 187.
19. http://www.gutenberg.org/cache/epub/10136/pg10136.txt.
20. Coltrane 1996: 183; Lamb 2000.
21. Cowan 1983: 44–68; Coltrane 1996: 37–8.
22. William Dodds quoted in Davidson 1982: 187; Miles 1989: 188–95: de Beauvoir 1972: 144–7.
23. Burgess 1997: 60–61.
24. Burgess 1997: 121, 127.
25. Fatherworld Magazine 2005: 7.
26. Tannen 1999: 211.
27. Murcott 1997: 32, 45.
28. Plato 1991: 58.
29. Flacelière 2002: 55, 173–5.
30. Gottlieb quoted in McIntosh 1999: 221.
31. McIntosh 1999: 221; Visser 1993: 275–80; Murcott 1997: 43.
32. MacClancy 1992: 101; McIntosh 1999: 228; Zeldin 1999a: 37; Jansen 1997: 104.
33. Honoré 2004: 55; http://www.gallup.com/poll/10336/empty-seats-fewer-families-eat-together.aspx.
34. McIntosh 1999: 220.
35. Gottleib 1993: 43; Zeldin 1999a: 37; Zeldin 1995: 32; McIntosh 1999: 221; Visser 1993: 264.
36. Maitland 2008: 142–3.
37. Sajavaara and Lehtonen 1997: 270.
38. Miller 2006: 72–8, 91–125.
39. Miller 2006: 186.
40. Mill 1989: 58.
41. Mill 1989: 113.
42. Tannen 1985: 96.
43. Orwell 2002: 988.
44. Mander 1978: 24.
45. http://www.csun.edu/science/health/docs/tv&health.html; http://www.mediaweek.co.uk/news/668085/Average-TV-viewing-rises-last-decade/.
46. Morley 1986: 18–39.
47. Mander 1978: 24.
48. http://www.kff.org/entmedia/mh012010pkg.cfm: Miller 2006: 298.
49. Zeldin 1999a: 39–41.
1. House 2000: 56–8.
2. Kohn 1990: 99–101, 114–16; Goleman 1996: 98–9; Rogers and Stevens 1973: 92–4; Hoffman 2000; Batson 1991: 128–48; Nussbaum 2003: 334–5; Krznaric 2008.
3. http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2001/sep/15/september11. politicsphilosophyandsociety2.
4. Layard 2007: 20; 2005: 234; Goleman 1999: 137–8; Kohn 1990; Mukherjee 1993: 91.
5. Armstrong 2007: xiv, 390.
6. Hobbes 1996: ix–xii.
7. Rifkin 2009: 43.
8. Smith 1976: 499–502.
9. Smith 1976: 502.
10. Phillips and Taylor 2009: 27.
11. Kohn 1990: 102–3; Fernyhough 2008: 63–6; Hoffman 2000.
12. de Waal 2006: 6, 27, 33; see also my interview with de Waal at www.outrospection.org.
13. Jackson et al. 2006; Broks 2003: 4–5; Goleman 1996: 102–4.
14. Baron-Cohen 2011; Rifkin 2009: 82–3.
15. Terkel 1982; 1993.
16. http://www.oxfordmuse.com/?=node/81.
17. Orwell 1962: 129–30.
18. Crick 1980: 217–18.
19. Orwell 1974: 189.
20. Hochschild 2006: 5, 222, 366; Krznaric 2008.
1. Donkin 2001: 31–3; Thomas 1999: 106.
2. Marx 1982: 273–4; Mayhew 1949: 119, 306.
3. de Botton 2004: 60.
4. http://www.statistics.gov.uk/articles/labour_market_trends/jobmobility_nov03.pdf, p. 543.
5. Pittenger 2005.
6. Westwood 2002: 29; OPP Unlocking Potential 2007: 3.
7. Smith 1898: 3–4.
8. Smith 1898: 613.
9. Zeldin 1999b.
10. Inglehart 1997.
11. Seligman 2002: 177.
12. Schweitzer 1949: 3.
13. Porter 1997: 113.
14. Tawney 1938: 1999.
15. Thomas 2009: 86–7.
16. Frankl 1987: 35, 76, 79, 107, 110.
17. Sennett 2003.
18. Hoyles 1991: 48.
19. Saul 1992: 466–98.
20. Zeldin 1999a: 54.
21. Boorstin 1993: 389–90.
22. Nicholl 2005: 7, 241.
23. Emerson’s journal, 11 November 1842, http://www.archive.org/stream/heartofemersonsj008022mbp/djvu.txt/.
1. http://pewsocialtrends.org/2006/02/28/whos-feeling-rushed/; Honoré 2004, 7–8; http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/talking_point/3898025.stm.
2. Boorstin 1985: 5–12.
3. Boorstin 1985: 28–53: Honoré 2004: 22.
4. Boorstin 1985: 47; Thompson 1967.
5. Boorstin 1985: 587.
6. Thompson 1967.
7. Woodcock 1986; Thompson 1967.
8. Donkin 2001: 147–52.
9. Mumford 1955: 5; Woodcock 1986.
10. Judt 2010.
11. Brand 1999: 16.
12. Schlosser 2002: 18–21; Honoré 2004: 55.
13. Honoré 2004: 59.
14. Lakoff and Johnson 1981: 4–9; Lakoff 2005: 3–4.
15. Robb 2008: 75–77; http://www.nytimes.com/2007/11/25/opinion/25robb.html.
16. Quoted in Hodgkinson 2005: 85.
17. Geertz 1993.
18. Hanh 1987: 109.
19. Herrigel 1985; Suzuki 1986.
20. Brand 1999: 2, 48, 144.
1. Schama 1988: 306.
2. Buchan 1998.
3. http://basildonrecorder.co.uk/news/4657635_2_5m_lottery_winner_still_delivers_catalogues/.
4. http://www.statistics.gov.uk/cci/nugget.asp?id=1659; http://econpapers.repec.org/article/ucpjconrs/v_3a35_3ay_3a2008_3ai_3a4_3ap_3a622–639.htm.
5. Sunday Times, 26 December 2010, p. 21.
6. Thomas 2009: 138.
7. Leach 1993: xiii.
8. Thomas 2009: 110–46.
9. Quoted in Thomas 2009: 146.
10. Weber 1958; Tawney 1938; Thomas 2009: 142–44.
11. Thomas 2009: 65–76, 118–32, 142–6, 155–6; Braudel 1981: 316; Braudel 1982: 60–75.
12. Miller 1981: 168.
13. Miller 1981: 165–89; Lancaster 1995: 16–41.
14. Leach 1993: xv.
15. Berger 1972: 131.
16. de Botton 2004: 182.
17. Layard 2005: 32–3; for more recent research, see http://www.pnas.org/content/107/38/16489.full.pdf+html?sid=aac48a0b-d009–4ce6–8c14–7f97c5310e15.
18. James 2007: 52.
19. Quoted in Thomas 2009: 146.
20. Thoreau 1986: 73.
21. Sahlins 1972: 14.
22. Honoré 2004: 189.
23. http://www.statistics.gov.uk/articles/labour_market_trends/Working_time_patterns.pdf.
24. http://www.statcom.gc.ca/pub/11-008-x/2007001/pdf/9629-eng.pdf.
25. Nicholson 2002: 3.
26. Quoted in Shi 1985: 33.
27. Shi 1985: 39.
28. The Journal of John Woolman, http://www.strecorsoc.org/jwoolman/w03.html.
29. Quoted in Shi 1985: 41; The Journal of John Woolman, http://www.strecorsoc.org/jwoolman/w04.html.
30. Quoted in Shi 1985: 44.
31. Shi 1985: 47.
32. Galbraith 1977: 29–30.
33. Elgin 1993; Dominguez and Robin 1999.
34. Several of these ideas can be found in Boyle 2010.
35. Ferguson 2009: 233.
36. McKibben 2009: 102.
1. Ackerman 1996: 9, 73, 290.
2. Classen 1993: 126–31.
3. Classen 1993: 2–3; Vinge 1975: 15–21.
4. Kemp and Fletcher 1993; Burton 1989: 150–53; Classen 1993: 3.
5. Classen 1993: 4; Synnott 1991: 70.
6. Roberts 2002; http://www.nature.com/nature/journal/v301/n5895/abs/301078a0.html.
7. Classen 1993: 15.
8. Howes 1991: 4; Classen 1993: 9.
9. Dundes 1980: 89; Howes 1991: 4, 169; Howes 2005; Classen 1993: 5–6.
10. Classen 1993: 17–20.
11. Corbin 1986: 4.
12. Quoted in Howes 1991: 144.
13. Lowe 1982: 3–4.
14. Quoted in Howes 1991: 167, 171; Ong 1970: 1–9.
15. Quoted in Synnott 1991: 68.
16. Classen 1993: 28; Greenblatt 2007.
17. Classen 1993: 6, 27.
18. Berger 1972: 108; Lowe 1982.
19. Classen 1993: 17–29.
20. Seaton 1989: 686, 694; Goody 1993: 425.
21. Fernley-Whittingstall 2003: 244–5; Hoyles 1991: 227.
22. Seaton 1989: 697.
23. Classen 1993: 16; Howes 1991: 4.
24. Feuerbach 1832: 119, 125–38; Classen 1993: 40–46.
25. Classen 1993: 45.
26. Keller 1958: 26, 210.
27. Keller 2003: 11.
28. Keller 2003: 30, 56.
1. Hamilton 2005: vii.
2. Hamilton 2005: 4, 58–65, 83, 129, 136, 158–9, 174, 191, 207; Brenden 1991: 5–37; Swinglehurst 1982.
3. Boorstin 1985: 116, 121; Gosch and Stearns 2008: 42.
4. Bashō 1966: 51.
5. Coleman and Elsner 1995: 187.
6. Coleman and Elsner 1995: 188; Attlee 2011: 119.
7. Coleman and Elsner 1995: 181–90.
8. Kumar 2000: 79–81, 95, 110–11.
9. Quoted in Buzzard 2002: 40.
10. Mendelson 1985; Buzzard 2002: 40; Towner 1985.
11. Buzzard 2002: 47.
12. Baedeker 1909: lix.
13. Mendelson 1985.
14. Baedeker 1909: 29–30.
15. Baedeker 1909: 23.
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17. Mendelson 1985.
18. Zeldin 1984: 7.
19. Bronowski 1976: 59–68.
20. Quoted in Chatwin 1988: 218.
21. Ward and Hardy 1986: 2–3.
22. Ward and Hardy 1986: 1–8.
23. Onyx and Leonard 2005.
24. Darwin 1959: 203, 209; Lindqvist 1997a: 122–41.
25. Robinson 1995: 216–7.
26. Quoted in Newby 1986: 84.
27. Lindqvist 1997b, 140–45.
28. Ferguson 2009: 20–24.
29. Cobbett 1985: 309.
30. Cobbett 1985: 19.
31. Cobbett 1985: 19–20, 317–8.
32. Lee 1971: 11–12, 178.
1. Nash 2001: 141–3, 154–60.
2. Nash 2001: 11–17; Thomas 1985: 194.
3. http://www.britishmuseum.org/explore/highlights/highlight_objects/pd/h/hans_holbein_the_younger,_a_wi.aspx.
4. Thomas 1985: 194, 258–61; Nash 2001: 21; Clark 1971: 271, 283; Sprawson 1992: 201–13; Schama 1996: 103.
5. Nash 2001: 84–7; Thomas 1985: 216, 261.
6. Hoyles 1991: 37.
7. Thomas 1985: 193–4; Nash 2001, 49.
8. Clark 1971: 271.
9. Griffiths 2006: 2.
10. Krakauer 2007.
11. Wilson 1984: 1.
12. Kellert and Wilson 1993.
13. Nash 2001: 103.
14. Thomas 1985: 238.
15. Ulrich 1984; Grinde and Grindal Patil 2009; Kellert and Wilson 1993; Wilson 1984; Bragg 1996; Louv 2005; Mabey 2006.
16. Roszak 1995: 5.
17. http://www.acu.edu.au/__data/assets/pdf_file/0005/158315/Henriks-and-Hall_Indigenous_Mysticism.pdf.
18. Data from Millennium Ecosystem Assessment (2005), http://www.greenfacts.org/en/biodiversity/figtableboxes/1035-bird-density-map-rates.htm.
19. Based on 2004 data, http://www.oxfam.org.uk/resources/policy/climate_change/downloads/bp117_climatewrongs.pdf.
20. Thomas 1985: 17, 26, 30–33.
21. Thomas 1985: 18–23; McKibben 2003: 79; White 1967: 1205; Krznaric 2007.
22. Braudel 1981: 369.
23. Smith 1898: Book 1, Chapter 6.
24. Schama 1996: 173; Thomas 1985: 197.
25. Totman 1989: 25, 171; Krznaric 2010.
26. New Economics Foundation 2009: 20.
27. McKibben 2003: xiv, 48, 60–61.
28. Marshall 2007: 162–3.
29. Macfarlane 2007: 10–11.
1. Halberstam 2008: 128.
2. Beit-Hallahmi and Argyle 1997: 24–5, 242.
3. Myers 1996.
4. Smith 1988: 24–5, 63–4; Beit-Hallahmi and Argyle 1997: 106.
5. Beit-Hallahmi and Argyle 1997: 100.
6. Kelley and de Graaf 1997.
7. Beit-Hallahmi and Argyle 1997: 25, 96, 242.
8. Forbes 2007: 7–10, 17–21, 25–32. See also Miller 1993: 8–11, 18; Frazer 1978: 189–91, 221–2.
9. Anderson 1991: 7.
10. Anderson 1991: 114; Ward 1995: 12.
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12. http://www.sfmuseum.org/hist10/lange2.html.
13. Ellis 2005: 74–80, 164–9.
14. Hobsbawm 1983: 280; Ellis 2005: 218.
15. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/7162649.stm.
16. Quoted in Cannadine 1983: 102.
17. Hobsbawm 1983: 1.
18. Cannadine 1983: 109–19.
19. Hobsbawm 1983: 282; Cannadine 1983: 122.
20. Cannadine 1983: 131–6.
21. Gladwell 2005: 84–6; http://asr.sagepub.com/content/74/5/777.
22. Boorstin 1985: 302, 323.
23. Boorstin 1985: 314–27; Bronowski 1976: 196–218; Grayling 2008: 88–97.
24. Woodcock 2004: 185–98; Wilson 1989: 108, 115–16; Tolstoy 2008: 12–13.
25. Wilson 1989: 6, 173, 275, 346, 400–01; Woodcock 2004: 196–218; Troyat 1967: 519–20.
26. Troyat 1967: 517.
27. Tolstoy 2008: 17–18, 62, 87–8, 92.
28. Troyat 1967: 512–16.
29. ftp://sunsite.unc.edu/pub/docs/books/gutenberg/etexts99/resur10.txt.
30. http://www.jkrishnamwti.org/about-krishnamurti/dissolution-speech.php.
31. Gandhi 1984: 135, 177, 274.
32. Mandela 1995: 749.
33. Singer 1997: 255.
1. Burckhardt 1945: 81.
2. Boorstin 1993: 407–8.
3. Tatarkiewicz 1980: 247, 254–7; Pope 2005: 37.
4. Boorstin 1993: 407–19; Gombrich 1950: 220–9.
5. Vasari 2008: 425.
6. Boorstin 1993: 417.
7. John R. Taylor (Studio Art Centers International, Florence), personal communication, 31 August 2010; King 2006.
8. Boorstin 1993: 448–9.
9. Vernon 1970: 55.
10. Koestler 1964: 114–16; Jung 1978: 25.
11. http://www-history.mcs.st-andrews.ac.uk/Biographies/Wiles.html.
12. Sennett 2009: 172; http://edition.cnn.com/2009/BUSINESS/11/26/innovation.tips.index.html.
13. de Bono 1977: 86.
14. Edwards 1994: 98–113; Cameron 1995: 9–18.
15. Pope 2005: 40.
16. Office for National Statistics, July 2006: 11.
17. Quoted in Jaucourt 2005; Symons 2001: 110.
18. Edwards 1988; Fisher 1963: 33.
19. Vehling 1977: 268.
20. Hyde 2006: xiv, 58.
21. Brillat-Savarin 1970: 13.
22. Koestler 1964: 103, 269.
23. http://news-nationalgeographic.com/news/2004/10/1006_041006_chimps.html; Diamond 1998: 36; Bronowski 1976: 40–46; Sennett 2009: 6.
24. Sennett 2009: 8, 23.
25. Morris 1979: 33, 68–9.
26. Kropotkin 1998: 129–79; Mumford 1938: 29–35; Orme 2003: 312.
27. Read 1934: 12.
28. Sennett 2009: 86–7.
29. Kropotkin 1974: 169.
30. Ruskin 1907, Vol. 2: Chapter 6, Sections 14–16.
31. Sennett 2009: 289–90.
32. Thoreau 1986: 88.
33. Koestler 1964: 336, 379; Boorstin 1993: 425.
34. Boorstin 1993: 393–7; Gombrich 1950: 163–5.
35. Boorstin 1993: 729; Berger 1965: 59.
36. Berger 1965: 54.
37. Todd 2001: ix.
38. Woolf 1932.
39. http://www.csun.edu/science/health/docs/tv&health.html; http://www.mediaweek.co.uk/news/668085/Average-TV-viewing-rises-last-decade/.
1. Porter 1997: 1; Sokolovsky 2009: xvii; http://web.ukonline.co.uk/thursday.handleigh/demography/life-death/life.htm.
2. Auguste Bernard quoted in Ariès 2008: 64; Ariès 2008: 59–60, 64–9; Illich 1975: 124; Orme 2003: 118.
3. Ariès 2008: 113–16, 330; Illich 1975: 122–31; Elias 2001: 14.
4. Ariès 2008: 132.
5. Ariès 2008: 128–9; Illich 1975: 122–4, 142.
6. Petit 2003: 185–8.
7. Rinpoche 1998: 27.
8. Kübler-Ross 1973: 5.
9. Ariès 2008: 165–6, 559–60.
10. Kellehear 2007: 207; Ariès 2008: 563; Kübler-Ross 1973: 6–8; Lewis 2007: 4, 123.
11. Kübler-Ross 1973: 6–7.
12. Mitford 1998.
13. http://www.srgw.demon.co.uk/CremSoc4/Stats/National/2008/StatsNat.html.
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15. Kübler-Ross 1973: 2.
16. Terkel 2002: xxiii.
17. Berg 1972: 78–81; Abrams 1999: 16.
18. Paz 1967: 49.
19. Brandes 2006: 181–6.
20. Brandes 2006: 3–10.
21. Brandes 2006: 51–60.
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23. http://www.aviva.co.uk/media-centre/story/1236/dying-conversation-death-remains-a-taboo-subject-a/.
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25. Brandes 2006: 184; Carr 2007: 973.
26. Nightingale 2007: 109–10.
27. Ehrenreich 2009: 28–33, 41–2.
28. Nightingale 2007: 113.
29. Rinpoche 1998: 176.
30. http://www.aoa.gov/AoARoot/Aging_Statistics/index.aspx.
31. Townsend 1957: 21.
32. Kellehear 2007: 207, 213.
33. Kellehear 2007: 208, 215.
34. Kellehear 2007: 203–23; Elias 2001: 74; http://www.elderabuse.org.uk/; http://www.iqnursinghomes.com/.
35. Rinpoche 1998: 9.
36. Bronowski 1976: 64.
37. Quoted in Sokolovsky 2009: xxviii.
38. Zhang 2009: 215, n. 18; Jenike and Traphagan 2009: 246.
39. Zhang 2009: 204; Jenike and Traphagan 2009: 243–5, 249; http://www.jrf.org.uk/sites/files/jrf/sc100.pdf.
1. Goethe 1970: 14, 57, 151; Goethe 1999: ix, xxiv.
2. Goethe 1999: xi, 28–9.
3. Armstrong 2007: 241–60, 330, 352, 432–42.