contents

Acknowledgments

PART ONE: The Lonely Heart

The Lonely Heart

CHAPTER ONE

Lonely in a Social World

CHAPTER TWO

Variation, Regulation, and an Elastic Leash

CHAPTER THREE

Losing Control

CHAPTER FOUR

Selfish Genes, Social Animals

CHAPTER FIVE

The Universal and the Particular

CHAPTER SIX

The Wear and Tear of Loneliness

PART TWO: From Selfish Genes to Social Beings

CHAPTER SEVEN

Sympathetic Threads

CHAPTER EIGHT

An Indissociable Organism

CHAPTER NINE

Knowing Thyself, among Others

CHAPTER TEN

Conflicted by Nature

CHAPTER ELEVEN

Conflicts in Nature

PART THREE: Finding Meaning in Connection

CHAPTER TWELVE

Three Adaptations

CHAPTER THIRTEEN

Getting It Right

CHAPTER FOURTEEN

The Power of Social Connection

Notes