Calm Parents, Happy Siblings by Markham, Laura -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Cover Contents About the Book About the Author Praise Title Page Epigraphs Introduction

If You’re Welcoming a New Baby If Your Children Are Constantly Fighting

Part One: Calm Parenting 101

1. How You Can Be a Calm Parent

2. How Calm Discipline Supports the Sibling Relationship

Why Punishment and Permissiveness Cause More Sibling Fighting Rethinking Discipline Setting Empathic Limits Rethinking Time-outs Rethinking Rewards The Difference Between Consequences and Limits What If Empathy Doesn’t Work? Preventive Maintenance When Your Child Is Acting Out: Time-in Helping Kids with Big Emotions: Scheduled Meltdowns How to Help Each Child with Big Emotions When You Have More Than One Upset Child

3. What Causes Sibling Rivalry – And How Parents Can Make It Better

Part Two: Teaching Calm

4. Coaching Kids to Communicate Feelings and Problem-solve

Coaching Essential Emotional Intelligence Skills Your New Role: Interpreter Coaching Kids to Identify and Communicate Their Needs and Feelings Coaching Kids to Set Limits with Each Other Coaching Kids to Listen to Each Other Coaching Kids to Problem-solve Basic Negotiation Tools to Teach Kids

5. When Problem-solving Fails: Teaching Conflict Resolution

What About ‘We Get Along’ Shirts? Why Fighting Is Essential to Teach Children Relationship Skills How to Help Children Learn to Work It Out Themselves Empowering Kids to Stand Up to Teasing Mean Words When Your Child Says He Hates His Sibling Intervening in a Sibling Fight: The Basics Should You Punish Your Child for Aggression? When Your Toddler Is the Aggressor Against Your Older Child Coaching Kids to Handle Aggression from Younger Siblings How to Stop Repeated Aggression Teaching Skills: Intervening in a Sibling Fight Helping Kids Make Repairs After a Fight, Instead of Forced Apologies

6. Why Can’t They Just Share? Why Kids Fight Over Possessions

Rethinking Sharing: A Radical Solution Self-regulated Turns: What Children Learn Coaching Kids as They Wait for Their Turn

7. Easing the Competition

‘It’s Not Fair!’ Never Compare Resist Labelling How to Celebrate Each Child Without Fuelling Competition Who Gets to Push the Lift Button? How to Ensure You Don’t Unwittingly Foster Competition Helping Kids with Competitive Feelings Birth Order and Competition What If You Prefer One Child?

8. Tools to Prevent Rivalry and Nurture Bonding

Expect Your Children to Value Each Other Family Routines That Foster Sibling Bonding Family Rules and Mottos That Support Sibling Closeness How to Create More Positive Interactions Between Your Children Strategies to Create a Sibling Team Shifting Alliances: How to Keep Kids from Ganging Up on Each Other Why Rough and Tumble Reduces Sibling Rivalry Why Not Tickling? When Kids Share a Room When One Child Has a Friend Over Family Meetings: The Resource You’ll Be So Glad You Discovered

Part Three: Before The New Baby and Through The First Year

9. Before the Baby Arrives: Creating a Warm Welcome

10. Getting Off to a Good Start: Birth and the First Few Months

11. Building a Positive Foundation When the Baby Begins to Crawl

Final Note: Choose Love Notes Index Acknowledgements Copyright