The Mourning Handbook by FitzGerald, Helen -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Cover Dedication Acknowledgments Foreword Before You Begin This Book Introduction Chapter 1: Facts About Grief

1.1 Definitions

Grief Mourning

1.2 When Does Grief Begin? 1.3 How Long Does Grief Last?

Age of the Deceased Cause of Death Nature of Relationship Other Events in One’s Life Support Systems Resources One Can Command One’s Coping Skills Sexual Differences

1.4 Does Grief End? 1.5 Why Must You Express Your Grief?

Understanding the Grief Process

Chapter 2: Preparing for a Death

2.1 The Diagnosis

Only the Beginning

2.2 Visiting the Dying 2.3 Anticipatory Grief

How Anticipatory Grief Can Be Helpful When Is Anticipatory Grief Not Helpful?

2.4 When Death Comes

When Death Occurs in a Hospital When Death Occurs at Home

Chapter 3: Funeral Preparations

3.1 Why Have a Funeral? 3.2 Planning the Funeral

When Cost Is a Factor Making the Funeral Meaningful

3.3 Selecting a Cemetery 3.4 Burial

What Happens to the Body After Burial? Visiting the Grave How Often Should You Visit the Grave? Thoughts Pertaining to the Headstone

3.5 Cremation 3.6 Memorial Services 3.7 Cenotaphs 3.8 Disposing of Personal Belongings

Chapter 4: Mourning your Loss

4.1 Grief Is Unlike Other Life Experiences 4.2 Disbelief and Shock

Some Ideas on How to Help Yourself

4.3 Denial

Some Questions to Ask Yourself Ways That People Avoid Reality How to Help Yourself Deal with Denial When to Consult with a Professional

4.4 Rage and Anger

Anger Is a Powerful Emotion Does One Have to Express Anger? Know Your Anger History When Do You Know You Are Getting Angry? Prioritizing the Things That Make You Angry When to Seek Professional Help

4.5 Guilt or Regrets

How to Help Yourself When to Seek Professional Help

4.6 Depression

Know Your Own Symptoms of Depression When to Seek Professional Help

4.7 Fears

How to Help Yourself When to Be Concerned

4.8 Panic

How to Help Yourself

4.9 Physical Illness and Symptoms

How to Help Yourself When to Be Concerned

Chapter 5: Continuing Reminders of your Loss

5.1 Public Holidays

Christmas Other Religious Holidays Secular Holidays

5.2 Special Family Occasions 5.3 Anniversaries

Birthdays Wedding Anniversaries Special Anniversaries The First-Year Anniversary of the Death

5.4 Dreams, Nightmares, and “Visions” 5.5 Visiting the Cemetery

When to Be Concerned

5.6 Revisiting Favorite Places 5.7 Unexpected Reminders

Chapter 6: Differences that Matter

6.1 Old Age 6.2 Long-term Illness

Suggestions for Those Dealing with AIDS

6.3 Sudden Death 6.4 Suicide 6.5 Murder 6.6 Extended Family 6.7 Grandparent 6.8 Friend 6.9 Pet 6.10 Sibling 6.11 Parent

As an Adult As a Child

6.12 Love Relationship 6.13 Spouse

The Loneliness of Widowhood

6.14 Child

Abortion Grief as Part of Your Life

Chapter 7: Complicated Grief

7.1 Other Changes in Your Life

Delayed Grief

7.2 Unusual Circumstances 7.3 Unintentional Acts and Far-Reaching Consequences 7.4 Multiple Deaths 7.5 Sudden Illness and Death 7.6 Violent Death

Accidental Death Suicide Murder

7.7 Questionable Deaths 7.8 Shock of Discovery 7.9 Hearing the Death News 7.10 Witnessing a Death 7.11 Notoriety 7.12 When the Body Is Not Presentable 7.13 When There Is No Body 7.14 Secrets Discovered After Death 7.15 “Unacceptable” Relationships 7.16 Dependent Relationships

Spouse Adult Child

7.17 Conflicted Relationships 7.18 Unfinished Business 7.19 Substance Abuse 7.20 Replacement Child 7.21 Unusual Developments 7.22 Missing Persons 7.23 How to Help Yourself

When to Be Concerned

Chapter 8: Unresolved Childhood Grief and Trauma

8.1 What Is Unresolved Childhood Grief? 8.2 No Detour Too Long to Avoid a Cemetery 8.3 Ten Years of Not Talking About It 8.4 The Girl Whose Father Killed Himself 8.5 A Not-So-Funny Joke 8.6 Problems in the Making 8.7 What Is Death-Related Trauma? 8.8 Why Review Such Painful Memories? 8.9 Where Do You Start?

Gathering Information

8.10 Finding the Source of Your Grief

Early Death Experience

8.11 Other Things to Look For 8.12 Restarting the Grief Process

Recording Your Recollections Books Healing Old Wounds Writing Letter Writing Drawing Funeral Home and Cemetery Visits Symbolic Burial When to Be Concerned

Chapter 9: The Road to Recovery

9.1 Helping Yourself Through Your Grief

Diet Exercise Rest

9.2 You Know You Are Getting Better When... 9.3 New Relationships

When Do You Know You Are Ready? Where to Start On Dating On Children and Dating How to Help Your Children On Sexuality On AIDS When a Relationship Breaks Up On Remarriage

Chapter 10: A Friend in Need

10.1 Preparing Yourself 10.2 When Death Occurs 10.3 Funeral Arrangements 10.4 Funerals 10.5 Emotional Help

Taking Care of Yourself

10.6 Things to Avoid 10.7 Long-Term Help 10.8 Writing a Letter of Condolence 10.9 Delivering Death News

By Telephone In Person Looking Out for Yourself

Epilogue Bibliography

General Grief Widowhood Suicide Parent Grief Parent Death for Adult Child Children For the Family When a Member is Seriously Ill For Family and Friends The Death of a Pet Dealing with Anger For the Professional

Resources

Finding Professional Help Support Groups Death of a Child Suicide Death of a Spouse Death by Murder Death of a Pet Illness with Cancer

About Helen Fitzgerald Index Copyright

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