Living Like You Mean It · Use the Wisdom and Power of Your Emotions to Get the Life You Really Want by Frederick, Ronald J. -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Praise Title Page Copyright Page Dedication Acknowledgements Epigraph Introduction

WHY THIS BOOK? ABOUT THIS BOOK

PART I - Preparation CHAPTER 1 - To Feel or Not to Feel

A PHOBIA OF SORTS RECOGNIZING THE SIGNS TO BE OR NOT TO BE

CHAPTER 2 - How the Heck Did IGet This Way?

WHAT WENT WRONG? IN THE BEGINNING I AM A ROCK, I AM AN ISLAND IT’S ALL IN YOUR HEAD THE ROAD MORE TRAVELED KAREN’S BRAIN HOW’S THE WEATHER INSIDE? UNWRITTEN RULES MY HOUSE UPGRADING THE WIRING AND A ROCK FEELS NO PAIN; AND AN ISLAND NEVER CRIES

PART 2 - Taking Action CHAPTER 3 - STEP ONE Becoming Aware of Your Feelings

WHEN IGNORANCE IS NOT BLISS EMOTIONAL MINDFULNESS IT JUST DOES THAT SOMETIMES LEFT OR RIGHT, WHICH WAY SHOULD I GO? CHOICES, CHOICES, CHOICES BACK TO BASICS LET’S TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT TUNING IN TO YOUR FEELINGS

CHAPTER 4 - STEP ONE, CONTINUED Becoming Aware of Your Defenses

WHAT’S GOING ON? LINES OF DEFENSE THE SHAPE OF THINGS EVERY TIME WE SAY GOOD-BYE GETTING TO KNOW YOU DEFENSES IN ACTION FEELINGS CAN BE DEFENSIVE TOO NOW WHAT?

CHAPTER 5 - STEP TWO Taming the Fear

DAY OF RECKONING BEYOND YOUR DEFENSES BACK TO THE BRAIN PAUSE FOR STATION IDENTIFICATION WHAT’S IN A NAME? KEEP IT SIMPLE WHEN THINGS AREN’T CLEAR MINDFUL TRACKING TAKE A BREATHER ACCENTUATE THE POSITIVE TAKE HEART YOUR TURN

CHAPTER 6 - STEP THREE Feeling It Through

THE NATURE OF THINGS LET THE RIVER RUN IT IS WHAT IT IS ACCEPTING WHAT IS GETTING IN TOUCH PAYING ATTENTION ONE STEP AT A TIME SLOWING DOWN GIVING WAY A WORD (OR TWO) ABOUT ANGER RIDING OUT THE WAVE SEEING IT THROUGH TAKE TIME TO REFLECT TAKING CARE

CHAPTER 7 - STEP FOUR Opening Up

A FAMILIAR KIND OF FEAR GETTING STARTED HEEDING THE CALL THE POWER OF WORDS EXPRESSING YOURSELF MINDFUL COMMUNICATION NOT SO HARD AFTER ALL SOMETHING BETTER

CHAPTER 8 - Putting It All Together

ALEX: THE GIFT OF GRIEF LAUREN: BEFRIENDING FEAR JULIE: MAKING ROOM FOR JOY BRIAN: UNCOVERING THE ROAD TO REPAIR KATE: GROWING INTO HAPPINESS MARK: WAKING UP TO ANGER FRANK: FINDING THE COURAGE TO LOVE IN OUR OWN WAY

CONCLUSION - Making a Choice APPENDIX: SEEKING PROFESSIONAL HELP