Getting Past Your Breakup by Elliott, Susan J. -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Title Page Dedication Praise Acknowledgements PREFACE: MY STORY Introduction 1 - Road Map to Healing: How This Book Will Change Your Life

The Road Map to Healing The Life and Love You Want Is Achievable

2 - The Rules of Disengagement: Going “No Contact” with Your Ex

The Seven Excuses That Will Keep You Stuck Steps to Successful “No Contact” Exercises to Help You Stay “No Contact”

3 - Grief as the Healing Feeling

What Is Grief? Other Tips for Dealing with the Middle Phase of Grief

4 - Taking Care of Yourself

Putting the Focus Back on Yourself Journaling: Writing It Out Affirmations and Positive Self-Talk How to Start Practicing Your Affirmations Gratitude Lists Combating Obsessive Thoughts Setting Goals Take Frequent Breaks Self-Care: Learning to Treat Yourself Well

5 - Seven Rules for Making Things Easier for Your Children

1. Be open with your children about the breakup. 2. Monitor yourself and model healthy behavior. 3. Remember that your ex is still your child’s parent. 4. Wait to introduce your children to new partners. 5. Give and get child support. 6. Continue to be a parent to your children. 7. Children always appreciate quality time. Parenting Is Tough: Ask for Help

6 - Bringing the Big Picture into Focus: The Relationship and Life Inventories

The Relationship Inventory The Life Inventory Taking the Relationship and Life Inventories to the Next Level The Letting-Go Ritual A Final Word on Forgiveness

7 - Where Do You End and I Begin? Developing Limits and Boundaries

What Are Boundaries? Why Set Boundaries? When to Set a Boundary How to Set Boundaries It’s Okay to Set Boundaries Who Owns What? Boundary-Setting Review

8 - Moving On: The Path to Real Love

Loving Again or Living Alone The First Dates and Relationships After a Major Breakup Relationships What Real Love Is and Is Not Putting It All Together

9 - Letters from Readers and Frequently Asked Questions

AFTERWORD Keep the Good Things Working in Your Life BIBLIOGRAPHY INDEX Copyright Page