Complex PTSD by Walker, Pete -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

COVER TITLE TESTIMONIALS COPYRIGHT DEDICATION EPIGRAPH TABLE OF CONTENTS ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS INTRODUCTION PART 1 — AN OVERVIEW OF RECOVERING

1. The Journey of Recovering From Cptsd

Definition Of Complex PTSD An Example Of An Emotional Flashback Toxic Shame: The Veneer Of An Emotional Flashback List Of Common Cptsd Symptoms Suicidal Ideation What You May Have Been Misdiagnosed With Origins Of Cptsd More About Trauma The Four F’s: Fight, Flight, Freeze And Fawn The 4F’s In A Cptsd-Inducing Family Poor Parenting Creates Pathological Sibling Rivalry

2. Levels of Recovering

Key Developmental Arrests In Cptsd Cognitive Healing Shrinking The Critic The Developmentally Arrested Healthy Ego Psychoeducation And Cognitive Healing Mindfulness Emotional Healing Recovering The Emotional Nature Emotional Intelligence Toxic Shame And Soul Murder Grieving As Emotional Intelligence Grieving And Verbal Ventilation Spiritual Healing Gratitude And Good Enough Parenting Somatic Healing Somatic Self-Help Cptsd And Somatic Therapy The Role Of Medication Self-Medication Working With Food Issues

3. Improving Relationships

Forewarning: Cptsd As An Attachment Disorder The Origin Of Social Anxiety A Journey Of Relational Healing Healing The Shame That Binds Us In Loneliness Finding Good Enough Relational Help Parentdectomy And Relational Healing Learning To Handle Conflict In Relationship Reparenting Self-Mothering And Self-Fathering Self-Mothering Grows Self-Compassion The Limits Of Unconditional Love Inner Child Work Reparenting Affirmations Self-Fathering And Time Machine Rescue Operation Reparenting By Committee The Tao Of Self-Relating And Relating To Others

4. The Progression of Recovering

Signs Of Recovering The Stages Of Recovering Cultivating Patience With The Gradual Progression Of Recovery Surviving Versus Thriving Difficulties In Identifying the Signs of Recovering Accepting Recovery As A Lifelong Process Therapeutic Flashbacks And Growing Pains Optimal Stress Silver Linings “The Unexamined Life Is Not Worth Living” The Emotional Imperialism Of “Don’t Worry, Be Happy”

PART II — THE FINE POINTS OF RECOVERING

5. What if I Was Never Hit?

Denial And Minimization Verbal And Emotional Abuse. Theoretical Neurobiology Of The Critic Emotional Neglect: The Core Wound In Complex PTSD The Failure To Thrive Syndrome Emotional Hunger And Addiction The Evolutionary Basis Of Attachment Needs Abandonment Stultifies Emotional And Relational Intelligence De-Minimizing Emotional Abandonment Practicing Vulnerability The Power of Narrative

6. What is My Trauma Type?

Healthy Employment Of The 4 F’s Cptsd As An Attachment Disorder The Fight Type And The Narcissistic Defense The Charming Bully Other Types Of Narcissists Recovering From A Polarized Fight Response The Flight Type And The Obsessive-Compulsive Defense Left-Brain Dissociation Recovering From A Polarized Flight Response The Freeze Type And The Dissociative Defense Right-Brain Dissociation Recovering From A Polarized Freeze Response The Fawn Type And The Codependent Defense Recovering From A Polarized Fawn Response Trauma Hybrids The Fight-Fawn Hybrid The Flight-Freeze Hybrid The Fight-Freeze Hybrid Self-Assessment Continuums Of Positive And Negative 4F Responses Recovery & Self-Assessment The Fight Fawn Continuum Of Healthy Relating To Others The Flight Freeze Continuum Of Healthy Relating To Self

7. Recovering From Trauma-Based Codependency

Comparing Fawn Origins With Fight, Flight And Freeze Origins A Definiton Of Trauma-Based Codependency Codependent Subtypes Fawn-Freeze: The Scapegoat Fawn-Flight: Super Nurse Fawn-Fight: Smother Mother More On Recovering From A Polarized Fawn Response Facing The Fear Of Self-Disclosure Grieving Through Codependence Later Stage Recovery “Disapproval Is Okay With Me”

8. Managing Emotional Flashbacks

Triggers And Emotional Flashbacks The Look: A Common Trigger Of Emotional Flashbacks Internal vs. External Triggers Progressive Trigger-Recognition Signs Of Being In A Flashback More On Self-Medication Flashbacks In Therapy Sessions Grieving Resolves Flashback [Step # 9] Managing The Inner Critic [Step # 8] Advanced Flashback Management Flashbacks As The Inner Child’s Plea For Help Flexible Use Of The Flashback Management Steps Existential Triggers Later Stage Recovery Helping Kids Manage Emotional Flashbacks

9. Shrinking the Inner Critic

Origin Of The Cptsd Critic 14 Common Inner Critic Attacks Perfectionism Attacks Endangerment Attacks Critic-Initiated Flashbacks Thoughts As Triggers The Critic As The Shaming Internalized Parents Facing The Stubbornness Of The Critic Perfectionism And Emotional Neglect More On Endangerment Using Anger To Thought-Stop The Critic Shame Is Blame Unfairly Turned Against The Self Embracing The Critic Thought-Substitution And Thought-Correction Perspective-Substitution & Correction Perspective-Substitution And Gratitude The Neuroplasticity Of The Brain

10. Shrinking the Outer Critic

The Outer Critic: The Enemy Of Relationship 4 F Types And Outer Critic/Inner Critic Ratios Passsive-Aggressiveness And The Outer Critic Refusing To Give Voice To The Critic’s Point Of View Outer Critic-Dominated Flashbacks Outer Critic Modelling In The Media The Critic: Subliminal B-Grade Movie Producer Watching The News As A Trigger Intimacy And The Outer Critic The No-Win Situation Scaring Others Away Vacillating Between Outer And Inner Critic A Case Example Of The Vacillating Critic The Critic As Judge, Jury And Executioner Scapegoating Mindfulness And Shrinking The Outer Critic When Mindfulness Appears To Intensify The Critic Thought Substitution & Correction: Supplanting The Critic Grieving Shortcircuits The Outer Critic Defueling The Outer Critic Via Working The Transference Healthy Outer Critic Venting Road Rage, Transference And The Outer Critic

11. Grieving

Grieving Expands Insight And Understanding Grieving The Absence Of Parental Care Grieving Ameliorates Flashbacks Inner Critic Hindrances To Grieving Defueling The Critic Through Grieving The Four Processes Of Grieving 1. Angering: Diminishes Fear And Shame Angering Helps Deconstruct Repetition Compulsion 2. Crying: The Penultimate Soothing Crying And Self-Compassion Crying And Angering In Concert 3. Verbal Ventilation: The Golden Path To Intimacy Theoretical Neuroscience Of Verbal Ventilation Thinking And Feeling Simultaneously Verbally Ventilating Alone Dissociation Deadens Verbal Ventilation Left-Brain Dissociation Verbal Ventilation Heals Abandonment Verbal Ventilation And Intimacy 4. Feeling: Passively Working Through Grief Feeling Can Heal Digestive Problems The Emotional-Physical Connection Balancing Feeling And Emoting Learning To Feel An Exercise In Feeling Techniques To Invite And Enhance Grieving

12. The Map: Managing the Abandonment Depression

Cycles Of Reactivity Abandonment Depression Fear & Shame Inner Critic 4Fs The Layers Of Dissociation In The Cycle Of Reactivity Parental Abandonment Creates Self-Abandonment Deconstructing Self-Abandonment Depressed Thinking Versus Feeling Depressed Mindfulness Metabolizes Depression Somatic Mindfulness Somatic Awareness Can Therapeutically Trigger Painful Memories Introspective Somatic Work Dissolving Depression By Fully Feeling It Hunger As Camouflaged Depression Pseudo-Cyclothymia Separating Necessary Suffering From Unnecessary Suffering Recovery Is Progressive A Swiss Army Knife Approach To A Flashback

13. A Relational Appoach to Healing Abandonment

The Relational Dimension Of Psychotherapy Relational Healing In Complex PTSD 1. Empathy 2. Authentic Vulnerability “Realationship” Makes Healthy Relationship Therapeutic Emotional Disclosure Guidelines For Self-Disclosure Emotional Self-Disclosure And Sharing Parallel Trauma History 3. Dialogicality Meeting Healthy Narcissistic Needs Psychoeducation As Part Of Dialogicality Dialogicality And The 4F’s 4. Collaborative Rapport Repair Moving Through Abandonment Into Intimacy: A Case Study Earned Secure Attachment Rescuing The Survivor From The Critic Finding A Therapist Finding An Online Or Live Support Group Co-Counseling

14. Forgiveness: Begin with the Self 15. Bibliotherapy and the Community of Books

Especially Recommended Reading

16. Self-Help Tools

Conclusion

Toolbox 1. Suggested Intentions For Recovery Toolbox 2. Human Bill of Rights Toolbox 3. Suggested Internal Responses to Common Critic Attacks Toolbox 4. Tools for Lovingly Resolving Conflict Toolbox 5. Self-Gratitudes/ Gratitudes about Others Toolbox 6. Flashback Management Steps Bibliography

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