Interpersonal Edge by Skube, Daneen -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Cover Page Title Page Copyright Page Table of Contents Author’s Note Preface: Why I Wrote This Book Introduction: Creating a Life You Absolutely Love! Part I: Improving Effectiveness In Yourself Chapter 1: Pattern Busting

• Getting Off Automatic Pilot • Finding the Lost Self • Training The Heart

Chapter 2: Banishing Family “Ghosts”

• Making Lemonade Out of Lemons • Creating Extraordinary Effectiveness Through “Mystical Abnormality” • Truth or Telepathy? • Invoking Self-Reflection

Chapter 3: The Divine Body

• Power and Breathing • Listening to Body Talk • Building Rapport from Head to Toe • When Your Walk Doesn’t Talk • The Voice of Authority

Chapter 4: The Heart of the Moment

• Who’s Running Your Life? • The Rainbow Soul: Naming Emotions • The Fickle Bluebird of Happiness • The Infection of Perfection • Feeling as a Foreign Language

Chapter 5: Your Inner CEO

• Running Your Life Like You’re the Boss • The Body as a Soul Compass • Sex, Lies, and Power • The Enlightenment Snooze Button

Part II: Improving Effectiveness with Others Chapter 6: Everyone is Your Customer, So Listen

• The Business of Listening • Basic Ears: Paraphrasing • Advanced Ears: Emotions and Hidden Agendas

Chapter 7: Getting People to Listen to You

• Lord, Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood • Shifting Perceptions • Avoiding Arguments about Truth • Men, Passion, and Listening

Chapter 8: Influencing People

• Breaking the Family Spell • Understanding Your Tribe • Inner Peace • The Price of Being Comfortably Numb • Negotiating Tribal Differences

Chapter 9: Word Wizardry

• Tele-visioning • The Enchantment of Saying “I” • Exploring Inner Space

Chapter 10: Impossible People

• Dangerous Liaisons • What if Somebody Threw a Power Struggle and Nobody Came? • Scripting: How to Ask for Money, Love, or Results • The Inner Predator

Chapter 11: Games Vampires Play

• Vampire Power Plays

—Power Play #1: It’s Your Problem if You Feel Bad When I Hit You —Power Play #2: Petty Tyrants —Power Play #3: The Sniper —Power Play #4: The Expert —Power Play #5: I’m the Only One Who Matters (Narcissists) —Power Play #6: I Need You; I Hate You (Borderlines)

• Vampire Enablers

Chapter 12: Creating Cooperation

• And They Lived Happily Ever After • Connecting in the Heat of Battle • Four Rituals That Create Cooperation • The Art of Dumb Questions

Chapter 13: Know Your Bottom Line

• Anger as Ally • Hexes and Consequences • Profit or Loss: Let People Choose

Part III: Improving Effectiveness in The World Chapter 14: Intuitive Moments

• What Are You Longing For? • Introduction to Intuition: Whispers of Wisdom • Introduction to Dreams: Soul Letters

Chapter 15: Investing in Bliss

• Yoga: The Enchantment of the Body • Meditation: Entering the Sanctuary • Becoming One with a Very Dusty World

Chapter 16: Cosmic Moments

• The Universal “Help” Menu • Changing Patterns Through Relationships • Feeling Good All the Time? • Taking Back Your Power

Chapter 17: A Business Plan for the Soul

• Finding Your Insides Outside • Self-Esteem Is Not a Democracy • What Your Shadow Knows • My Shadow Made Me Do It?

Chapter 18: Waking Up

• Making Your Own Map • Ending the Blame Drain • How to Gain from the Pain • The Zen of Relationships

Afterword Acknowledgments About the Author