The Art of Mingling by Martinet, Jeanne -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

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Cover Title Page Copyright Notice Dedication Acknowledgments Preface to the New Edition Introduction: Why Learn the Art of Mingling? 1. Overcoming Minglephobia

—A Word About World Wide Web-Headedness —How to Fake It Till You Make It —Four Survival Fantasies for the Truly Terrified

* The Naked Room * The Invisible Man * The Buddy System * Celebrity Magic

—Choosing Your First Clique

* Practice Your Mingle on a Wallflower * Judging a Book by Its Cover * Body Language Check * The Safety of Numbers

2. Open Sesame: Making a Successful Entrance

—Get Ready, Get Set …

* To Shake or Not to Shake * About Your Smile * The Philosophy of Fibbing: Why Some Lies are Essential

—The Four Basic Entrance Maneuvers

* The Honest Approach * The Fade-In * The Flattery Entrée * The Sophistication Test

—Opening Lines for Every Mood

* Level One: Risk-free * Level Two: Playful * Level Three: Daring

3. Now What? Tools and Rules for Continuing the Conversation

—Recovering from a Flubbed Opening —Career Talk: Yes or No? —Ten Tried-and-True Tricks of the Trade

* A Mnemonic for Those at a Loss for Words * The Interview * Playing a Game * Room with a View * Using Clichés * About Eye Contact * The Dot-Dot-Dot Plot * The Echo Chamber * The Funny Thing About Humor * How to Handle the Joker in Every Deck

—To Bemoan or Not to Bemoan —The Secret of Listening

* Understanding the Problem * Hearing Aides

4. The Great Escape: Bailing Out and Moving On

—When to Move

* Boredom and Other Discomforts * Wrong Fit * Saving Face * The Case of the Vanishing Group * Time’s Up!

—The Etiquette of Escape

* Knowing Where You’re Headed * The Five Laws of Survival

—The Getaway: Twelve Exit Maneuvers

* The Buffet Bye-Bye and Other Handy Excuses * Celling Out * The Honest Approach in Reverse * The Fade-Out * The Changing of the Guard * The Smooth Escape * Shake and Break * The Human Sacrifice * The Personal Manager * Escape by Mutual Consent * The Counterfeit Search * The Preemptive Strike: Dodge Ball

—Emergency Escape Hatches

5. Fancy Footwork: Advanced Mingling Techniques

—Mingling Styles for the Well-Schooled

* The Quick-Change Artist * The Pole Vaulter * The Playful Plagiarist * Trivial Pursuits * The Art of Piggybacking * The Butterfly Flit

—Gimmicks for the Confident Mingler

* A Case of Mistaken Identity * The Interruption Eruption * The Quotation Device * Party Favors: The Helpless Guest Gambit * Making the Most of Toasts

—Sophisticated Body Business

* The Mysterious Mingle * The Touchy-Feely Mingle * Fumbling-In * The Swivel

—Conversation Pieces: Using Props

* Jewelry and Accessories * The Dumb Use of Smartphones * The Hors d’Oeuvres Maneuver * Working the Bar or Food Area

—Playing Doubles: Team Mingling

* Preparty Strategy Sessions * Conversational Procurement * Intraparty Playdates * Shepherding * Reconnaissance and Rescue * The Mating Call

6. The Tailor-Made Mingle: Instructions for Specific Circumstances

—Navigating Current Events

* The Zeitgeist Heist * Pleading Guilty * Proving Your Mettle * High Voltage Area! Talking Politics

—Ahoy Polloi: Mingling in Public Places

* Mingling Outdoors or in a Crowd * That’s My Queue: Lines in Line * Elevator Mingling

—The Business of Mingling for Business

* Name-Tag Tips * Business Card Advice

—Mingling for Love

* Nonparty Love Venues * Romance Copilots

—Hosting: How to Please Your Guests Every Time

* Host Phobia * The Party Coach * The Feng Shui of Hosting

7. Handling Difficult Situations

—Lie or Die —Dealing with Faux Pas

* When You’re Dressed Wrong * Introductions: A Recurring Nightmare * The Anecdotal Antidote: Storytelling as a Healing Technique * All-Purpose Faux Pas Recovery Lines * The Faux Pas-Moi: The Art of Denial * The Faux Pas-cifist

—Negotiating Tough Rooms

* The Sardine Can * The Thin Room * Mingling with Drunks * Mingling with the Truly Arrogant * How to Crash a Party Without Breaking Anything

—The Sit-Down Mingle —Quick Fixes for Dire Circumstances

* How to React to Unwelcome Physicalities * Handling Insults * Cutting Your Losses (or, When to Just Give Up and Go Home)

8. The After-Party: Instructions for Following Up

—How to Follow Up

* Email or Text * Facebook * LinkedIn * Twitter * Follow-Up Lines * Phonethics: When to Use Your Voice * The Power and Glory of the Handwritten Note

—Great Expectations

9. From Insecurity to Enlightenment: The Tao of Mingling

* Wu Wei: Premingle Meditation * The Yin/Yang of Circulating * The Art of Yielding: Using the Principles of Tai Chi * How to Feel Happy When You Are Left Alone

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