The Gift of Anger · Seven Steps to Uncover the Meaning of Anger and Gain Awareness, True Strength, and Peace by Cannon, Marcia -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Contents Acknowledgments Introduction: A New Understanding

The Need for This Book A Brief Introduction to the Two Stages of Anger If You Need Help Why I Wrote This Book

1. Stage One: Anger As a Protective Reaction

The Power-Boost Effect The Three Keys How Anger Prepares You for Stage Two

2. The Power of Stage Two

Attribute One: Anger Is Normal Attribute Two: Anger Covers Painful Feelings Attribute Three: Anger Is Uniquely Personal Attribute Four: Anger Is Based on Personal History Attribute Five: Anger Offers the Potential for Change

3. The Nature of Beliefs and Feelings

The Feelings Formula Creating and Maintaining Your Beliefs The Power of Frame of Reference Putting It All Together Beginning the Process

4. Step One: Acknowledge Your Anger and Safely Regain Your Emotional Balance

Discovering Your Personal Cue Regaining Your Emotional Balance Choose Your Experience The Gift-of-Anger Process

5. Step Two: Notice Your Thoughts and Feelings

Explore Your Memory of Your Experience How to Write a Self-Discovery Letter The Gift-of-Anger Process

6. Step Three: Give Yourself Validation

The Need for Validation The Gift-of-Anger Process

7. Step Four: Identify Your Unmet Need

The Cause and Effect of an Unmet Need Identifying Your Unmet Need The Gift-of-Anger Process

8. Step Five: Take Action to Meet Your Need

Guidelines for Meeting Your Need The Gift-of-Anger Process

9. Step Six: Explore the Other Person’s Frame of Reference

Why Do It? Your Timing Is Important How to Complete Step Six The Gift-of-Anger Process

10. Step Seven: Free Yourself with Forgiveness

The Limits and Gifts of Forgiveness When to Forgive Approaches to Forgiveness Completing the Process The Gift-of-Anger Process

11. When You’re Angry with Yourself

The Self-Directed Gift-of-Anger Process Blame, Guilt, Shame, and Hopelessness The Value of At-Onement Some Final Thoughts and Wishes

References Contact the Author