What You Really Really Want · the Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety by Friedman, Jaclyn -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Title Page Praise Dedication Introduction CHAPTER 1 - YOU CAN’T GET WHAT YOU WANT TILL YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

CLEARING A PATH DISCOVER WHERE YOU’RE STARTING FROM INFLUENCES RELIGIOUS INSTITUTIONS

CHAPTER 2 - BAD THINGS COME IN THREES: SHAME, BLAME, AND FEAR

SHAME BLAME FEAR

CHAPTER 3 - I’M OKAY, YOU’RE OKAY

AGE RACE CLASS GENDER SEXUAL ORIENTATION BODY TYPE SEXUAL TRAUMA STEREOTYPING OTHERS

CHAPTER 4 - A WOMAN’S INTUITION

YOU’RE NUMBER ONE GETTING REAL ABOUT RISK LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION HOW TO SAY NO SELF-DEFENSE

CHAPTER 5 - WHAT’S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT?

GOOD LOVE, BAD LOVE WHAT ABOUT LOVE HORMONES? MONOGAMY VS. POLYAMORY HOOKING UP UNEQUAL DESIRES/EXPECTATIONS FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS DEALING WITH HEARTBREAK

CHAPTER 6 - FREAKSAND GEEKS

TRIGGER FINGERS MAKING FRIENDS WITH YOUR FEELINGS STRONG IN THE BROKEN PLACES THE WRONG REASONS GET INTO THE DRIVER’S SEAT

CHAPTER 7 - LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX, BABY

DO I HAVE TO? WHAT TO SAY AND WHEN TO SAY IT ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT HOT OR NOT SAFE IS SEXY DIRTY TALK IF IT DOESN’T GO WELL BE KIND TO YOURSELF

CHAPTER 8 - IT’S COMPLICATED

ARE THERE RULES? THE BLOWJOB PARADOX BAD KISSING (AND OTHER MISFORTUNES) WHEN YOU AND YOUR BODY DISAGREE KINKS/BDSM FANTASY VS. REALITY DISCLOSING UNWANTED PAIN IF YOU’VE BEEN VIOLATED SAFECALLS

CHAPTER 9 - DO UNTO OTHERS

WHEN YOU AND YOUR PARTNER WANT DIFFERENT THINGS LYING WOMAN UP FETISHIZING SHAME MAKING AMENDS

CHAPTER 10 - FRIENDS AND FAMILY

FRIENDS IN LOW PLACES SLUT-SHAMING AND PRUDE-POLICING SETTING BOUNDARIES HOW TO TALK TO KIDS WINGWOMEN AND OTHER GREAT BIRDS

CHAPTER 11 - TO INFINITY AND BEYOND

TO BOLDLY GO GROW TOGETHER PAY IT FORWARD STRENGTH IN NUMBERS DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS

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