Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare · How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself by Arabi, Shahida -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Preface Introduction: My Story is Your Story Chapter 1: Recognizing the Narcissist

What is Narcissistic Abuse? What Causes Narcissism? Who is the Narcissist? The Narcissist’s False Self and True Self Who Does the Narcissist Target? The Abuse Cycle: Idealize, Devalue, Discard, Destroy, Hoover

Devaluation and Discard Hoovering

Victim-Blaming and Stereotypes About Narcissistic Abuse Are Narcissists Victims? Should We Feel Compassion for the Narcissist? Simultaneous Wounding and Complex PTSD: How Our Past Wounds Can Make Us Susceptible to Toxic Narcissists The Narcissist’s False Mask Gaslights the Public, Enabling the Abuse to Continue The Narcissist’s Next Victim 1. The Idealization-Devaluation-Discard Phase 2. Gaslighting. 3. Smear campaigns. 4. Triangulation. 5. The false self and the true self.

Dating Emotional Predators

1) A need for control. 2) Addicted to provoking you. 3) Inconsistent character and behavior. Signs of a Toxic Person’s Pathological Envy

Clichés That Fail Within Narcissistically Abusive Relationships The Essential Dictionary to Understanding Narcissistic Abuse The Narcissist Translator

11 Healing Steps How to Combat Biochemical and Trauma Bonds Self-Care Warrior Pro-tip

Healing Trauma in the Brain: Traditional Healing Methods Explained

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Therapy for Complex PTSD

Prolonged Exposure Therapy Cognitive Processing Therapy

Meditation DBT Group Therapy Support Groups

Alternative Healing Methods Explained

EMDR Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Yoga Mirror Work Art Therapy

Reverse Discourse and Narrative Therapy/ NLP Reframing

Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) and Self-Hypnosis Inner Child Work Acupuncture Chakra Balancing Cord Cutting Aromatherapy and Incense Spirituality/Faith/Prayer The Power of Nature Music Therapy as Catharsis

Self-Care Haven’s Music Library for Survivors

Self-Care Warrior Pro Tip: Hybrid Techniques Survivor Insights: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Distinguishing Between a Validating vs. Invalidating Therapist

Build Your Immunity Eradicating People-Pleasing Habits Recovery from Rejection

Let’s Recap: 7 Inalienable Truths About Narcissistic Abuse

SUPERTECHNIQUES AND “POWER-UPS”

Chapter 5: The Journey of No Contact

What No Contact is and what it isn't Why We Establish No Contact in the Context of Abusive Relationships How To Execute No Contact Effectively Sticking to No Contact No Contact’s Healing Power 111 Alternatives to Breaking No Contact Releasing Self-Judgment

Co-Parenting with a Narcissist by Kim Saeed

Survivor Insights: No Contact Chapter 6: Pathological Narcissism in the Family, Friendships, Workplace, Society and Culture

Female Narcissists in Friendships Narcissistic Family Members and Parents Narcissistic Co-Workers and Bosses How to Deal with Narcissists You Can’t Avoid: Six Ways to Skillfully Respond Cyberbullies

Chapter 10: Writing Your Way to Recovery and Closure Survivor Insights: What Would You Tell Other Survivors? A Closing Love Letter to Survivors FAQ: Fifty Shades of Narcissism Additional Resources on Narcissistic Abuse References About the Author