The Making of a Therapist · A Practical Guide for the Inner Journey [2004] by Cozolino, Louis -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Also by Louis Cozolino Title Page Dedication Contents Acknowledgments Introduction

Imagination and Reality Discovering and Taming the Unconscious The Goals of this Book

Part One: Getting Through Your First Sessions

1. What Have I Gotten Myself Into?

“I Don’t Know” Giving Yourself Permission to Not Know Desperately Seeking Systems Dreams of the Messiah

2. Getting Centered and Learning to Listen

Take Time to Get Centered The Power of Listening Eye Contact Communication Styles in Psychotherapy

3. Now What Do I Do?

Psychotherapy in a Nutshell What to Say, What to Do Case Conceptualizations Treatment Plans Case Notes The Catch-22

4. Survival Strategies

Don’t Panic in the Face of the Pathology Expect the Unexpected Crisis as Communication Don’t Try to Reason with an Irrational Person Don’t Forget a Client’s Strengths

5. Beware of Assumptions

Cultural and Religious Assumptions No One Is an Expert on Culture Prejudice Is Everywhere The Shame of the Accused

Part Two: Getting to Know Your Clients

6. Challenges and Strategies

The Value of Confusion The Good-Enough Therapist Making Good Mistakes The Projective Hypothesis Silence as a Background for Communication

7. The Therapist’s Feelings: Anticipated and Unanticipated

Impatience “Hey, That Was My Insight!” Sexual Attraction The Power of Regression Doctor Heal Thyself

8. It’s Scary to Go to Therapy: The Paradox of Client Resistance

The Basic Paradox Meeting Resistance with Acceptance Dealing with Cancellations Premature Termination Wanting to Fire a Client Discussing and Collecting Fees Making Interpretations

9. In the Eye of the Storm: The Therapist’s Challenge

Shuttling Between Yourself and Your Client Shuttling Between Mind and Body Learning from Distraction, Boredom, and Fatigue On Being Tied to the Mast The Seduction of Words Talking Less and Saying More Paying Attention to Dreams

10. Turning Weaknesses into Strengths

Taking Sides and Neutrality Reality Drift Knowing Your Stimulus Value Confidentiality

Part Three: Getting to Know Yourself

11. Uncovering Countertransference

Manifestations and Underlying Issues An Exercise in Uncovering Countertransference “Things Were Just Perfect”

12. The Making of a Caretaker

The Vulnerable Healer The Therapist’s Childhood in the Consulting Room Pathological Caretaking The Gifted Child Shame-Based Experience and Behavior Becoming a Therapist

13. Building a Satisfying and Sane Career: Cautions and Encouragement

Principle One: Know Your Limits and Select Your Clients Principle Two: Engage in Consistent Self-Care Principle Three: Keep Perspective Principle Four: Watch Out for Trauma Contagion Principle Five: Know Your Laws and Ethics What They Don’t Teach You in School What Therapeutic Orientation Should You Choose? Where Should You Work?

14. Walkin’ the Walk

Mindfulness Reunion

References and Suggested Readings Copyright Page