Start Here: Unanswered Questions
1. Laura Kann, PhD, Steve Kinchen, Shari L. Shanklin, MPH, et al., “Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance —United States,” MMWR 63, no. 4(2014): 112, www.cdc.gov/mmwr/pdf/ss/ss6304.pdf.
2. Pam Stenzel, HomeWord Daily radio show with Dr. Jim Burns, March 20, 2007.
3. “Nationally Representative CDC Study Finds 1 in 4 Teenage Girls Has a Sexually Transmitted Disease,” Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, March 10, 2008, www.cdc.gov/stdconference/2008/press/release-11march2008.htm.
4. “HPV and Cancer,” National Cancer Institute at the National Institutes of Health, March 15, 2012, www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/factsheet/Risk/HPV.
5. “Chlamydia—CDC Fact Sheet,” Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, January 2013, www.cdc.gov/Std/chlamydia/STDFact-Chlamydia.htm.
Chapter 1: The Loud Voices
1. Wiz Khalifa, “No Sleep” from Rolling Papers, written by Cameron Thomaz and Benjamin Levin, Atlantic Records and Rostrum Records, 2011.
2. Gilbert Cruz, Amanda Dobbins, Jesse David Fox, Margaret Lyons, Lindsey Weber, and Nate Jones, “100 Pop-Culture Things That Make You a Millennial,” Vulture, September 24, 2013, www.vulture.com/2013/09/100-pop-culture-things-that-make-you-millennial.html#photo=20x00068.
3. McAfee Digital Deception Study 2013: Exploring the Online Disconnect between Parents & Pre-teens, Teens and Young Adults, June 2013, www.mcafee.com/us/resources/reports/rp-digital-deception-survey.pdf, 18.
4. Ibid., 16.
5. Victoria J. Rideout, MA, Ulla G. Foehr, PhD, and Donald F. Roberts, PhD, Generation M2: Media in the Lives of 8- to 18-Year-Olds, The Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation, January 2010, http://kaiserfamilyfoundation.files.wordpress.com/2013/04/8010.pdf.
6. “Dirty song lyrics can prompt early teen sex,” NBCnews.com, August 7, 2006, www.nbcnews.com/id/14227775/ns/health-sexual_health/t/dirty-song-lyrics-can-prompt-early-teen-sex/#.UksbarwmYhc.
7. Don Reisinger, “91 percent of kids are gamers, research says,” CNET, October 11, 2011, www.cnet.com/news/91-percent-of-kids-are-gamers-research-says.
8. Rideout, Foehr, and Roberts.
9. “Nielsen Releases Quarterly Report on Cross-Platform Media Audience Behavior,” Nielsen.com, June 15, 2011, www.nielsen.com/us/en/press-room/2011/q1-cross-platform-report.html.
10. “Entertainment Weekly’s Top 100 TV Shows,” Your TV Tour Guide, July 2, 2013, http://tvtourguide.blogspot.com/2013/07/entertainment-weeklys-top-100-tv-shows.html.
11. Hollie McKay, “FCC proposing to allow more sex and profanity during kids’ television viewing hours,” FoxNews.com, May 21, 2013, www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2013/05/21/fcc-proposing-to-allow-more-sex-and-profanity-during-kids-television-viewing.
12. Rebecca Hagelin, “Study shows teens imitate risky sex of films, TV,” The Washington Times, August 12, 2012, www.washingtontimes.com/news/2012/aug/12/hagelin-study-shows-teens-imitate-risky-sex-of-fil/#ixzz2gUzHLlc0.
13. Ibid.
14. “Pornography Statistics,” XXXchurch, www.xxxchurch.com/extras/pornographystatistics.html.
15. “Pornography Statistics: Annual Report 2014,” Covenant Eyes, www.covenanteyes.com/pornstats.
16. Ibid.
17. “Teen Olympia Nelson takes stand against sexualised selfie photos,” ABC News Australia, September 23, 2013, www.abc.net.au/news/2013–09–23/australian-story-olympia-nelson-takes-stand-on-sexualised-selfie/4973912.
18. Olympia Nelson, “Dark undercurrents of teenage girls’ selfies,” The Age, July 11, 2013, www.theage.com.au/comment/dark-undercurrents-of-teenage-girls-selfies-20130710-2pqbl.html.
19. Simon Khalaf , “Flurry Five-Year Report: It’s an App World. The Web Just Lives in It,” Flurry, April 3, 2013, www.flurry.com/bid/95723/Flurry-Five-Year-Report-It-s-an-App-World-The-Web-Just-Lives-in-It#.U-pkG1M1Cuk.
20. Nancy Jo Sales, “Friends Without Benefits,” Vanity Fair, September 26, 2013, www.vanityfair.com/culture/2013/09/social-media-Internet-porn-teenage-girls.
21. Ibid.
Chapter 2: The Quiet Voices
1. Anne Marie Miller, “3 Things You Don’t Know About Your Children and Sex,” Church Leaders, www.churchleaders.com/youth/youth-leaders-articles/169715-anne-marie-miller-things-you-know-about-your-children-and-sex.html.
2. “Pornography Statistics: Annual Report 2014,” Covenant Eyes, www.covenanteyes.com/pornstats.
3. Mark Oestreicher, “What’s the Difference Between Teaching Middle Schoolers and High Schoolers About Dating and Sexuality?” whyismarko, February 6, 2012, http://whyismarko.com/whats-the-difference-between-teaching-middle-schoolers-and-high-schoolers-about-dating-and-sexuality.
4. Ibid.
5. Stephanie Desmon, “Study: 1 in 4 teen girls has an STD,” Boston Globe, March 12, 2008, www.boston.com/news/health/articles/2008/03/12/study_1_in_4_teen_girls_has_an_std.
6. Kathleen Doheny, “Many Teen Girls Mistakenly Think HPV Vaccines Cut Risk for All STDs,” U.S. News and World Report, January 5, 2012, http://health.usnews.com/health-news/family-health/cancer/articles/2012/01/05/many-teen-girls-mistakenly-think-hpv-vaccines-cut-risk-for-all-stds.
7. Andrew Stern, “Parents Urged to Go Beyond ‘Big Talk’ About Sex,” Reuters, March 3, 2008, www.reuters.com/article/2008/03/03/us-sex-adolescents-parents-idUSN2920679220080303.
Chapter 3: Opening the Doorways of Communication
1. Martin Daubney, “Experiment that convinced me online porn is the most pernicious threat facing children today,” Mail Online, September 25, 2013, www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2432591/Porn-pernicious-threat-facing-children-today-By-ex-lads-mag-editor-MARTIN-DAUBNEY.html.
2. Zoe Ruderman, “The Scary New Butt Beauty Trend,” Cosmopolitan, August 3, 2011, http://www.cosmopolitan.com/health-fitness/advice/a3634/anal-bleaching-trend.
3. “Injury Prevention & Control: Motor Vehicle Safety—Teen Drivers: Fact Sheet,” Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, October 7, 2014, cdc.gov/motorvehiclesafety/teen_drivers/teendrivers_factsheet.html.
Chapter 4: The Most Enjoyable Sex
1. Kann, Kinchen, Shanklin, et al.
2. G. Martinez, C. E. Copen, and J. C. Abma, Teenagers in the United States: Sexual Activity, Contraceptive Use, and Childbearing, 2006–2010 National Survey of Family Growth. National Center for Health Statistics 23, no. 31 (2011): 11, 26, www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/series/sr_23/sr23_031.pdf.
3. Maia Szalavitz, “How Oxytocin Makes Men (Almost) Monogamous,” Time, November 27, 2013, http://healthland.time.com/2013/11/27/how-oxytocin-makes-men-almost-monogamous.
4. Ross Douthat, “Why Monogamy Matters,” The New York Times, March 6, 2011, www.nytimes.com/2011/03/07/opinion/07douthat.html?_r=0.
5. E. O. Laumann, J. H. Gagnon, R. T. Michael, and S. Michaels, The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States, (Chicago: The University of Chicago Press, 1994).
6. Ibid., 115.
7. Ibid.
8. R. J. Levin and A. Levin, “Sexual Pleasure: The Surprising Preferences of 100,000 Women,” Redbook, September 1975, 51–58.
9. David G. Blanchflower and Andrew J. Oswald, Money, Sex, and Happiness: An Empirical Study (National Bureau of Economic Research Working Paper No. 10499, May 2004), cited in David R. Francis, “Monogamy Is Good—And Good For You,” The Christian Science Monitor, December 5, 2005, www.csmonitor.com/2005/1205/p15s01-cogn.html.
10. Mark D. White, PhD, “On Monogamy, Happiness, and Adultery,” Psychology Today, March 12, 2011, www.psychologytoday.com/blog/maybe-its-just-me/201103/monogamy-happiness-and-adultery.
11. “HPV and Cancer,” National Cancer Institute at the National Institutes of Health, www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/factsheet/Risk/HPV.
12. “Abortion Facts,” National Abortion Federation, www.prochoice.org/about_abortion/facts/women_who.html.
Chapter 6: Your Daughter
1. Vivian Diller, PhD, “Sex and the Single Teen: Internet Porn and Body Image,” Huffington Post, August 20, 2012, www.huffingtonpost.com/vivian-diller-phd/Internet-porn-body-image_b_1777026.html.
2. “Report of the APA Task Force on the Sexualization of Girls: Executive Summary,” American Psychological Association, 2007, www.apa.org/pi/wpo/sexualization.html.
3. Matt Thomas, “Going Gaga,” fab magazine, http://ladygaga.wikia.com/wiki/Fab_%28magazine%29.
4. Rideout, Foehr, and Roberts.
5. Randy Dotinga, “Dad’s Advice Could Be Key to Teens’ Sexual Activity,” U.S. News and World Report, October 18, 2012, http://health.usnews.com/health-news/news/articles/2012/10/18/dads-advice-could-be-key-to-teens-sexual-activity.
Chapter 7: Your Son
1. Rideout, Foehr, and Roberts.
2. “U.S. Teens Use Game Consoles More for Internet than Gaming,” eMarketer, February 28, 2014, www.emarketer.com/Article/US-Teens-Use-Game-Consoles-More-Internet-than-Gaming/1010647/3.
3. David Segal, “Does Porn Hurt Children?” The New York Times, March 28, 2014, www.nytimes.com/2014/03/29/sunday-review/does-porn-hurt-children.html?_r=1.
4. Rebecca Hagelin, “Study shows teens imitate risky sex of films, TV,” The Washington Times, August 12, 2012, www.washingtontimes.com/news/2012/aug/12/hagelin-study-shows-teens-imitate-risky-sex-of-fil/#ixzz2gUzHLlc0.
5. Mark Matlock, Twitter post, May 13, 2014, 6:54 a.m., https://twitter.com/MarkMatlock/status/466214851275390976.
Chapter 8: Fleeing
1. “Infidelity Statistics,” Statistic Brain, January 1, 2014, www.statisticbrain.com/infidelity-statistics.
2. “Freshman women’s binge drinking tied to sexual assault risk,” Science Blog, December 8, 2011, http://scienceblog.com/50305/freshman-womens-binge-drinking-tied-to-sexual-assault-risk, citing Testa, M., & Hoffman, J. H. (January 2012). “Naturally occurring changes in women’s drinking from high school to college and implications for sexual victimization,” Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs, 73(1), 26.
Chapter 9: The Lure of Porn
1. Sean McDowell, “The Hidden Price Tag of Porn,” Church Leaders, www.churchleaders.com/pastors/pastor-articles/156270-the-hidden-price-tag-of-porn.html.
2. “Pornography Statistics: Annual Report 2014,” Covenant Eyes, www.covenanteyes.com/pornstats.
3. “Children and Pornography,” Center for Parent/Youth Understanding, www.digitalkidsinitiative.com/files/2014/08/Children_and_Pornography_Factsheet-Revised-August-2014.pdf
4. “Pornography Statistics,” www.covenanteyes.com/pornstats.
5. Ibid.
6. Natalie Matthews, “See All the Ridiculously Hot, Nearly Naked Looks from Shakira and Rihanna’s New Video,” Elle, January 31, 2014, www.elle.com/news/culture/shakira-rihanna-cant-remember-forget-you-outfits-video.
7. Miller, “3 Things You Don’t Know About Your Children and Sex.”
8. Cecilia Kang, “Seeking Privacy, Teens Turn to Anonymous-Messaging Apps,” The Washington Post, February 16, 2014, www.washingtonpost.com/business/technology/seeking-privacy-teens-turn-to-anonymous-messaging-apps/2014/02/16/1ffa583a-9362-11e3-b46a-5a3d0d2130da_story.html.
9. Penny Marshall, “Teenage Boys Watching Hours of Internet Pornography Every Week Are Treating Their Girlfriends Like Sex Objects,” Mail Online, March 8, 2010, www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1255856/Teenage-boys-watching-hours-Internet-pornography-week-treating-girlfriends-like-sex-objects.html.
10. “Children, Adolescents, and the Media,” Pediatrics 132, no. 5 (November 1, 2013): 958–961, http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/132/5/958.full.
11. “Internet Porn Making Men Bad in Bed,” International Business Times, October 24, 2011, www.ibtimes.co.uk/Internet-porn-making-men-bad-in-bed-porn-xxx-pornography-sex-sexual-intercourse-cam2cam-erectile-dys-236295.
12. M. Robinson and G. Wilson, “Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction Growing Problem,” Psychology Today, July 11, 2011.
13. Ibid.
Chapter 10: Providing Answers About Masturbation
1. Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, and Michaels, The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States.
2. “Love Yourself!” Seventeen, www.seventeen.com/health/tips/love-yourself.
3. Alan Mozes, “Study Tracks Masturbation Trends Among U.S. Teens,” U.S. News and World Report, August 1, 2011, http://health.usnews.com/health-news/family-health/womens-health/articles/2011/08/01/study-tracks-masturbation-trends-among-us-teens.
4. “Millennials in Adulthood,” PewResearch, March 7, 2014, www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/03/07/millennials-in-adulthood.
5. Stern, “Parents Urged to Go Beyond ‘Big Talk’ About Sex.”
6. Bonnie Rochman, “Who Are Teens’ Sexual Role Models? Turns Out, It’s Their Parents,” Time, July 18, 2011, http://healthland.time.com/2011/07/18/surprise-teens-consider-parents-their-sexual-role-models.
7. Jordan Monge, “The Real Problem With Female Masturbation,” Christianity Today, April 2014, www.christianitytoday.com/women/2014/april/real-problem-with-female-masturbation.html.
8. Martinez, Copen, and Abma, “Teenagers in the United States: Sexual Activity, Contraceptive Use, and Childbearing.”
9. John Piper, “ANTHEM: Strategies for Fighting Lust,” Desiring God, November 5, 2001, www.desiringgod.org/articles/anthem-strategies-for-fighting-lust.
Chapter 11: Surviving a Blotted Past
1. Kann, Kinchen, Shanklin, et al, “Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance —United States, 2013.”
2. “Child Sexual Abuse Statistics,” The National Center for Victims of Crime, www.victimsofcrime.org/media/reporting-on-child-sexual-abuse/child-sexual-abuse-statistics.
3. Dean G. Kilpatrick, Benjamin E. Saunders, and Daniel W. Smith, Youth Victimization: Prevalence and Implications (Washington, D.C.: U.S. Department of Justice, 2003), 5.
Chapter 12: Tough Questions
1. Randye Hoder, “Study Finds Most Teens Sext Before They’re 18,” Time, July 3, 2014, http://time.com/2948467/chances-are-your-teen-is-sexting.
2. Dr. Sanjay Gupta, “Have you had the ‘sext’ talk with your kids?” CNN Health, June 30, 2014, http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2014/06/30/have-you-had-the-sext-talk-with-your-kids.
3. Casey E. Copen, PhD; Kimberly Daniels, PhD; Jonathan Vespa, PhD; and William D. Mosher, PhD, “First Marriages in the United States: Data From the 2006–2010 National Survey of Family Growth,” National Health Statistics Reports, no. 49, March 22, 2012, 2, www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr049.pdf.
4. Sharon Jayson, “Living Together: No Big Deal?” USA Today, March 26, 2011, http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/printedition/life/20080609/d_worldcohab09.art.htm.
What Now?
1. Stern, “Parents Urged to Go Beyond ‘Big Talk’ About Sex.”