Contents

Part I       Adult Children

1. Introduction

2. Two Stories

3. Who Are We? What Are Our Symptoms?

4. Some Hooks: Addictions in Particular

Interlude       5. The Bear

Part II       Family Roots

6. Family Systems: Structure, Function, Roles, Boundaries

7. The Traps Get Set

8. When Families Get Off Course

Interlude       9. The Goose

Part III     What Happens to Me?

10. The Denial

11. The Feelings

12. The Secrets

13. What Happens to Our Identity

14. Intimacy and Beyond

Interlude       15. The Rabbit

Part IV     Beneath the Iceberg

16. A General Model of Adult Children and Co-dependency

Part V       Recovering: What Do I Do Now?

17. Uncovering and Admitting

18. Working a Program

19. A Word about Healing and Spirituality

Postlude         20. Kiss Your Monster on the Nose

References/Bibliography

Appendix