index

aesthetics, 4. See also miyabi

akanuke (urbanity), 93

alcohol, 87–89

ambiance, 90–91

aphrodisiacs, 125–29, 131

Akasaka, 94

Asakusa, 93–94

azuki bean, 13, 90, 155

azuki bean soup, 15

bath additives, 32, 34, 38–39, 42

bath scents, 38–39

bath tea, 42

bathhouse games, 120–21

bathing, mixed, 31

bathing tips, 22, 29–43, 122–23

bathing, Japanese style, 33–34

bathroom, 63–64

bathtubs, 31–32

bedroom, decoration in, 68–69, 82

beef, 86

bento (box lunch), 84

birth control, 149

bitai (coquetry), 93

black vs. white, in decorating, 66–67

blood type, 202

body language, 106

body scrub, 35

bondage, 185–89, 216, 217

bondage kit, 187

bondage rope, 187

bondage rules, 189

breathing and orgasm, 171

breathing and sex, 48

breathing techniques, 47–49

breathing, 21–22

bubble dance, 122

Buddhism, 2, 3, 5, 35, 50, 213

“butterflies of the night,” 56

calligraphy, 103, 105

candles, 72, 73, 82

Cherry Bomb vibrator, 198

chikan (“gropers”), 216

China, 2, 11, 29, 50, 87

Chinese medicine, 41

chocolate, 63, 130–31, 152

citron bath, 39

cleanliness, 63, 69, 152, 198–99. See also bathing tips

clitoral orgasm, 59

clitoris, 60, 61, 139, 195, 201

clothing tips, 99–100

color, 69–71, 98–99

compliments, 132. See also flattery

condoms, 142

conversation, 6–7, 132, 150–51, 175

“cool.” See iki

Cosplay Girl, 206

courtesan, 4–5, 6, 14–15, 17, 19, 23–24, 60, 116, 128; and bathing, 29; clothing of, 99; as entertainer, 181; and foreplay, 144; and oral sex, 154, 158; ; and sex, 163; sexual positions of, 172; view of sex of, 134

creation myth, 135 crossing legs, 20

cunnilingus, 157–59

dance, 106, 123–25, 178, 220

decoration, 62–64, 65–67

desserts, 86

diet, 55

dildo, 59, 159, 192–94, 217

double dildo, 194

Edo period: bath, 30, 120; beauty ideals, 11, 14, 22, 23, 92, 93, 105; customs, 4, 42, 128, 203, 211, 213; erotic arts, 9, 59, 147, 157, 189, 219; sex aids, 194, 196, 199, 209; sideshows and games, 167, 181, 184. See also iki

eggs for lubrication, 137

ejaculation, 174; delaying, 168

“emotional brain,” 77

empress, 2, 62, 114

enjo kosai, (compensated dating), 8, 217

erogenous zones, 145, 154

erotic breathing, 49

erotic meditation, 44–61

eyebrows, 11

eyes, 10–12, 15

fan, 22, 114

feet, 17–18

female genitalia, 138–39

fertility festivals, 135

fetishes, 215–18

“figure eight” walk, 23

fireplace, 90

fish, 86

fishnet tights, 216

flattery, 117–18, 175

flirting, 114–16

“floating world,” 4, 30, 47, 93, 200, 209, 211, 214, 219

flowers and Japanese women, 21

food, 83–86, 90. See also recipes

foreplay, 143–46, 201

fountain, 38, 52, 74

fragrance. See perfume; scent and taste frenulum, 141, 149

fugu, 128–29

furnishings, 64–67

gagging, 171, 188

games, 117, 176–185, 202. See also bathhouse games; geisha games; play

garden, 51, 57, 74

geisha, 6–7, 100; and bathing, 29, 38; and conversation, 101; and dance, 124; dialect, 102; entering a room, 21; and flowers, 21; and food, 83, 87; games, 117; and iki, 94–95, 96, 110; and lesbianism, 214; and oral sex, 151; and play, 112–13; posture of, 19; and sake, 88; scent of, 78; serenity of, 47; and tea, 49–50

Genji Monogatari (Tale of Genji), 3, 103, 143

Genroku era, 5

geta (clogs), 24, 178

ginger compress, 36

Ginza, 94

glans-cap, 199

“gluteal squeeze,” 161, 162

green tea, 41, 49, 50–51, 53, 86, 90

group sex, 210–12

G-spot, 59, 168–69, 195

hair, 14–16, 164, 171, 216

hanafuda (card game), 117

handcuffs, 188

hands, 16–17

handwriting, 103–4

hanko (name stamp), 105–6

hari, 10, 18, 27, 93

harigata (dildo), 193. See also dildo harness and rope, 194

Heian court ladies, 2–4, 11, 12, 13, 21, 58, 69, 80, 97, 101, 134, 216

hentai (erotic comics, films), 218–19

high heels, 24, 178

Himiko, 2

homosexual encounters, 212–15

hostess, 7–8, 57, 204, 214; bars, 184; clubs, 94, 150; geisha as, 64

hot spring. See onsen hot water soak, 37

humor, 113

hydrotherapy, 39

ice, 89–90, 153

Ihara Saikaku, 5, 12, 17, 21, 111, 151, 179, 213

ikebana, 6, 17

iki (“cool”): color, 98–100; communication, 100–101; elements of, 92–93; essence, 109–11; looking, 96–97

incense, 76, 80–82

jokyu (cafe girls), 7

Kabuki, 95, 124

karyukai (“world of flowers and willows”), 4, 6, 155

kimono, 3, 4, 5, 9, 17, 19, 20, 64, 101, 106, 114, 117, 144, 176, 189; decorating with, 64, 68–69; and iki, 92, 93–97, 98, 100; and flirting, 116, 126

kissiing, 164

kokono-tokoro (nine points of beauty), 9

kotatsu, 90

labia, 139

language of courtesan, 138

lanterns, 91

lap dancing, 179

lesbianism, 214

life-size sex dolls, 200–203

lighting, 51, 60, 72–73

live sex shows, 167, 181–84

love hotel, 203–209

love letters, 102–105

“love pillow,” 202

lovemaking, 134. See also foreplay; sexual positions

lubricant, 60–61, 159–62, 155

lungs, 48

maiko, 10, 12, 22, 99, 105, 124

maiko, hairstyle of, 14

makeup, 55

makeup, of geisha, 10–11

Makura no Soshi (Pillow Book), 3

male genitalia, 140–43

maneki-neko (beckoning cats), 115

manga, 156, 185, 206

massage, 16, 17–18, 41–42

masturbation, 59–61, 144, 190–91

matcha (green tea). See green tea mattress, 69

meditation techniques, 45–47,

meditation, 54

Meiji period, 27, 94, 181, 212, 214, 216

mint, 58. 153

mirrors, 22, 61, 67, 146, 177, 184, 190, 207

miyabi (courtly beauty), 4, 7

mizuage (first sexual encounter), 136–37

mizushobai (“water trade” or sex business), 182

mono no aware (experience of transient beauty), 58–59

mood, setting the, 63

mouth, 12

mouth feel, 77

movement, 18, 19, 22

Murasaki Shikibu, 3, 13, 14, 103

music, 74–75

nagajuban (underslip), 116, 144

Namiki fountain pen, 104, 105

nape of neck, 11, 27, 72, 94, 106, 217

nipple clips, 189

Noh theater, 91

noise, 76

noodles, 85

noren, 65

nudes, photographs of, 218

nudity, 31, 36, 60, 176

obi, 99, 176

obijime (cord), 185

ofuro (bath), 30

oiran, 142, 147, 150, 171, 200

Okame (good luck folk goddess), 135

onsen (hot spring resort), 31, 36–38

oral sex, 150–59

orgasm, 59, 145, 157, 169, 170–74, 186, 191, 192

oshiroi (white powder), 11

oysters, 129–30

parasol, 22, 95, 110

pearls, 129, 187, 198, 199

penile aids, 199–200

penis, 134–36, 140–41, 145

penis contraction, 162

“penis play,” 147–50

peppermint cream, 201

perfume, 77–80

“phallus game,” 3

phallus shapes, 135

pheromones, 63

phone sex, 118–19

piercings, 108–9

Pillow Book, 76, 102

pillow books, 5

play, 112–13, 119, 121

playful sex techniques, 154

pornography, 218–19

portable spa, 37

post sex, 174–75

posture, 18–20

prostitution, 5, 7, 30, 120, 210

“pubic squeeze,” 161, 171

public bath, 120

purification, 30, 31

recipes: aphrodisiac, 127; azuki bean soup, 15; bento box, 84; sake, 89; whipped cream, 180

reed curtain, 68

rice bran, 13

rin no tama (benwa balls), 197–99

rose petals bath, 39

sake, 87–89, 115

sake bath, 34

salads, 86

saliva as lubricant, 154–55, 160

sashimi, 90

scent and taste, 76–83

screens (byobu), 67–68

seaweed bath, 32

seaweed body pack, 35

seduction, 10, 16, 20–23, 44, 72, 145

Sei Shonagon, 3, 76, 90, 102

semen, 151

sensual foods, 83–86

sex games, 184–85

“sex points,” 144–45, 187

sex toys, 191–92, 201

“sexercises,”161, 162

sexual positions, 162–68; of courtesan, 172–73

sexy cuisine, 83

sexy sumo games, 121

shakuhachi (flute), 150–51

shaved genitals, 185

shiatsu, 17–18, 41–42

shibari. See bondage

shikishi (writing card), 104

shinju (lovers’ suicide), 128

Shinto, 29, 36, 134–35

shoes, removing, 17

shopping bags, 95

shunga, 5, 59, 135–36, 145, 146, 157, 158, 170, 174, 185, 197, 193, 212, 215, 216

silence, use of, 75

skin care, 12–13

skylight, 73–74

sleep, 20, 56–58, 161

smell, sense of, 63–64, 76, 77. See also scent and taste

soapland, 7–8, 120–122, 208

sounds, 74–76

spas, 36–38

spirit, 9, 18, 27, 93; body and, 29, 37, 46. See also harii

“split peach” hair style, 137, 158

stairs, climbing, 25

STDs, 142, 162

striptease, 177–179

Suiko, 22

sushi, 88

Takarazuka All-Girl Revue, 7

Tale of Genji, 3, 103, 143

Taoist mind-body techniques, 167–68

taste, 82–83

tattoos, 107–8

tayu, 4, 5, 14–15, 101, 116, 125, 128, 176, 211

tea, 49–56; bath, 42

tea, history of, 50–52

tea, types of, 52

tea ceremony, 6, 17, 49–54, 90

tea implements, 50

tempura, 85

testicles, 140, 141

threesome, 202

toilet, 40

“touch show,” 183

ukiyo, 5, 93, 94

ukiyoe, 9, 73, 87, 95, 98

underwear, 95

vagina, 139, 141, 159, 160, 169, 195

vagina, artificial, 200

vibrator, 61, 195–96

voice, 26–27

voyeurism, 146, 189–90

wa, kei, sei, jaku (principles of tea ceremony), 53–54

walk, 23

wet dreams, 58

whip, 188

whipped cream, 180, 181

White Day, 131

wind chime, 65, 75

yellow chrysanthemum bath, 39

yin and yang, 134

yoin (resonance), 132

Yoshiwara, 4, 5, 94, 101, 120, 137, 155, 168, 210

yugen (elegant beauty), 106

yukata (lightweight kimono), 207

yujo (prostitute), 171, 181, 185, 192, 198

yuna (bath maiden), 8, 30, 120, 167

Zen, 45, 50, 51, 54–56

Jina Bacarr has written business books and magazine and newspaper articles about Japan. She was the Japanese consultant on KCBS-TV, MSNBC, Tech TV’s Wired for Sex, and British Sky Broadcasting Ltd.’s Saucy TV, and has appeared in Japanese commercials, worked as a companion girl for a Japanese company, and studied the art of kimono with a teacher whose family has been in the kimono business for 400 years. She was the Lifestyles Editor on “The Tony Trupiano Show” on Talk America Radio Network, a late-night radio jock, and produced and hosted her own weekly radio show “On the Wild Side,” the spicier side of books, on Book Crazy Radio. A graduate of UC Irvine, Jina speaks French, German, Italian, Spanish, and conversational Japanese. She has had three plays produced and has written more than forty scripts for daytime television (including thirty animation scripts). She has also taught a college course about women in Japan. Jina Bacarr’s website is at www.SuzyIQ.com.

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