Chapter 5. Raising a Green Family

People who care about the environment care about the future. When you start thinking in terms of family—your children, your grandchildren, their children, and so on—you begin to realize that the earth isn't yours to use and exploit. It doesn't belong to you, not even the patch of ground you live on—no matter what the property deed says. Your job is to care for and then pass on a robust, thriving, sustainable planet.

One of your duties as caretaker for your kids and the earth is to teach your children that they, too, have a responsibility to the planet and those who'll come after them. This chapter suggests lots of ways to do that. It also has tons of info about caring for you kiddo in environmentally friendly ways before she's old enough to be green herself. And pets are part of your family, as well, so there's a section on them, too.

When you welcome the newest member of your family, you want to be sure that baby's environment is safe, healthy, and natural. It's hard enough for new parents to get a good night's sleep without worrying about their babies getting exposed to harmful chemicals. This section explains the most important stuff to watch out for, and offers tips to help protect the newest member of your family—and the planet.

There's more to getting the nursery ready choosing a pink or blue color scheme. Just like furniture for grown-ups, new baby furniture can give off icky vapors (How Household Chemicals Can Affect Your Health) like formaldehyde, which can irritate the eyes, nose, and throat and may cause coughing or wheezing and allergic reactions such as hives. In the late '80s, the U.S. EPA classified formaldehyde as a probable carcinogen when people are exposed to large amounts or for a long time. That's more exposure than your baby is likely to get in the nursery, but why take chances?

Where does formaldehyde lurk? Mostly in pressed-wood products made with adhesives that contain urea-formaldehyde (UF) resins. That includes particle board, plywood, or fiberboard; plywood paneling; and medium-density fiberboard, which often gets used for cabinets and drawer fronts.

Another group of chemicals you want to avoid are the fire retardants PBDEs (polybrominated diphenyl ethers). They're added to many foam and plastic items, and when such products are made, the PBDEs don't bind chemically with the plastic, so they leach out into the environment. According to U.S. Public Interest Research Group, an environmental and consumer advocacy organization, exposure to the specific PBDE Deca-BDE can have all kinds of nasty effects including brain and liver damage, problems with reproductive-system development, and impaired thyroid function.

That's scary stuff, so of course you want to avoid exposing your kiddo to PBDEs. They might be in common items like mattresses, textiles, and carpets. But even if you keep the nursery PBDE-free, you're not totally out of the woods. That's because PBDEs are stored in the body's fat and accumulate in breast milk, so if Mom gets exposed to these dangerous chemicals, she could unwittingly pass them on to her baby at feeding time. Outside the nursery, you might find them in things like computer and TV casings.

In 2008, the Environmental Working Group published a study that found the average American toddler's blood contains three times as much Deca-BDE than his mother's. That's not good. Fortunately, the European Union and several U.S. states have banned certain kinds of PBDEs, and a number of companies—including Dell, Hewlett Packard, Sony, Panasonic, and Phillips—have stopped using them. But many products still contain these chemicals, including Deca-BDE, which has been specifically excluded from some bans.

As if that wasn't enough to worry about, you should take steps to prevent every parent's worst nightmare: SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome). While scientists don't know exactly what causes it, some studies have found a possible link between SIDS and the toxic fumes released by mattresses. One theory is that fungi, which occur naturally in the mattress, react with chemicals used to treat the mattress and produce toxic gases. To protect your baby, wrap the mattress in polyethylene sheeting (see the following list for details) to create a barrier and seal the gases inside. Although these studies remain controversial, it's important to know that foam mattresses may pose a danger to your baby.

When you're decorating the nursery, use this list to choose safe, healthy products, so you and baby can both sleep soundly:

After choosing a name for your baby, perhaps the biggest question prospective parents face is what kind of diapers to use. Changing diapers is a dirty job—and one that you'll do roughly 6,000 times before your newborn is toilet trained. Disposable and cloth diapers both have an impact on the environment, but there's a cool (relatively) new option: biodegradable diapers. To help you decide which kind to use, the following sections explain the impacts of each.

When it comes to convenience, disposables are the clear winner. For a frazzled parent, anything that lets you cross an item off your to-do list is a good thing. And changing diapers is yucky enough—many people would rather throw dirty diapers away and forget them than rinse, soak, and wash used cloth diapers.

But disposables don't just disappear when you toss 'em. Those 6,000 diapers the average baby uses mean a lot of waste headed for the landfill. Each year, Americans throw out 18 billion disposable diapers, which will take at least a couple of centuries to decompose—if they're exposed to air and sunlight. In a containment landfill (Destination: Landfill), they'll be around pretty much forever. And soiled diapers can contaminate the landfill's leachate (Destination: Landfill), which may leak and pollute the area.

Manufacturing disposables takes a toll on the environment, too. The disposable diapers used in just one year in the U.S. require 82,000 pounds of plastic and more than 250,000 trees. Diaper companies don't give detailed info about what their products are made of, but they typically include bleached paper pulp, polypropylene plastic, petrolatum, tributyl-tin, stearyl alcohol, cellulose tissue, sodium polyacrylate elastic, glues, dyes, and perfumes. Here are some of the problems with those ingredients:

Your kid will spend around 20,000–25,000 hours in diapers. So if you're concerned about the chemicals in disposables, choose cloth or biodegradable diapers instead.

A final factor to consider is cost: Buying 6,000 disposable diapers at 20 cents apiece adds up to of $1,200. That's a lot of money to spend on landfill filler!

These diapers offer the convenience of disposables without cramming landfills full of waste. Made from bioplastics (which are made from plant material, not petroleum—see Rejecting Wasteful Packaging), biodegradable diapers are compostable.

If you've got a composting toilet or vermicomposting system (Neem oil), it can break these diapers down in a matter of days, rather than years. Some cities, like Toronto, have door-to-door composting programs that accept soiled diapers. If your city has a composting program, check to see whether they take biodegradable diapers. Whatever you do, don't throw them in the trash: In a containment landfill, they'll take just as long to decompose as disposables.

Brands to try include Tushies (www.tushies.com), Nature Babycare (www.naty.com), and Nature Boy & Girl (www.natureboyandgirl.net). gDiapers (www.gdiapers.com) makes a cloth-biodegradable hybrid, which combines a washable cotton outer pant with a fluffed-wood and rayon insert made from Sustainable Forestry Initiative–certified trees (www.sfiprogram.org). You can flush the insert.

Note

Some biodegradable diapers are made with sodium polyacrylate (Biodegradable diapers) or AGM, a super-absorbent gel linked to increased childhood asthma and reproductive problems in boys. Make sure any diapers you buy are gel-free.

There's no question that these diapers are less convenient than disposables. They're messy, stinky, and cleaning them takes work. But even when you factor in the water and energy it takes to wash them, cloth diapers are more earth-friendly than the throwaway kind. And maybe knowing you're doing right by the planet can help you ignore the smell.

Before the stork arrives, buy 2–3 dozen cloth diapers and put them through the wash several times to soften 'em and remove any chemicals that might be in them. (Better yet, opt for unbleached diapers made from organic cotton, hemp, or bamboo.) Then get a diaper pail with a lid. When you change diapers, dunk the soiled one in the toilet bowl a few times to rinse it, and then put it in the pail. There are two approaches to using diaper pails:

On laundry day, here's how to get cloth diapers clean:

You'll probably wash a load of diapers every two or three days. Don't stuff too many into the washer, though—limit loads to two dozen diapers, max—or they won't get as clean.

What about the environmental impact of all that laundry? Cloth diapers have a much smaller ecological footprint than the disposable kind. One study found that home-washing cloth diapers has 47% less of an impact than disposables. And using a diaper service has only half the impact of washing diapers at home.

Cloth diapers put natural fibers next to your baby's skin rather than bleached paper, plastic, and potentially hazardous chemicals. And as noted on Biodegradable diapers, they're less likely to cause diaper rash than disposables (make sure you change them frequently).

How much do they cost? Between $200 and $700 for the time your baby is in diapers (that includes washing and drying them). The exact figure depends on things like the kind you buy, local water and electricity rates, and whether you dry them outdoors or in a dryer. And unlike disposables, you can reuse cloth diapers when the next baby comes along or as cleaning rags.

When your child is an infant, breast-feeding provides the best nutrition. Breast milk is the food nature intended for babies, and it's healthy for both mother and child. It's easier to digest than baby formula and is full of antibodies that protect your little one from disease. According to the U.S. Department of Heath and Human Services, breast-fed babies are less likely to get ear and respiratory infections, stomach viruses and upsets, and atopic dermatitis (a type of eczema). They also have lower rates of childhood leukemia, asthma, diabetes, and obesity. And breastfeeding moms are at lower risk of type 2 diabetes, breast cancer, ovarian cancer, and postpartum depression.

But sometimes breastfeeding is impossible or impractical. Breast milk changes as a baby develops, and occasionally the child refuses to feed. Or the mom may not produce enough milk. In rare cases, a doctor may advise against breastfeeding, such as when the mother is taking antiretroviral medications or undergoing chemotherapy. Moms who can't breastfeed their babies have these options:

When it's time to start your baby on solid foods, begin with very thin cereals and vegetables that have a high liquid content. You can buy organic baby food (Earth's Best is one brand to try), or you can easily make your own so you know exactly what's going into baby's mouth. Whipping up your own takes just a few steps:

  1. Buy fresh or frozen fruits and vegetables (or grow your own). Buy organic when you can, to avoid pesticides and artificial fertilizers. Good fruits and veggies to start with include apples, apricots, asparagus, avocados, bananas, blueberries, peaches, pears, peas, plums, potatoes, prunes, and sweet potatoes.

  2. Wash your hands, and then wash the fruits and veggies thoroughly. Peel and remove seeds if they have any.

  3. Cook the food in a small amount of water—boil or steam it—until soft. If you prefer, use breast milk or formula instead of water. Don't add any sugar, salt, or spices: Your baby will like the unseasoned taste just fine.

  4. Pour the food and liquid into a blender or food processor and puree. For children just starting solid foods, add water or breast milk to thin the mixture. As your child adjusts to solids, you can use less liquid to get a paste-like consistency.

  5. Let the food cool to room temperature. Put a little of it in a bowl and feed it to your child in small spoonfuls (if any is left over in the bowl, throw it away after the feeding). Freeze the rest of the batch in an ice cube tray. When it's frozen, place each ice cube–sized portion in a plastic bag. Seal and label it so you know what type of food it is and the date you prepared it. You can store baby food in the freezer for up to two months.

Even the sweetest little bundle of joy has a way of getting dirty. To keep your baby clean, skip the products that contain preservatives and other iffy chemicals, dyes, and fragrances (nothing smells better than a baby's clean skin, anyway). Instead, try these natural alternatives:

New parents often feel overwhelmed by all the stuff that comes into their lives along with a baby: stroller, car seat, high chair, bibs, toys, and a whole lot more. You can buy many of these things used, or get them from a friend or family member who doesn't need 'em anymore—that's putting the principle of reuse into action. This section takes a quick look at green approaches to specific baby supplies.