The Accidental Divorcee by Laura Scott -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

Index

Cover The Accidental Divorcée Copyright Dedication Table of Contents Foreword Introduction

The Flying Book What this Book Is What this Book Is Not Stories, Stories: Personal and Other

Chapter 1 – So It’s Over—Temporarily or Permanently

How Did I Get Here? Why Do Marriages End? One Person The Leaver The Left Denial Isn’t Just a Place in Egypt Clues Game Changer

Chapter 2 – Victim of Love: The Five Stages of Grief

Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance Why It’s Natural to Grieve The Why Nots Blocks to Healing Emotional Boot Camp How Grief Works Backward

Chapter 3 – Your Swimming Pool

Refilling Your Pool Natural Talent Cultivating Relationships Distractions A New Routine

Chapter 4 – Everyone Else

Intrigue and Gossip: What to Say and What Not to Say Picking Sides Losing Extended Family Losing Couple Friends The Pot Stickers: Those Who Stick with You

Chapter 5 – A Shock to the System

Sleep Issues Sexual Concerns Not Eating Overdoing Exercise Crying Falling Apart Distraction and Loss of Focus Unreliability Fear and Uncertainty Talk Talk Talk Going to Excess White-Hot Anger Cussing Shopping and Spending Dreams and Fantasies about Your Ex Hating Your Stuff Pain Wanting to Not Be Here Anymore Return of Childhood Issues The Dance of Guilt and Relief

Chapter 6 – The Aftermath of an Affair

The Exit Affair You Lied to Me Angry, Outraged, and Indignant Your Own Takeaway Ignorance Is Bliss Obsession Crimes of Passion Elizabeth’s Breakthrough An Exercise to Stop Obsession Affair Outcome

Chapter 7 – The Divorce Process

IT Security/Spying Divorce Lawyers Decisions, Decisions The Big Stuff: Things to Pay Attention to Divorce Day To Sum It Up Who’s Crying Now? Karma

Chapter 8 – After the Divorce

Coparenting after Divorce Developing a New Relationship with Your Ex The Work-Around Doing the Best You Can for Where You Are Society’s Denial of Loss Everyone Wants You to Move On/The Backward Compliment Establish Your Own Turf

Chapter 9 – How Being Single Is Different from Being Married

The Process of Individuation Taking Off the Ring Newfound Freedom Rainy Days and Mondays Epiphany New Relationships Why Time Is Your Friend The First Set of Holidays Pet: Free Terapy Music Terapy

Chapter 10 – Divorce Stories Chapter 11 – Traditional and Nontraditional Sources of Help

Counseling/Terapy Faith and Church Resources Divorce Recovery Groups Not-So-Traditional Help

Chapter 12 – A Long Road—Forgiveness and Healing

The Terrible Gift Wrapping Up

Epilogue Acknowledgments About the Author Endnotes