Healing Stress in Military Families by DeCarvalho, Lorie T. -- Read -- Imperial Library of Trantor

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Cover Contents Title Copyright Dedication Preface Acknowledgments How to Use this Book Introduction: All in the Family: Sources of Stress The 8 Steps to Healing and Wellness

Step 1: Connect

Building the Relationship The Stress on Military Families Setting the Stage The Important Roles of the Family Different Folks, Different Strokes The Common Ground for the Family Rebuilding the Foundation of Trust Reframing and Redirecting Toward Positive Making It Real: Practicing Healthy Communication Making it Real: Providing Support Making it Real: Practicing Appreciation Practice Makes Perfect Final Thoughts Keys to Family Wellness

Step 2: Explain

Informing of Experiences Setting the Stage The Trust Factor Josh and Sarah’s Family Struggles A Note About Children in the Sessions His Needs, Her Needs Making it Real: Discovering Needs Making it Real: A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words Making it Real: Story Sharing Final Thoughts Keys to Family Wellness

Step 3: Discover

Strengthening Coping Skills Setting the Stage Managing the Family’s Stress The Family’s Coping Style Proactive Coping Making it Real: Practicing Positive Coping Achieving Balance Caregiver Stress Taking Care of Herself to Care for Her Family When Stress Gets Out of Control The Need for Reactive Coping Skills Downshifting Making it Real: Practicing Reactive Coping Skills Negative Coping Making it Real: Positive or Negative Coping? Final Thoughts Keys to Family Wellness

Step 4: Empower

Focusing On Strengths Setting the Stage Identifying and Sharing Emotions Making it Real: Identifying Feelings Family Beliefs About Sharing Making it Real: Deepening Communication Parenting Family Rituals Robert and Felicia’s Family Rituals Final Thoughts Keys to Family Wellness

Step 5: Improve

Changing Negative Thoughts Changes in the Military Family Setting the Stage Not Just a Problem With Sex Eroding Trust in the Family Issues in Sexual Intimacy Considerations During Treatment Intimacy Issues With Dan and Kate Sexual Intimacy and Communication Self-Disclosure Taking Sides Important Precautions Starting Self-Disclosure: Kate’s Perspective Going Beneath the Surface Starting Self-Disclosure: Dan’s Perspective The Gist of the Matter Making it Real: Intimacy, Sex, Thoughts, and Feelings Making it Real: Defining Intimacy in the Relationship Making it Real: Breaking it Down Using Socratic Questioning to Help Kate The How-To of Socratic Questioning Making it Real: Challenging and Correcting Final Thoughts Keys to Family Wellness

Step 6: Process

Taking a Deeper Look Setting the Stage Why People Stuff Their Emotions A Case in Point: Robert and Felicia Discovering Patterns Making it Real: Changing Beliefs About Sharing Emotions Robert’s Past Experiences With Sharing Felicia’s Past Experiences With Sharing Coming to Truce Opening Up About Traumatic Experiences Feeling Out of Place in the Family Michael’s Sharing Process The Need to Grieve Some More Precautions Before Processing Trauma Making it Real: Honoring the Loss Traumatic Grief Making it Real: Meaning Making Letting Love Come In Making it Real: Unconditional Support and Acceptance Final Thoughts Keys to Family Wellness

Step 7: Challenge

Setting Higher Life Goals Key Issues for John and Amy Setting the Stage Assessing Needs and Personal Life Values Setting Aside Dreams Making it Real: Assessing Needs and Clarifying Values John’s Experience Amy’s Experience Making it Real: Aligning Visions Helping Family Members Get Unstuck Connecting the Dots Goal Setting in John and Amy’s Family Making it Real: Enhancing the Vision Making it Real: Setting Goals for Positive Life Change Working Toward the Greater G.O.O.D. Positive Directions for John and Amy Revisiting Our Families: Josh, Sarah, Amanda, and Tyler Revisiting Our Families: Dan and Kate Moving Toward Resiliency Keys to Family Wellness

Step 8: Grow

Fostering Lifelong Resilience Setting the Stage Overview of the Problem Promoting Family Cohesion The Shared Values of the Family Making it Real: Our Core Values Fostering Gratitude in Robert and Felicia’s Family Making it Real: Communicating Gratitude Termination: A Resilient Future Making it Real: Toward a Resilient Future Michael, Lisa, and Abby Dan and Kate John and Amy Josh, Sarah, Amanda, and Tyler Final Thoughts Keys to Family Wellness

Appendices: Handouts for Families and Clinicians

References About the Authors Index