Notes

[1] Michael Castleman, “Attention, Ladies: Semen Is an Antidepressant,” All about Sex (blog), Psychology Today, January 31, 2001, https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201101/attention-ladies-semen-is-antidepressant.

[2] Judith Sachs, The Healing Power of Sex (Bloomington, IN: iUniverse, 2008).

[3] Clifford L. Penner and Joyce J. Penner, Getting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start (Nashville: Nelson, 1994).

[4] Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver, “Romantic Love Conceptualized as an Attachment Process,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 52, no. 3 (1987): 511–524.

[5] Robert J. Sternberg and Michael L. Barnes, eds., The Psychology of Love (New Haven, CT: Yale University Press, 1988).

[6] Gregory L. Jantz, The Body God Designed: How to Love the Body You’ve Got While You Get the Body You Want (Lake Mary, FL: Siloam, 2007).

[7] Ibid., 12.

[8] Clifford L. Penner and Joyce J. Penner, What Every Wife Wants Her Husband to Know about Sex (Nashville: Nelson, 1998), 37.

[9] Penner and Penner, What Every Wife Wants Her Husband to Know about Sex, 49.

[10] William H. Masters and Virginia E. Johnson, “Human Sexual Response: Function and Dysfunction,” Six-Day Intensive Postgraduate Workshop (St. Louis, MO: Reproductive Biology Research Foundation, October 20–25, 1975).

[11] Ibid.

[12] Louann Brizendine, The Female Brain (New York: Broadway Books, 2006), 79.

[13] Gillian Einstein, ed., Sex and the Brain (Cambridge, MA: MIT Press, 2007).

[14] Clifford L. Penner and Joyce J. Penner, Restoring the Pleasure: Complete Step-by-Step Programs to Help Couples Overcome the Most Common Sexual Barriers (Nashville: W Publishing Group, 2016).

[15] Brizendine, The Female Brain, 3. Also see Appendix One: “The Female Brain and Hormone Therapy,” 165–180.

[16] Barry Komisaruk, “Pain Brain Regions Also Active during Female Orgasm.” Presented at the Society for Neuroscience Annual Meeting, San Diego, November 15, 2010.

[17] Brizendine, The Female Brain, “The Female Brain and Postpartum Depression,” 181–183.

[18] Stephanie Bender and Treacy Colbert, End Your Menopause Misery: The 10-Day Self-Care Plan (San Francisco: Conari Press, 2013).

[19] “Hormone Therapy: Is It Right for You?” Mayo Clinic, accessed February 4, 2017, http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/menopause/in-depth/hormone-therapy/art-20046372.

[20] Recommended are 150 minutes of moderate exercise or 75 minutes of vigorous exercise, or an equivalent mix spread out over a week. See “Exercise and Fitness,” Harvard Health Publications, accessed February 4, 2017, www.health.harvard.edu/topics/exercise-and-fitness.

[21] Paula Rinehart, Strong Women, Soft Hearts (Nashville: Nelson, 2005).

[22] “How to Do PC Muscle Exercises,” WikiHow, http://www.wikihow.com/Do-PC-Muscle-Exercises.

[23] “G-spot,” Wikipedia, last modified January 23, 2017, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot.

[24] Kerstin Uvnäs Moberg, The Oxytocin Factor (Boston: Da Capo Press, 2011), 57–60.

[25] Formula for Intimacy cards available at www.passionatecommitment.com.

[26] Amy Muise, Ulrich Schimmack, and Emily A. Impett, “Sexual Frequency Predicts Greater Well-Being, But More Is Not Always Better,” Social Psychological and Personality Science 7, no. 4 (November 18, 2015).

[27] Adapted from Penner and Penner, Restoring the Pleasure, 146–196.

[28] Ibid., 148.

[29] Information in this section is adapted from Clifford L. Penner and Joyce J. Penner, Restoring the Pleasure (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2016). Used with permission.

[30] Toni Weschler, Taking Charge of Your Fertility, 20th Anniversary Edition: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement, and Reproductive Health (New York: William Morrow, 2015).

[31] Visit www.womentowomen.com to take the hormone health assessment.

[32] Ian Kerner, Passionista: The Empowered Woman’s Guide to Pleasuring a Man (New York: William Morrow, 2008), xxi.

[33] Clifford L. Penner and Joyce J. Penner, The Married Guy’s Guide to Great Sex (Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale, 2017), 73.

[34] Penner and Penner, Restoring the Pleasure.

[35] Robert Weiss (founder of the Sexual Recovery Institute in Los Angeles, CA), “Do You Have an Intimacy Disorder?” interview at www.itscheating.com/intimacy/do-you-have-an-intimacy-disorder-vixely-talks-to-expert-robert-weiss/.

[36] Mark Laaser (Christian sexual addiction specialist), workshops in Minnesota, https://www.faithfulandtrue.com.

[37] Allan Schore, University of California, Los Angeles, lecture at Fuller Theological Seminary, Pasadena, CA.

[38] Celebrate Recovery is “a biblical and balanced program that helps us overcome our hurts, hang-ups, and habits.” See www.celebraterecovery.com.

[39] Paul Tournier, Guilt and Grace: A Psychological Study (New York: HarperCollins, 1982).

[40] Penner and Penner, Restoring the Pleasure, 290–310.

[41] To find a pelvic floor physical therapist, go to www.pelvicpain.org, www.ic-network.com, or http://www.apta.org.

[42] For further information on genital self-examination, visit http://www.webmd.com/women/vaginal-self-examination-vse; http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/health-info/self-exam-vulva-vagina; and http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/article/female-genital-self-exam.

[43] Penner and Penner, Restoring the Pleasure.

[44] “A Different Voice of Carol Gilligan,” from Em Griffin, A First Look at Communication Theory, 1st ed. (New York: McGraw-Hill, 1991), https://courses.soe.ucsc.edu/courses/cmpe80e/Spring14/01/attachments/26751.

[45] Steve Biddulph, Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different—and How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men, 3rd ed. (Emeryville, CA: Ten Speed Press, 2014).

[46] Barton Goldsmith, “Emotional Fitness,” Psychology Today, August 31, 2010.

[47] Róisín Parkins, “Gender and Emotional Expressiveness: An Analysis of Prosodic Features in Emotional Expression,” Griffith Working Papers in Pragmatics and Intercultural Communication 5, no. 1 (2012): 46–54.

[48] John M. Gottman and Nan Silver, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (New York: Harmony Books, 2015), 32.

[49] Ellie Lisitsa, “The Four Horsemen: The Antidotes,” The Gottman Institute blog, accessed February 4, 2017, https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-the-antidotes.

[50] Harville Hendrix, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th anniversary ed. (New York: Henry Holt, 2007).

[51] Jenni Ogden, “Why Our Minds Wander” Psychology Today, January 21, 2015.

[52] Scott Symington, “Two-Screen Method,” YouTube video, 6:24, posted April 8, 2015, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H3FEMbMXv6Q.