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There are many ways that parents can prepare for the arrival of a child. They can prepare their living space and other family members for the event. They can make time for each other and their pre-born by altering their work schedules. An expectant mother can make adjustments to her diet to ensure that her reproductive organs receive all the nourishment they need to ensure a healthy pregnancy. And both parents can prepare for their new arrival on the subtle levels of energy and consciousness.
Much has been written about reproductive health in the last several decades. However, one problem that is often overlooked is the subtle condition of the men and women who are actively trying to start a family.
In the course of working with couples who’ve had reproductive problems, we’ve learned that projections of distorted subtle energy and consciousness can interfere with partners’ sexual relationship and a woman’s ability to conceive. Karmic baggage, energetic attachments, and projections can interfere with fertility and reproduction—so can compatibility issues.
For a man who must sustain an erection in order to impregnate his partner, the ability to perform during the act of coitus is essential. However, a man’s ability to sustain an erection and even his potency can be influenced—often in a negative way—by the condition of his subtle field of energy and consciousness.
Erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation are problems we’ve dealt with on a regular basis. And we’ve learned that in most cases, they are created by attachments, blockages, and the intrusion of external projections.
The reproductive problems that interfered with Patrick and Karen illustrate how attachments to ex-lovers can interfere with a couple’s ability to enjoy life and conceive a child. Patrick consulted us in 2009 because of his inability to maintain an erection during penetration. The problem surfaced a few months into his relationship with Karen. It had affected his self-confidence and interfered with the couple’s plan to start a family. Patrick and Karen were in their early thirties, so age was not an issue. And Patrick assured us that there was no physical problem because he had recently been examined by his doctor. Patrick went on to explain that he loved Karen and was still exceedingly turned on by her, but when they had sex, feelings would appear that interfered with his ability to maintain an erection. These feelings, he explained, would emerge from his lower abdomen as soon as he entered her. Then they would radiate through the front of his body, making it impossible for him to maintain an erection for any length of time. When we asked Karen how she felt about the issue, she deflected our question by saying that she still felt that she and Patrick belonged together and that she enjoyed it when they were intimate. We dug a little deeper, knowing that there was more to the story. It was only then that Karen confessed that for almost two years, she’d been in contact with an ex-lover. She’d received emails from him and spoken to him on several occasions. According to Karen, her ex-lover, whose name was Richard, still wanted her. She quickly added that she wanted to end the relationship because she felt smothered by him. Patrick told us that he’d met Richard and knew that he resented him. He also told us that he was dismayed to learn that Karen was still in contact with him.
After questioning Karen for a few more minutes, we learned that Richard had participated in a cult and that he often prayed to entities (non-physical beings) to get what he wanted.
After examining both Karen’s and Patrick’s subtle field, it became clear to us that they both were suffering from Richard’s projections. The distorted fields he’d projected had polluted Patrick’s second chakra field and lower granti. They’d also disrupted the flow of jing from Patrick’s kidneys into his eight exceptional meridians.
Since both the distribution of jing and the condition of his second chakra play a prominent role in a man’s sexual performance as well as his ability to give and receive sexual energy, it didn’t surprise us that he had a problem maintaining an erection.
To overcome the problem, we recommended that Karen end her relationship with Richard. This would accomplish two important things. It would provide closure for both Karen and Richard, and it would take away Richard’s permission to interfere with Karen and Patrick on the subtle levels of energy and consciousness. Karen ended the relationship via email, and, on their subsequent visit, we taught both Patrick and Karen to perform Fertility Cleansing.
Fertility Cleansing
In the twenty-first century, it’s common for both men and woman in relationship to carry projections of distorted energy from ex-partners in their subtle fields, especially if the relationship ended badly—or the relationship was transformed into a friendship that maintained unhealthy attachments. These projections are often concentrated in the pelvis, sexual organs, and kidneys.
Naturally, projections that disrupt the functions of these organs on the subtle levels will have a negative impact on the energetic condition of sexual partners and their ability to conceive a child. A man’s sperm count and the overall health of his sperm can be affected. Projections can reduce a man’s sexual pleasure and block the flow of prana through his genitals and kidneys, making it difficult for him to maintain an erection.
Projections can also have a negative impact on the functions of a woman’s sexual organs and her uterus during sex as well as during pregnancy. For women, projections of distorted energy and consciousness can also cause a host of collateral problems on the physical-material level, which include severe cramps, bladder infections, vaginal pain, numbness, menstrual problems, a lack of sexual energy, and orgasmic dysfunction. (Please discuss any worrying symptoms with your doctor to rule out a medical cause.) To overcome the projections of ex-lovers and cleanse the reproductive organs before conception on both the physical-material and subtle levels, partners can perform an exercise we developed and have used successfully for several years.
Fertility Cleansing is a ritual cleansing performed on the subtle levels of energy and consciousness by both men and women who want to enhance their sexual pleasure and conceive a healthy child. It can have a profound effect on a woman’s ability to conceive and her pre-born’s development because partners engaged in intimate sexual activities can inadvertently project distorted energy from ex-lovers into each other’s field. This can have unintended consequences because a subtle link between the pre-born and its parents is established very early in the pregnancy. In fact, the pre-born’s soul seeks out its intended parents as soon as this link is established. Then, a transfer begins—and elements of the child’s soul, including vehicles of energy and consciousness, begin to descend into the developing fetus.
Fertility Cleansing can take several days depending on both partners’ sexual history, their general health, and the amount of free time each partner has available. In the first part of the ritual, each partner must choose a time when they won’t be disturbed by other people and electronic devices. It’s best if partners work independently.
In the first part of the ritual, cleansing partners must review their sexual history in order to make a list of their ex-relationship partners who left a legacy of negative energy and consciousness in their subtle field.
For those of you using this technique, it’s essential that your list also includes anyone who violated you sexually. People who’ve violated you sexually seek power and will always project distorted energy and/or consciousness into your subtle field in order to control you.
Of course, not all ex-partners have disrupted your subtle field. So, when making your list, trust your intuition and let your insight and discernment guide you.
One last thing before we move on. The list you create is a work in progress. You may choose to include additional names at a later time. If you do, you can continue to use the cleansing ritual for additional subjects after you’ve exhausted your original list.
Once your list is complete, you will use the bliss box to release projections of distorted energy and consciousness that have intruded into your kidneys, pelvis, and sexual organs from your ex-lovers—one ex-lover at a time. Then you will continue the process by filling the organs that have been affected with bliss and blue prana.
Those of you who perform Fertility Cleansing should begin by picking a name from your list. Keep the name in mind; then sit comfortably with your back straight.
When you’re ready to continue, close your eyes and breathe deeply through your nose for two to three minutes. Then perform the Orgasmic Bliss Mudra for five minutes (see Figure 9: The Orgasmic Bliss Mudra). Continue to hold the mudra while you assert, “It’s my intent to observe the most distorted field projected by (ex partner’s name here) that is disrupting my ability to conceive a healthy child.” Once you can observe the distorted field, assert, “It’s my intent to surround the distorted field with a bliss box.” As soon as the box has surrounded the distorted field, assert, “It’s my intent to fill the bliss box I created with bliss and to release the distorted field within it.” Don’t do anything after that. The distorted field in the box will be released automatically. Although the process is usually instantaneous, it’s best to wait a minute or two to ensure that the field in the bliss box has been released.
When you’re ready to continue, assert, “It’s my intent to fill my pelvis, genitals, and kidneys with blue prana and bliss.” Take five minutes to enjoy the effects. Then release the Orgasmic Bliss Mudra and count from one to five. When you reach the number five, bring yourself out of the exercise.
We recommend that you perform Fertility Cleansing once a day until all the names on your list have been exhausted and there are no more distorted fields of energy or consciousness that are strong enough to interfere with your ability to conceive.
After they’d performed Fertility Cleansing for six weeks, Patrick and Karen began to enhance their sexual relationship by experiencing their three fields of jing and by performing the Jing Enhancement Technique (see page 124). The three exercises had the desired effect. After performing the exercises for two more months, Patrick reported that he no longer experienced any form of erectile dysfunction and that his sexual life with Karen had reached a new level of satisfaction. We continued to work with them until Karen became pregnant eighteen months later.
After Hanna and Barry had performed the Jing Enhancement Technique for several months, they explained to us that they were interested in having a second child. Hanna was adamant that she wanted a boy. But we explained that there was no form of deep family healing that could guarantee that their second child would be a boy. We went on to explain that they could continue their process of healing by performing Fertility Cleansing. They enthusiastically agreed to perform this technique together. And to their surprise, Hanna became pregnant three months later. Nine months after that, she gave birth to a healthy girl. However, problems developed almost immediately. After Hanna returned home from the hospital, Patty, their newborn, began to scream for no apparent reason. Doctors were at a loss to explain why no amount of cuddling or reassurance seemed to mollify her.
When we received a frantic call from Hanna, we agreed to look into the problem and to see if we could help. You will learn how Hanna put an end to Patty’s screaming in chapter fifteen.
Restoring the Flow of Prana
Restoring the flow of prana though the uterus is another way a woman can enhance their fertility. Two chakras, in particular, support the energetic health of the uterus: the second chakra and the lower physical chakra. The second chakra regulates the flow of prana through the microcosmic circuit between the upper part of the vagina and the area bordering the bottom of the rib cage. The lower physical chakra regulates the flow of energy through the pelvis, including frequencies of prana directly related to uterine health.
To restore the flow of prana through your uterus, you will activate your second chakra and lower physical chakra. Then you will center yourself in both chakra fields and fill them with prana. You can do this in two ways. You can practice the technique once a day as long as you’re trying to conceive—or you can practice the exercise for three days before and after you ovulate. In either case, the technique will be the same.
Exercise: Restoring the Flow of Prana
To begin the exercise, find a comfortable position with your back straight. Close your eyes and breathe deeply through your nose for two to three minutes. Then assert, “It’s my intent to go to my personal healing space.” Continue by bringing your awareness to your body, soul, and spirit. Enjoy your healing space for five minutes. Then assert, “It’s my intent to activate my second chakra.” Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to activate my lower physical chakra.” Take two to three minutes to enjoy the effects. Then assert, “It’s my intent to center myself in my second chakra field.” Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to center myself in my lower physical chakra field.” Once you’re centered in both chakra fields, assert, “It’s my intent to fill my second chakra field and lower physical chakra field with prana and jing.” Enjoy the effects for ten minutes. Then count from one to five. When you reach the number five, open your eyes and bring yourself out of the exercise.
Avoiding Desperation and Alleviating Stress
Desperation is a feeling most people would rather avoid. However, it’s not unusual for either parent-to-be, seeking to conceive, to become desperate if they haven’t succeeded after one to two years. Although there are exercises that can be helpful, we’ve developed a simple remedy that will overcome feelings of desperation as soon as they emerge. It’s called the Prana Mudra. The Prana Mudra will do two things: it will overcome feelings of desperation by enhancing the flow of prana through all thirteen chakras in body space as well as the minor energy centers in the hands and feet. And it will facilitate the transfer of prana from your subtle energy field to your physical-material body.
Because of its ability to enhance the flow of prana through the subtle field and the ease of use, the Prana Mudra can also be used to reduce the stress many parents experience during pregnancy, especially if the pregnancy has complications that must be addressed.
One of our clients, Sandy from Toronto, provides an example of how feelings of desperation can overcome someone who hasn’t been able to conceive for some time. Sandy was forty-two and her partner Karl was forty-six. For more than four years, they had tried to conceive a child. They tried everything including homeopathy, hormones, and fertility treatments. They even toyed with the idea of hiring a surrogate mother.
When Sandy finally consulted us, she was desperate to find a solution. Although it took her another year to conceive a healthy child, it was her desperation which we dealt with first—since it had begun to interfere with her work and relationships.
Since desperation can only emerge from fields of energy with individual qualities, her desperation became contagious when she inadvertently began to project at Karl, who eventually began to share the same feelings.
To overcome the feeling of desperation, we taught both Sandy and Karl to perform the Prana Mudra, which they used in two ways. They performed the mudra every day as part of their regimen of energy work. And Sandy, who experienced the feeling more often and more intensely, performed it whenever desperation threatened to overcome her. According to Sandy and Karl, the mudra worked better than they expected because, within days, feelings of desperation stopped interfering with their work and relationships.
We also taught Sandy and Karl to use Fertility Cleansing and the Jing Enhancement Technique to enhance their genital health. They performed both exercises along with the Prana Mudra until the birth of their daughter Lena fourteen months later.
Lena was born naturally at home with the help of a midwife. It was an exciting and deeply satisfying experience for both parents, and for us as well, since the exercises we taught them relieved the anxiety and insecurity that could have interfered with the joy of giving birth. Although Sandy no longer uses the Prana Mudra as part of her regular regimen of energy work, she continues to use it whenever the rigors of child rearing frustrate her, or when a lack of sleep interferes with her daily activities.
To perform the Prana Mudra, find a comfortable position with your back straight. Then breathe deeply for two to three minutes. Continue by placing the tip of your tongue at the point where the gum meets your upper teeth. Next, bring the tip of your thumbs to the inside of your first joint of your index fingers so that they form two loops. Hold the mudra for ten minutes with your eyes closed while you allow prana to radiate through your subtle energy field and physical-material body (see Figure 17: The Prana Mudra).
After ten minutes, count from one to five. Then release the mudra and open your eyes. Repeat as needed.
