Index

(page numbers in italic represent diagrams; those in bold represent tables and lists)

A

active birthing positions see birthing positions

active labour 94, 108, 110, 176

active management 121–6, 190–1

adrenaline 17–22, 49, 98, 100

how to manage body’s production of 18

advocate 198

birth partner as 118, 181

advocates 98, 118, 181

affirmation xvi, 5, 24, 28–9, 33, 34–7, 47, 51, 53, 56, 57, 66, 74–5, 101–3, 148

examples of 34–5

affirmation cards 34, 37, 51, 213, 216

alternatives, explained 86–7, 92, 136, 137

amber state 100

anchor setting 39–40

antenatal education xvi, 147

anxiety xii, 22, 27, 72, 100

‘anxiety to excitement’ spectrum xxi, 215

arm drops 41–2, 45, 46, 101, 103, 181, 183, 186, 224, 225–7

arm elevation 13

arm stroking 40, 41, 46, 101, 103, 111, 149, 166, 170, 177, 180, 183, 186, 222–4

assisted delivery 9, 62, 132, 133, 136–7, 146, 202, 206

association:

building positively 35

hospital 54–5, 148, 210

B

baby, benefits of hypnobirthing to xvii–xviii, xix–xx

baby-led weaning 85

‘baby moving down the birth canal’ visualisation 32

baby’s skull 139–40

back-to-back baby 8, 10–11

back-to-bump baby 8, 10

background music 38, 148

bean bags 60

benefits, explained 84–5, 136–7

birth bag 53, 55, 56, 99, 148–9, 181, 197, 210–12, 212, 213

birth ball 6, 67, 105, 149, 174, 177, 200, 213

birth canal, during down stage of labour xxi, 8, 25, 26, 32, 112, 113, 160

birth centres 59–60, 61, 66–8, 71

birth experience i, xii–xiv, xvi–xviii, xxi, 20, 78, 79, 90–1, 102, 104, 132, 136, 138, 145–6, 147, 151, 165, 201, 203, 210, 214, 217, 224

birth partner (see also doula) 38–9, 56, 70, 84, 90, 111–12, 149–50, 157, 166, 171–2

as advocate 98, 118, 181, 198

and arm drops 41, 225–7

and arm stroking 40, 170, 222–5

and the B.R.A.I.N. framework 94–5, 181–2

checklist for 211, 212, 213

and counting 177–8

discussing birth preferences with 196–9

at down stage 188, 201

as ‘gatekeeper/keeper of the cave’ 103

and guided relaxation 177, 219–27

importance of 102

and light-touch massage 43, 45, 170

looking after 54

role of 97–106, 179–80, 183–6

and skin-to-skin time 117, 161, 191

at third stage 192

at up stage 183–4

birth photography 34, 36, 102, 154, 198, 216, 230

birth pools 10, 45, 46, 54, 57, 65–70 passim, 105, 142–3, 153, 161, 170, 182, 189, 192, 200, 201, 205

birth preferences 99, 116–18, 126, 141, 145, 159, 164–5, 181, 184, 188, 191, 195–9, 196–9, 213, 230

templates 200–7

birth stories xiv, 19, 34, 102, 185, 198, 203, 216, 217, 228, 230, 238

Antonia 46–8

Elinor 144–5

Eshere 65–6

Gemma 56, 57–8

Hayley 95–6

Holly 73–5

Kate 162–4

Katie 104–6

Natalie 167–9

Paige 152–5

Sarah 126–9

Verity 208–9

birth traumas 36, 130

birthing 168

midwife-led 57–8, 61

birthing positions xx–xxi, 6–11, 7, 20–2

birthing space (see also environment) 50, 97, 170

birthing stools 60

birthing videos xiv, 31, 34, 230

birthplace choice 109, 127, 232

Birthplace Study 60–1, 62

blood flow 189

after birth 124–5

reduction in 12–13, 20, 125

blood loss see postpartum haemorrhage

body-mass index (BMI) 137

bonding 49, 118–19, 148, 161, 166, 168, 187, 190, 201

bottle-feeding 85

B.R.A.I.N. 83–96, 115, 132, 133, 136, 137–8, 140, 152, 191, 192, 194

defined 84

breast pads 212, 213

breastfeeding 49, 85, 117, 119–20, 148, 161, 166, 169, 187

breathing 170–1

down- 29–31, 116

importance of 24–6

in-for-four/out-for-eight breathing technique 26, 27, 32, 110, 149, 163–4, 177

up- 26–9, 108, 110, 111

breech 11, 89, 208

bubble baths 16

bum-down baby (breech) 11, 89, 208

C

caesareans xxi, 21, 62, 63, 67, 89, 91, 117, 144, 145, 195

different types explained 156–60

natural (gentle) 156, 160–7

unplanned xii, xvi, xvii, 60, 167–9, 202, 206, 208–9

candle light 111, 150, 167

candlelight (see also scented candles; tea lights) 16, 29, 38, 42, 47, 51, 55–6, 66, 73–4, 179, 180

cascade of intervention 77

cave 97–106

birth partner as ‘gatekeeper/keeper of’ 97, 103, 104, 184, 188

safety of 97

CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) 33

cervix 2, 3, 174

changes to, during pregnancy 4–5

described 4–5

dilation 5, 8

effacing 5

at established labour stage 108–9

and larger babies 140

softening of 26

choice 79–81, 82, 131–2

cholestasis see obstetric cholestasis

Christmas babies 138–9

clickbait 35

clinical justification 133, 134, 136–8, 140, 143

coccyx 8, 9, 10, 43, 139

coconut oil 55

cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) 33

consent 77, 78, 83, 89, 93, 94, 124

contractions (see also surges) 3, 19, 28, 115

frequency, duration and intensity of 109

control, benefits of retaining 78–9

‘conveyor belt of care’ described 77

cord clamping xix, 117, 120–2, 124, 161, 189, 191, 202, 209

counting techniques 25, 27, 29–30, 31–3, 46, 101, 145, 149, 183, 229

cuddling 15, 122, 168, 177, 191, 192

D

dads-to-be, birth-partner role of 98, 102

decision-making see B.R.A.I.N.

deep relaxation 99, 100

depression see postnatal depression

diabetes see gestational diabetes

Dick-Read, Dr Grantly 20

Digital Pack, launch of xiv

dilation 4, 5, 8, 19, 20, 107, 115, 174, 176

and transition 111

to-do list xvii, 103, 171, 198

doppler 142, 143

doula (see also birth partner) 98, 171, 231

Doula UK 171

down-breathing 29–31, 116

practising while on the loo 30–1, 116

down stage 107

of labour 4, 26, 30, 32, 110, 111, 112–16, 187–8, 201

‘duration’ element 175

dystocia see shoulder dystocia

E

early labour 108–9, 120, 172–7

effacing, of cervix 5

empowerment i, xii, xiv, xvii, xxi, 34, 72, 76, 78, 81–3, 89–91, 95, 102–3, 107, 124, 131, 151, 156, 159, 161, 167, 182, 194–5, 196, 203, 215, 217, 221, 224, 227

endorphins 43, 44, 173, 223

environment (see also birthing space):

and the five senses checklist 212

importance of xviii, 47, 56, 59, 66, 72–3, 97, 99, 103, 111, 119, 146, 148, 150, 158, 165, 180–1, 200, 201, 217

maintaining 184, 187, 188, 191, 192

and safety 16

epidural (see also pain relief) xii, 63, 66–7, 72, 111, 115, 132, 133, 136–7, 146, 151–2, 201, 211

episiotomy 9, 62, 63, 65

essential oils 52, 53, 55, 56, 73, 148, 166, 176, 180, 181, 200, 201, 212, 213

established labour 94, 108, 110, 176, 177–84

euphoria xiii, 17, 94, 119, 128–9, 150–1, 192, 217

‘every surge brings me closer to my baby’ affirmation 28–9

evidence-based guidelines see NICE

exhaling/inhaling see breathing

eye mask 141, 212, 213

F

fabrics, choosing 54

fairy lights xiii, 51, 148, 179, 212, 213

family members 32, 98, 171, 183

favourable cervix 5

fear, how to overcome 34, 170

‘fear, tension and pain’ cycle 20–1, 22–3, 49–50, 82, 98, 146

feel-good factors (see also oxytocin) 15, 17, 37, 43, 119, 147, 212

fetal fibronectin 5

fibronectin 5

fight-or-flight response 18

final stretch 184–8

five senses checklist 50–6, 99, 148, 150, 179, 183, 187, 188, 191, 212

foreplay 15

fragrance, use of 52

‘frequency’ element 175

Friends 168

fundus 4

G

game-changers 16, 65, 93, 96, 114

gatekeeper/keeper, birth partner as 97, 103, 104, 184, 188

gentle caesareans 156, 160–7

gestational age 139

gestational diabetes 131, 134, 139, 144, 163, 194

‘giving consent’ see informed consent

Golden Hour 116–21, 188, 191, 202

‘golden thread’ visualisation 32

GPs vi, 59

green state 100, 101, 103, 180, 185, 186, 187, 216, 219

green zone 154

guided relaxation xvi, 24, 38–9, 40, 46, 53, 103, 148, 174, 176, 177, 179, 181, 183, 216, 219–27, 228, 229 (see also relaxation techniques)

H

haemorrhage, postpartum 119, 124–5, 191, 202

hand clenching 13

head-down baby 8, 10, 11

headphones 38, 53, 141, 212, 213

‘Hello, Baby!’ 188–93

Hill, Milli 28

hobbies 37

home births 61–5, 170

hormonal rollercoaster 15

hospital, preparation before admission to 9–10

hospital bag see birth bag

hospital births, case for 68–73

hot-air balloon visualisation 32

how to say ‘No’ 82

hyperventilation 24, 27

hypnobirthing:

described xv–xvi

science behind 1

hypnobirthing practice schedule 228

I

illness, pregnancy-related 70

imagery, positive affirmation of (see also birth photography) 102

in-for-four/out-for-eight breathing technique 26, 27, 32, 110, 149, 163–4, 177

induction xi, xvii, 16, 86–7, 89, 130–55, 162

described 140–4

and NICE guidelines 131–40

when to opt for 121–40

infection, reducing risk of 134

informed consent 77, 78, 83, 89, 93, 94, 124

‘inhale peace and exhale tension’ affirmation 29

inhaling/exhaling see breathing

insomnia (see also sleep deprivation) 27

instinct, explained 87–8

internal examinations 81, 92–3, 108, 109, 115, 128

intervention 9, 20–2

‘Is this it?’ question (see also questions) 174

K

keeper/gatekeeper, birth partner as 97, 103, 104, 184, 188

L

labour:

baby delivered 188–93

early 108–9, 120, 172–7

established 177–84

final stretch 184–8

first stage of (up stage) 3, 4, 26, 107, 108, 110–11, 183–4

induction of see main entry

mind-blowing fact about 16

natural 14, 140, 172

physiological third stage 116–23, 190, 191, 202

second stage of (down stage) 4, 26, 30, 32, 107, 110, 111, 112–16

stop–start nature of 174–5

third stage of (Golden Hour) 116–21, 122–3, 190, 191, 202

‘wobble’ 22, 74, 94, 111–12, 154, 195, 201

labour wards 51, 55, 61, 67, 68–72, 88, 118, 127–8, 141, 143, 146, 158–9, 168, 201, 202, 205

latent phase, of labour 108

life skills 84

light-dimming 60

light-touch massage xvi, 24, 43–6, 44, 101, 103, 105, 111, 149, 170, 173, 177, 183, 186, 201, 216, 219, 228

love bubble 192

love hormone see oxytocin

‘low risk’, assessment of 60–2, 65, 66–71, 135, 137, 158, 208

M

‘magic 3/10/45’ 109, 176, 178

massage (see also light-touch massage) xvi, 24, 43–6, 44, 212

maternity notes 107, 112, 197, 213

maternity pads 148–9, 212, 213

meconium 63, 168, 211

media conditioning xi–xii, xx, 4, 9, 34–6, 72, 102, 104, 113, 184, 217

mental health (see also post-traumatic stress disorder; postnatal depression) 90, 219

midwives 4, 11, 19, 33, 45, 47–8, 57–8, 61, 64, 66–9, 71, 74, 81, 87, 92, 95–6, 99, 105, 107–9, 115–16, 122–5, 125, 127–9, 133, 140–3, 145, 152–4, 158–9, 168, 176–7, 181–3, 189, 197–8

forty-week appointment 130–1

mantra 77–8

mind-blowing facts 16, 65, 93, 114

mindfulness 27, 37, 38, 219

mobility, importance of 148

monitoring, continuous v. intermittent 141–2

MP3s use of (see also music) 20, 34, 38, 46, 56, 174, 176, 213, 216, 220, 228, 229

mums-to-be 101, 172

muscles, what they need to function effectively 12

music (see also MP3s) 39, 229

background 38, 148

for birth partner 213

pan-pipe music 53

for relaxation 16, 31, 46, 47, 53, 56, 95, 104, 111, 128, 144, 148, 154, 176, 181, 200, 202, 212, 213, 216

to sleep to 216

spa 53, 111, 128, 148, 154

when in theatre 166, 176, 200, 202

N

National Health Service (NHS) see NHS

National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) see NICE

natural caesareans 160–7

natural labour 14, 140, 172

nausea 151

negativity, avoiding 35, 36

Netflix 153

NHS xix, 70, 80, 86, 118, 121, 136, 171, 212

NICE xx, 70–1, 86, 117, 119, 121, 132–3, 136, 139, 145–6, 213, 231

nothing, doing, explained 88–91, 93

O

obstetric cholestasis 131, 134, 194

obstetric units 61, 62, 71

‘one size fits all’ approach 77

‘overdue’, defined 135, 136

oxygen 12

to uterus 13, 14, 19

oxytocin 140

oxytocin (‘love hormone’) 15–17, 18–20, 23, 49, 123, 124, 125, 147–8, 150

synthetic version of see syntocinon

P

pain 20–1, 49, 146

as an indicator 13–14

pain relief (see also epidural) xi, xvi, 20–1, 43, 44, 60, 63, 65, 72, 74, 91, 95, 106, 146, 151–2, 173, 201, 205, 211

pan-pipe music 53

panic attacks 22

panic breathing 24, 27

perineum 9

pessaries 140–1, 143, 152, 153

photographs see birth photography

physiological third stage 116–23, 190, 191, 202

physiology of birth xvi, 1

placenta 2, 119, 120–3, 189–92, 202–3

delivery of 116–17, 123–4, 125

retained 126, 129

Plan B 194–9

pooing, and birthing techniques 30–1

position, of baby during pregnancy 10

positioning scans 11

positive affirmation xvi, 5, 24, 28–9, 33, 34–7, 47, 51, 53, 56, 57, 66, 74–5, 101–3, 148, 197–8

examples of 34–5

Positive Birth Company i, xi

positive birth videos xiv, 31

positive reinforcement 33–7, 51, 213, 216

positive reprogramming 33

post-term (overdue), defined 135, 136

post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) (see also mental health) xvii, 91

postnatal depression (PND) (see also mental health) xvii, 49, 79, 91, 119, 148, 161, 166, 187, 190, 201

postpartum haemorrhage (PPH) 119, 124–5, 191, 202

postpartum visits 61

practice schedule 228

pre-eclampsia 126, 127, 131, 134, 194

pre-term 140

pregnancy-related illness 70

preparation, for hospital births 9–10

prolonged pregnancy 134–5, 137

prostaglandin 140

pubic bone 8, 10

purees 85

pushing, facts relating to 114, 115

Q

questions, benefits of asking (see also ‘What if?’ questions) 83–96

R

reading, for relaxation 101

red state 100

reinforcement 33–7, 51, 213, 216

relaxation readings 31

relaxation techniques (see also guided relaxation) 1, 16–17, 38–42, 45–7, 50–3, 55–6, 92, 93, 98–101, 103, 119, 141, 219–27, 228, 229

shortcuts to 24

relaxin 8–9

reprogramming 33

retained placenta 126, 129

ripening 5

risks, explained 85–6

S

safety 50–1

scans 11, 96, 139, 144, 163

scented candles (see also candlelight) 42, 52

shoulder dystocia 139

sight 51–2

skin-to-skin time xix, xxi, 117–20, 122, 129, 161, 164, 169, 188–9, 191–2, 201, 202, 209

sleep 173

relaxation and visualisation techniques to help with 33

sleep deprivation (see also insomnia) xviii

slow birth xxi

smell 52

social conditioning xviii

sound 53

spa music 53, 111, 128, 148, 154

spine 10, 43, 173

stillbirth 135–6, 137

stress 22, 29

subconscious (see also CBT) 33, 36, 174, 187

power of 55

‘sun position in sky’ visualisation 27

surges (contractions) 16, 19, 115

defined 3

frequency, duration and intensity of 109

thinking about 28

switching off 37–8

syntocinon (synthetic oxytocin) 16, 124, 125, 141–4, 145, 146–9, 202

T

taste 54

tea lights (see also candlelight) 51, 56, 148, 166, 179, 200, 212, 213

teamwork, importance of 171–2

TENS 44–5, 153, 173, 177, 200, 213

theatre music 166, 176, 200, 202

third stage, of labour 192

3/10/45 109, 176, 178

‘timed, elevated-arm, hand-clenching demo’ 13

toolkit xvi, 24–48, 145–51

top tips 54

touch 54–6

‘traffic light’ system 100–1

Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation (TENS) see TENS

transition 111–12

TV conditioning xi–xii, xx, 4, 9, 34–6, 72, 102, 104, 113, 184

U

U.F.O. positions 6–11, 7, 103, 123, 146, 150, 151, 174, 183–9 passim

umbilical cord 120, 121, 189

unplanned caesarean xii, xvi, xvii, 60, 167–9, 202, 206, 208–9

up-breathing 26–9, 108, 110, 111

up stage, of labour 3, 4, 26, 107, 108, 110–11, 183–4

uterus muscles 150

and down breathing 29

drawing up of see up stage

how they work 1–4, 3

V

vaginal birth xxi, 161, 166, 168

unplanned 165

vaginal fluid 5

vaginal tears 62

vaginal walls, stretching of 140

videos, birthing xiv, 31, 34, 230

virtual tours 59–60

visualisation xvi, 24, 31–3

during down stage of labour 32

W

waters 2, 5, 63, 65

breaking of 73, 89, 127, 131, 134, 141–3, 144, 146, 148, 153–5, 162, 168

well-being, sleep important to 173

‘What if?’ questions (see also questions) 61–2, 63, 79, 89, 139, 197–8

Which? Birth Choice 60, 69

WHO 134

‘wobble’ 22, 74, 94, 111–12, 154, 195, 201

womb, taking control of 76–82

women-centred care 77, 198

World Health Organisation (WHO) 134

‘would be nice to have’ items 16

Y

yoga 32

YouTube 31

author’s early videos on xiv

Z

zone, getting into 58, 87, 94, 105, 128, 141, 168, 219