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Contents

List of figures

Preface to the second printing

Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn

Foreword by Gabor Maté

Introduction

A definition of addiction and of recovery

Our personal stories

Who was the Buddha?

The Buddha was in recovery

The Buddha’s teaching

Eight steps toward recovery

Who is this book for?

How to use this book

Step One: accepting that this human life will bring suffering

Three types of suffering

Physical suffering

Psychological suffering

Existential suffering

Suffering and addiction

Everyone has pain

The four reminders

What is meant by the truth of suffering?

How we practice this step

Mindful attention to our suffering

Recap

Step Two: seeing how we create extra suffering in our lives

The common ways we deal with suffering

Avoiding

Blaming others

Blaming ourselves

Self-pity

Craving as the cause of suffering

What makes craving such a problem?

Types of craving

Craving for sensual pleasure

Craving for existence

Craving for non-existence

The hungry ghosts: an image of craving

How we practice this step

Turning toward difficult experience

Working with physical pain

Staying with difficult experience – avoiding misunderstandings

Do we need to hit rock bottom to start our recovery?

Slowing down

Reflecting on why we create more suffering in our lives

Recap

Step Three: embracing impermanence to show us that our suffering can end

The significance of impermanence Difficulties are impermanent

We can change

Impermanence and addiction

How we practice this step

The power of mantra

Recap

Step Four: being willing to step onto the path of recovery and discover freedom

Vision and transformation

Seeing things clearly

Kindness to help us step onto the path of recovery

How we practice this step

Approaching kindness

Cultivating kindness

Weighing the benefits and costs of addiction

The time for courage and compassion

Developing compassion

Reflecting on the benefits of recovery

Cultivating appreciation and gratitude

Recap

Step Five: transforming our speech, actions, and livelihood

Our thoughts and emotions drive our actions

Our actions have consequences

Transforming speech

Transforming actions

Transforming livelihood

How we practice this step

Training principles to guide our actions toward sobriety and abstinence

Devising your own training principles

Reciting the training principles

Coming to terms with past and ongoing unhelpful actions

Acknowledgment and regret

Making amends

A promise and a plan

Ritual approaches to coming to terms with our past

Prayer

Mantra

Making the most of opportunities to change our lives – GIFTS

Recap

Step Six: placing positive values at the center of our lives

Exploring values

Values as a direction and as a refuge

Values as a direction

Values as a refuge

How we practice this step

Exemplars of values, teachings, and community

Going for refuge to the Buddha

Going for refuge to the Dharma

Going for refuge to the sangha

Taking refuge in the sangha is not all plain sailing

Going for refuge moment by moment

Recap

Step Seven: making every effort to stay on the path of recovery

Staying on the path of recovery

How we practice this step

Preventing unhelpful states of mind arising Mental chatter

Eradicating unhelpful states of mind

Sensual desire

Ill will

Restlessness and anxiety

Sloth and torpor

Doubt and indecision

Swinging between different hindrances

Cultivating helpful states of mind

Maintaining helpful states of mind

Recap

Step Eight: helping others by sharing the benefits we have gained

The fourth sight

Helping ourselves and others

Reminding ourselves of where we have come from

Creating good karma

A sense of purpose

The wisdom perspective

How we practice this step

Ways to help others

The challenge of helping others

The dangers of being a helper

The journey of recovery

Faith

Energy

Mindfulness

Concentration

Wisdom

Recap

Tools for recovery

Recap of Dharma tools in the book

Meditation

The Mindfulness of Breathing

Loving-kindness meditation: the Metta Bhavana

What next?

Appendix 1 Mentorship: The tool of asking for help (We do not have to do it alone)

Appendix 2 Mindfulness-Based Addiction Recovery (MBAR) Course

Acknowledgments

Introduction to MBAR

Optional Session: Welcome

Session 1: Becoming Aware

Session 2: Triggers (Vicious Cycle)

Session 3: Accepting Experience

Session 4: Changing Our Relationship to Thoughts

Session 5: Taking Care of Myself

Session 6: Tools You Can Begin to Use in Your Daily Life

Optional Session: Closing

Option 1

Option 2

Notes and references