TABLE OF CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION
PART I: How We’re Wired
CHAPTER ONE	Making Sense of How You’re Wired
CHAPTER TWO	You’ve Got to Have Style
PART II: Updating Our Wiring
CHAPTER THREE	Step One: Recognize and Name
CHAPTER FOUR	Step Two: Stop, Drop, and Stay
CHAPTER FIVE	Step Three: Pause and Reflect
CHAPTER SIX	Step Four: Mindfully Relate
Part III: Rewiring in Action
CHAPTER SEVEN	Feeling and Dealing
CLOSING	Becoming Real
APPENDIX	Seeking Professional Help
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
REFERENCES