Notes

Chapter 1 A Crisis in Christian Sexuality

1. Genesis 1:28: God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.”

2. 1 Corinthians 7:5: Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

3. Hebrews 13:4 (NKJV): Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

4. 1 Corinthians 6:9–10: Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. Galatians 5:19–21: The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. See also Ephesians 5:3–5.

5. 1 Corinthians 6:18–20: Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

6. Romans 13:14 (NKJV): But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.

7. Proverbs 5:15–19: Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.

8. Matthew 5:27–28: You have heard that it was said, “Do not commit adultery.” But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

9. Judith A. Reisman and Edward W. Eichel, Kinsey, Sex and Fraud: The Indoctrination of a People (Lafayette, La.: Huntington House, 1990); Judith A. Reisman, Kinsey: Crimes and Consequences (Arlington, Va.: The Institute for Media Education, 1998); see also The Children of Table 34: The True Story Behind Alfred Kinsey’s Infamous Sex Research (videotape documentary), produced by Family Research Council (Washington, D.C., 1994).

10. John Kippley, Birth Control and the Marriage Covenant (Collegeville, Minn.: Liturgical Press, 1976), 18.

11. Charles D. Provan, The Bible and Birth Control (Monongahela, Pa.: Zimmer Printing, 1989). This text lists ninety-nine Protestant theologians who taught against birth control and provides direct quotations from sixty-six of them.

12. John Francis Noll, A Catechism on Birth Control, 6th ed. (Huntington, Ind.: OSV Press, 1939), 11, 13, 30–34.

13. Theodore Roosevelt wrote, “The greatest of all curses is the curse of sterility, and the severest of all condemnations should be visited upon willful sterility. The first essential in any civilization is that the man and the woman should be the father and mother of healthy children so that the race will increase and not decrease.” Ibid., 34.

14. See, for example, this brief quotation from a series of lectures given by Dr. Freud and recorded in A General Introduction to Psycho-Analysis, translated by Joan Riviere (New York: Liverwright, 1935), 115–16: “Perverted sexuality is nothing else but infantile sexuality, magnified and separated into its component parts…. Moreover, it is a characteristic common to all the perversions that in them reproduction as an aim is put aside. This is actually the criterion by which we judge whether a sexual activity is perverse—if it departs from reproduction in its aims and pursues the attainment of gratification independently.”

15. Griswold v. Connecticut (1965).

16. Margaret Sanger, The Pivot of Civilization (New York: Brentano’s, 1922), 271.

Chapter 2 The Difficulty of Talking Openly

1. Song of Songs 5:1: (Lover) I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride; I have gathered my myrrh with my spice. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey; I have drunk my wine and my milk. (Friends) Eat, O friends, and drink; drink your fill, O lovers.

2. Ecclesiastes 4:12: Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Chapter 3 The Spirit of the Act

1. Malachi 2:13–14: You flood the LORD’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer pays attention to your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the LORD is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant [emphasis added].

2. John L. McKenzie, Dictionary of the Bible (New York: Collier Books, Macmillan, 1965), 154.

3. See Exodus 32:1–6.

4. See Numbers 25:1–3.

5. See 2 Chronicles 28:1–4; 33:1–6.

6. See 2 Kings 23:1–25.

7. Patrick Riley, Civilizing Sex (Scotland: T. and T. Clark, 2000), 106–8; William Smith, Smith’s Revised Bible Dictionary (Zondervan, 1999), s.v. “Asherah” and “grove”; Robert Young, Young’s Analytical Concordance to the Bible (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1980), s.v. “stones.”

8. J. I. Packer, Merrill C. Tenney, and William White Jr., Nelson’s Illustrated Encyclopedia of Bible Facts (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1995), 448; W. F. Albright, Yaweh and the Gods of Canaan (London: Athlone Press, 1968), 203.

9. Romans 2:28–29: A man is not a Jew if he is only one outwardly, nor is circumcision merely outward and physical. No, a man is a Jew if he is one inwardly; and circumcision is circumcision of the heart, by the Spirit, not by the written code.

10. The Council of Nicaea, A.D. 325, forbade the ordination of any man who had done so. (Cited in Rev. E. C. Messenger, Two in One Flesh: The Mystery of Sex and Marriage, Part II. Westminster, Md.: The Newman Press, 1950), 141.

11. If a boy began to get an erection, a row of tiny barbs around the penis would dig in, causing him to go flaccid.

12. Douglas Jones, “Worshiping with Body,” Naturally Healthy (winter 2000), 8.

Chapter 4 Discovering God’s Heart in Our Body

1. Romans 8:11: And if the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead is living in you, he who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit, who lives in you.

2. Genesis 1:31: God saw all that he had made, and it was very good.

3. 1 Corinthians 7:4: The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.

4. Genesis 1:26–27: God said, “Let us make man in our own image.” …male and female he created them.

Chapter 7 Arousal

1. Song of Songs 2:16–17: My lover is mine and I am his; he browses among the lilies. Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, turn, my lover, and be like a gazelle or like a young stag on the rugged hills. Song of Songs 6:2–3: My lover has gone down to his garden, to the beds of spices, to browse in the gardens and to gather lilies. I am my lover’s and my lover is mine; he browses among the lilies. Song of Songs 4:16: Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread abroad. Let my lover come into his garden and taste its choice fruits.

Chapter 8 Apex

1. These are medical devices that draw blood into the spongy tissue of the penis, producing an erection sufficient for intercourse without the use of medications.

2. Archibald D. Hart, Catherine Hart Weber, and Debra L. Taylor, Secrets of Eve: Understanding the Mystery of Female Sexuality (Nashville: Word, 1998).

Chapter 10 Questions Men Ask

1. Proverbs 6:25–26: Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes, for the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of bread, and the adulteress preys upon your very life. Matthew 5:28: But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Colossians 3:5: Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.

2. Letter (March 6, 1956) from C. S. Lewis to a Mr. Masson, Wade Collection, Wheaton College, Wheaton, Illinois; cited in Leanne Payne, The Broken Image (Westchester, Ill.: Cornerstone Books, 1981), 91.

Chapter 11 Questions Women Ask

1. 1 Corinthians 7:5: Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

2. Edith Schaeffer, The Hidden Art of Homemaking: Creative Ideas for Enriching Everyday Life (Wheaton, Ill.: Tyndale, 1971), 186.

3. Brecher, Edward M., and the editors of Consumers Reports Books. Love, Sex, and Aging: A Consumers Union Report (Boston: Little, Brown, and Company, 1984), 379.

Chapter 12 Making Love All Day Long

1. 1 John 4:16: God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him.

Afterword

1. Victor Hugo, Les Miserables (New York: Signet Classic, 1987), 1381.