“If you could kick . . .” This quote comes from the online source BrainyQuote.com. See http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/t/theodorero120663.html.
The Financial Times called the dispute “Brazil’s Billionaire Baker Who Came of Age in Captivity,” Financial Times, July 1, 2011.
a mother’s account of witnessing The author is Charlotte Z. Rotterdam in Fearless Nest: Our Children as Our Greatest Teachers. Edited by Shana Stanberry Parker (http://www.lulu.com, 2010), 93. For more information, see http://www.fearlessnest.com.
“To observe without evaluating . . .” I heard this quote by Jiddu Krishnamurti from my friend Marshall Rosenberg. I also found it at The European Graduate School, http://www.egs.edu/library/jiddu-krishnamurti/biography/.
Psychologists have estimated “Stop Fighting Your Negative Thoughts,” Psychology Today, May 7, 2013, http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/shyness-is-nice/201305/stop-fighting-your-negative-thoughts. Also, from the University of Southern California’s Laboratory of Neuro Imaging, see http://www.loni.usc.edu/about_loni/education/brain_trivia.php.
“If you talked to your friends . . .” This saying I heard from David Baum. Variants can be found at http://behappy.me/OneToughMotherRunner/if-you-talked-to-your-friends-the-way-you-talk-to-your-body-youd-have-no-friends-left-21380 and at http://www.experienceproject.com/question-answer/If-Someone-In-Your-Life-Talked-To-You-The-Way-You-Talk-To-Your-Self-Sometimes-How-Long-Would-They-Be-There/452083.
“Sadness . . . was not well received . . .” Joanna Barsh, Centered Leadership: Leading with Purpose, Clarity, and Impact (New York: Crown Business, 2014), 236–37.
“In the old story . . .” This story of the Holy Grail has many variants. I owe this one to Elias Amidon.
As Carl Rogers . . . once noted Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person: A Therapist’s View of Psychotherapy (New York: Mariner Books, 1995), 17.
the Tylenol crisis in 1982 A more detailed version of the Tylenol story can be found in an article by N. R. Kleinfield, “Tylenol’s Rapid Comeback,” New York Times, September 17, 1983.
“I didn’t like that image . . .” Jerry White, I Will Not Be Broken: 5 Steps to Overcoming a Life Crisis (New York: St. Martin’s Press, 2008), 58.
In his insightful book David Schnarch, The Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships (New York: Henry Holt, 1997), 124. The original pseudonyms used by Schnarch are Bill and Joan.
“I’m no longer willing . . .” Schnarch, Passionate Marriage, 124.
“This,” Einstein declared Robert D. Dilts, Strategies of Genius: Volume II (California: Meta Publications, 1994), 20–21.
“A human being,” Einstein once wrote Walter Sullivan, “The Einstein Papers: The Man of Many Parts,” New York Times, March 29, 1972. This article also can be found reprinted here: http://news.google.com/newspapers?nid=1964&dat=19720329&id=sYMyAAAAIBAJ&sjid=x7cFAAAAIBAJ&pg=6595,5077091.
“Our left brain . . .” “Does Our Planet Need a Stroke of Insight?” January 3, 2013, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-jill-bolte-taylor/neuroscience_b_2404554.html. For a more in-depth discussion, see Jill Bolte Taylor, My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey (New York: Plume, 2009).
“How then can we reframe . . .” I would like to acknowledge my debt to Stephen Covey and Lynne Twist for their thinking about the shift from the scarcity mindset to the abundance or sufficiency mindset. For an in-depth exploration, see Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change (New York: Free Press, 1989) and Lynne Twist, The Soul of Money: Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Life (New York: W. W. Norton, 2003).
“The lesson . . . ,” Gilbert says Daniel Gilbert’s TED talk, “The Surprising Science of Happiness,” https://www.ted.com/talks/dan_gilbert_asks_why_are_we_happy. For more analysis, see Daniel Gilbert, Stumbling on Happiness (New York: Knopf, 2006).
“From the time I was young, . . .” This is from an interview conducted by Petria Chaves and Fabiola Cidral on the radio show “Caminhos Alternativos,” December 1, 2013.
“We’ve discovered scientific proof . . .” “Pay It Forward,” last modified June 1, 2007, Dr. Robert Emmons’s article on gratitude, http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/pay_it_forward. For more in-depth discussion, see Robert Emmons, Thanks!: How Practicing Gratitude Can Make You Happier (New York: Mariner Books, 2008).
By absolute safety, Wittgenstein meant Ludwig von Wittgenstein, “A Lecture on Ethics,” 1929, reprinted on http://www.geocities.jp/mickindex/wittgenstein/witt_lec_et_en.html.
Dr. Viktor Frankl tells the story Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning (Boston: Beacon Press, 2006), Kindle edition.
Research psychologist Mihaly Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience (New York: Harper Perennial Modern Classics, 2008).
“It’s a very strange feeling. . . .” This quote from Mark Richardson comes from Jeff Grout and Sarah Perrin, Mind Games: Inspirational Lessons from the World’s Finest Sport Stars (New York: Capstone/Wiley, 2006).
“Tell me the truth . . .” “Mandela Beat Apartheid ‘Demon’: Clinton,” July 18, 2013, http://www.news24.com/SouthAfrica/News/Mandela-beat-apartheid-demon-Clinton-20130718.
“We cannot live . . .” “Christo Brand & Vusumzi Mcongo (South Africa),” March 29, 2010, http://theforgivenessproject.com/stories/christo-brand-vusumzi-mcongo-south-africa/.
“If you live, you will make mistakes . . .” “Laugh and Dare to Love,” originally published in 1995, interview with Maya Angelou, http://www.context.org/iclib/ic43/angelou/.
“My life has been full . . .” I found this quote at BrainyQuote.com. See http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/m/micheldemo108601.html.
My friend Judith Rotterdam, Fearless Nest, 102–3. For more information about Judith, see Judith’s website http://www.sacredunion.com.
The atmosphere was tense. This example comes from a personal conversation with Dennis Williams, June 2014.
While I was writing this book These interviews were done under the auspices of the Harvard-NUPI-Trinity Syria Research Project and compiled into a report entitled “Obstacles to a Resolution of the Syrian Conflict,” by David Lesch with Frida Nome, George Saghir, William Ury, and Matthew Waldman, September 2013.
“If we could read the secret . . .” This quote comes from Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, The Prose Works of Henry Wadsworth Longfellow: Outre Mer and Driftwood (Boston: Houghton Mifflin, 1886).
“The increased compassion . . .” David DeSteno, “Gray Matter: The Morality of Meditation,” New York Times Sunday Review, July 5, 2013, http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/07/opinion/sunday/the-morality-of-meditation.html?hp.
Larry married a Mexican American woman “A Teacher, a Student, and a 39-Year-Long Lesson in Forgiveness,” by Tom Hallman Jr., at http://www.oregonlive.com/living/index.ssf/2012/04/a_teacher_a_student_and_a_39-y.html.
Lincoln paused and addressed Clifton Fadiman (gen. ed.), The Little Brown Book of Anecdotes (Boston: Little Brown, 1985), 360.
“When I got the phone call . . .” “Azim Khamisa & Ples Felix (USA),” March 29, 2010, http://theforgivenessproject.com/stories/azim-khamisa-ples-felix-usa/.
Since that opening journey “Ten of the Best New Trails: Discover the Best New Hikes from Wales & New Zealand to the Balkans and the Middle East” by Ben Lerwill, National Geographic Traveller (UK Edition), April 2014, 72–73.
The research suggests that giving Adam Grant, Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success (New York: Viking, 2013), 7.
Everyone wanted to be partners “Thoughts of Li Ka-Shing,” December 29, 2006, http://www.forbes.com/2006/12/29/li-ka-shing-biz-cx_tf_vk_1229qanda.html.
In a comprehensive analysis Carsten K. W. De Dreu, Laurie R. Weingart, and Seungwoo Kwon, “Influence of Social Motives on Integrative Negotiation: A Meta-Analytic Review and Test of Two Theories,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 78 (2000): 889–905. Cited in Grant, Give and Take, 213.
“I could just feel . . .” Grant, Give and Take, 250–54.
“My default is to give” Grant, Give and Take, 22.
“I really saw . . .” Scott Harrison’s story, http://www.charitywater.org/about/scotts_story.php.
“Originally I thought . . .” Gabi Ury’s website, http://www.gabiury.com.
The news went around the world The source for this piece of information is Steve Priola, who made the video.
The humanistic psychologist Abraham H. Maslow, The Farther Reaches of Human Nature (New York: Penguin, 1993).
“Learn to know yourself . . .” Anthony Sampson, Mandela: The Authorized Biography (New York: Vintage Books, 2012), Kindle edition, chapter 17.