If You’re Welcoming a New Baby
If Your Children Are Constantly Fighting
1. How You Can Be a Calm Parent
The Parenting Skills That Help You Become Calmer as a Parent
2. How Calm Discipline Supports the Sibling Relationship
Why Punishment and Permissiveness Cause More Sibling Fighting
The Difference Between Consequences and Limits
When Your Child Is Acting Out: Time-in
Helping Kids with Big Emotions: Scheduled Meltdowns
How to Help Each Child with Big Emotions When You Have More Than One Upset Child
3. What Causes Sibling Rivalry – And How Parents Can Make It Better
Your Child’s Point of View: That’s Not a Friend, It’s a Replacement
Factors That Can Exacerbate Rivalry
The Power of Parents to Foster a Super Sibling Relationship
4. Coaching Kids to Communicate Feelings and Problem-solve
Coaching Essential Emotional Intelligence Skills
Coaching Kids to Identify and Communicate Their Needs and Feelings
Coaching Kids to Set Limits with Each Other
Coaching Kids to Listen to Each Other
Coaching Kids to Problem-solve
Basic Negotiation Tools to Teach Kids
5. When Problem-solving Fails: Teaching Conflict Resolution
What About ‘We Get Along’ Shirts?
Why Fighting Is Essential to Teach Children Relationship Skills
How to Help Children Learn to Work It Out Themselves
Empowering Kids to Stand Up to Teasing
When Your Child Says He Hates His Sibling
Intervening in a Sibling Fight: The Basics
Should You Punish Your Child for Aggression?
When Your Toddler Is the Aggressor Against Your Older Child
Coaching Kids to Handle Aggression from Younger Siblings
How to Stop Repeated Aggression
Teaching Skills: Intervening in a Sibling Fight
Helping Kids Make Repairs After a Fight, Instead of Forced Apologies
6. Why Can’t They Just Share? Why Kids Fight Over Possessions
Rethinking Sharing: A Radical Solution
Self-regulated Turns: What Children Learn
Coaching Kids as They Wait for Their Turn
How to Celebrate Each Child Without Fuelling Competition
Who Gets to Push the Lift Button?
How to Ensure You Don’t Unwittingly Foster Competition
Helping Kids with Competitive Feelings
8. Tools to Prevent Rivalry and Nurture Bonding
Expect Your Children to Value Each Other
Family Routines That Foster Sibling Bonding
Family Rules and Mottos That Support Sibling Closeness
How to Create More Positive Interactions Between Your Children
Strategies to Create a Sibling Team
Shifting Alliances: How to Keep Kids from Ganging Up on Each Other
Why Rough and Tumble Reduces Sibling Rivalry
When One Child Has a Friend Over
Family Meetings: The Resource You’ll Be So Glad You Discovered
PART THREE: BEFORE THE NEW BABY AND THROUGH THE FIRST YEAR
9. Before the Baby Arrives: Creating a Warm Welcome
Telling Your Child About the New Sibling
Twelve Ways to Help Your Kids Begin Bonding During Your Pregnancy
Be Sure Your Child Can Rely on Both Parents
Ten Tips to Support Your Child Emotionally as He Moves Towards Becoming a Big Sibling
Preparing Your Child for the Separation During the Upcoming Birth
If You’re Planning to Have Your Child at the Birth
Creating a Transition Book for Your Child
Making an Activity Box for Your Child
Work Through Your Own Emotions About Having a Second Child
10. Getting Off to a Good Start: Birth and the First Few Months
Introducing Your Child to the New Baby
The First Week: Settling In as a Family
How to Keep Your Child Occupied While You Feed the Baby
Helping Your Child with Her Mixed Emotions About the Baby
What About Those Overzealous Hugs?
Regression: When Your Child Goes Backwards
Managing Naptime and Bedtime with More Than One Child
The Early Months: The New Normal
When Your Child Has a Hard Time Adjusting
Daily Practices to Stay Connected to Your Child Now That He Has to Share You
Using Games to Help Your Child with Jealousy
Reading Books to Your Child About Becoming a Big Sib
Nine Tips to Foster a Great Relationship Between Your Children Right from the Start
11. Building a Positive Foundation When the Baby Begins to Crawl
Ten Tips to Maintain a Peaceful Home as Baby Moves Towards Toddlerhood
How to Help Your Older Child Solve His Problems with the Little One
What to Say When Your Child Is Jealous of the Baby
When Your Child Is Aggressive Towards the Baby
What If the Aggressor Is Too Young to Understand?
What If It’s the Baby Who’s Aggressive?