notes

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¹ David Morris Schnarch, Passionate Marriage: Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships (New York: W. W. Norton, 1997).

² Schnarch, Passionate Marriage, 267–268.

³ Shinzen Young, The Science of Enlightenment: How Meditation Works (Boulder, CO: Sounds True, 2016).

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¹ Young, The Science of Enlightenment.

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¹ Peter A. Levine, Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma: The Innate Capacity to Transform Overwhelming Experiences (Berkeley, CA: North Atlantic Books, 1997).

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¹ W. S. Chung et al., “Gender Difference in Brain Activation to Audio-Visual Sexual Stimulation” International Journal of Impotence Research (25), 138–42.

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¹ Schnarch, Passionate Marriage, 47.

² Helen Fisher, “Lust, Attraction, Attachment: Biology and Evolution of the Three Primary Emotion Systems for Mating, Reproduction, and Parenting,” Journal of Sex Education and Therapy (25) 96–104.

³ John Lennon, “Watching the Wheels” from the album Double Fantasy (Geffen Records, 1980).

⁴ Shinzen Young, “Store—How to Increase Satisfaction.” Accessed December 19, 2016. www.shinzen.org/store-category/applying-meditation-to-specific-life-issues/ how-to-increase-satisfaction/.

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¹ Pema Chödrön and Emily Hilburn Sell, Comfortable with Uncertainty: 108 Teachings on Cultivating Fearlessness and Compassion (Boston: Shambhala, 2004), 207–208.

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¹ www.imdb.com/title/tt4382552/

² www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability

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¹ F*ck Yes, “FCK YES | Facebook.” FCK YES | Facebook page, accessed December 22, 2016. www.facebook.com/fckyesseries/.

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¹ Kimberly Ann Johnson, The Fourth Trimester: A Postpartum Guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions and Restoring Your Vitality (Boston, MA: Shambhala Publications, 2017).

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¹ Statisticbrain.com, accessed December 22, 2016, www.statisticbrain.com/infidelity-statistics/.

² Dedeker Winston, Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know about Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love (New York: W. W. Norton, 2017).

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¹ Levine, Waking the Tiger, 1997.

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¹ Ken Wilbur, One Taste: The Journals of Ken Wilber (Boston: Shambhala, 1999) 25–32.