Contents

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

PART I
Five Steps to Change in Your Relationship

1 UNDERSTANDING AND CONFRONTING ANGER: THE PROMISE OF CHANGE

2 RECOGNIZING HOW ANGER IS PULLING YOUR STRINGS

3 CREATING NEW BOUNDARIES—EXPECTING NEW BEHAVIOR

4 IDENTIFYING THE THINKING PATTERNS THAT KEEP YOU STUCK

5 TAKING NEW ACTIONS AND GETTING BETTER OUTCOMES

PART II
Overcoming the Different “Faces” of Anger

6 LOUD, IMPATIENT, AND “OVER THE TOP”: CONFRONTING HOSTILITY

7 WHEN WORDS DO HURT: REJECTING SARCASM AND VERBAL ABUSE

8 THREATS AND BEYOND: STAYING OFF THE SLIPPERY SLOPE OF PHYSICAL ABUSE

9 PASSIVE ANGER: WHAT TO DO WHEN IT SEEMS HARMLESS BUT FEELS HARMFUL

PART III
Making Boundaries Stick

10 COPING WITH THE EXPECTED AND PREPARING FOR THE UNKNOWN

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