Overcoming External Threats to the Family
One of the fundamental principles of metaphysics and deep family healing states is, “as above so below; as below so above.” This means that internal threats as well as external threats can disrupt your family dynamic. Fortunately, parents and children can defend themselves from outside threats that disrupt their family dynamic by enhancing the flow of jing through their field.
From the Taoists, we’ve learned that you and your family members can protect yourself from intrusions of “evil chi” by enhancing the flow of jing through your exceptional meridians. Evil chi is the same as energy with individual qualities, which can be projected from one person to another. When evil chi is projected with enough force by someone who has strong feelings about you, it can get stuck inside your subtle field. Then it can disrupt your family relationships by interfering with the flow of chi and jing through the organs of your subtle field.
To prevent this from happening, you and your family members must empower yourselves by strengthening your exceptional meridians (see Figure 14: The Eight Exceptional Meridians). You can do that by performing a technique that will enhance the amount of jing in your exceptional meridians. It’s called the Boundary Safety Net—and it is effective for family members of all ages. By creating the Boundary Safety Net for your family, you will create a barrier that will protect everyone in your household from evil chi, the intrusion of distorted fields, and the negative influence of non-physical beings.
We taught this exercise to Rosalie and Stephen, who were being disturbed by Stephen’s ex-wife Miriam and her parents as well as Stephen’s two adolescent daughters, Violet and Amanda, who were eleven and thirteen respectively. Violet and Amanda lived with their mother, but spent most weekends and holidays with their grandparents Sam and Bettina, who also resented Rosalie, and whose resentment and general hostility continually influenced the family dynamic. As you already learned, Violet and Amanda had reconciled with their father. Nonetheless, they still blamed Rosalie for stealing their father away.
Solving the problem proved difficult because of the shifting subtle environment. Nonetheless, by using the exercises that you will learn to perform in the following text, Rosalie and Stephen were able to protect themselves from the intrusions that had been interfering with their relationship to one another and to their daughter Sarah.
The intrusions interfered primarily with Rosalie and Stephen’s sexual relationship and with their ability to experience intimacy with each other and with Sarah. They also influenced Rosalie and Stephen’s inability to express authentic emotions because the intrusions had polluted the couple’s personal space on the non-physical levels.
We also taught the exercise to Hanna and Barry, who had restored the flow of jing through their subtle fields but were still being projected at by Hanna’s ex-colleague. Since they both suffered from the projections, they performed the exercise together. Within a few days, they were receiving the full benefits of the exercise. Projections ceased to disturb them, and their inner strength, which had been diminished by the projections, was almost entirely restored.
Exercise: The Boundary Safety Net
You can perform this exercise on your own, although we recommend that you perform it as a group with all the family members in your household.
To begin the exercise, find a comfortable position with your back straight. Close your eyes and breathe deeply through your nose for two to three minutes. Then count backward from five to one and from ten to one. Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to go to my personal healing space.” Then bring your awareness to your body, soul, and spirit. Enjoy your healing space for five minutes. Then assert, “It’s my intent to center myself in my three fields of jing (eternal, external, and internal).” Once you’re centered, continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to fill my three fields of jing with jing.” Take five minutes to enjoy the process. Then continue by asserting, “It’s my intent that jing from my three fields of jing fill my kidneys.” Take another five minutes to experience the transfer of jing. Then assert, “It’s my intent that jing from my kidneys fills my eight exceptional meridians and creates a boundary safety net around my subtle field.” Take ten minutes to feel jing radiate through your exceptional meridians and from there throughout your subtle field.
After ten minutes, count from one to five. When you reach the number five, open your eyes and bring yourself out of the meditation. Repeat the exercise every day until you and your family members are no longer disturbed by external intrusions.
Issue: The Media and Social Networking
Your child’s authentic mind is composed of three essential elements. On the physical level, it includes the brain and nervous system as well as the chemicals in the body, including hormones that influence its development.
On the non-physical level, the mind includes the subtle field of energy and consciousness, its organs and vehicles—and the prana (chi), jing, and consciousness that nourish them. The combination of physical and non-physical elements creates the third part of the human mind—the network. All three parts have their own unique capabilities and needs.
The network is particularly important to children because it includes the connections the mind has to its individual parts and to things beyond itself. This includes consciousness and energy—as well as attachments to other people, non-physical beings, and their projections.
Texting, chatting, computer games, and hours spent with social media disrupt the normal chemistry of the brain (particularly a child’s developing brain). In addition, they can disrupt the ability of the brain and subtle field to integrate their activities and to make healthy connections.
Researchers have described time spent with social media, texting, multitasking, etc. as a form of violence against the mind because after a person has immersed themselves for a short time, their brain begins to resemble the brain of a person with an addictive personality. This can be devastating for a child since the brain affects the network—and the network’s primary activity is to communicate with people in a holistic way.21
Solution: While banning the use of social media and smart phones at certain times, such as during meals, may enhance family relationships, it won’t solve the underlying problem, which is the disruption of the network. The best way to do that is to heal the functions of mind that are being disrupted or blocked by the excessive use of digital media. The Core Field Meditation is designed to do that.
We recommend that you perform the Core Field Meditation with your family members until their functions of mind have been restored to radiant good health.
Exercise: Core Field Meditation
To begin the exercise, close your eyes and breathe deeply through your nose for two to three minutes. Then count backward from five to one and from ten to one. Perform the Orgasmic Bliss Mudra to bring bliss into your conscious awareness (see Figure 9: The Orgasmic Bliss Mudra). Hold the mudra while you assert, “It’s my intent to go to my personal healing space.” Then bring your awareness to your body, soul, and spirit. Enjoy your healing space for five minutes. Then assert, “It’s my intent to center myself in my core field.” Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to turn my organs of perception inward on the level of my core field.” Next, assert, “It’s my intent to fill my core field with bliss, prana, and jing.” Take ten minutes to fill your core field with bliss, prana, and jing. Then count from one to five. When you reach the number five, open your eyes and bring yourself out of the exercise. We recommend that you and your family members repeat the exercise regularly for three weeks.
Issue: Body Image Problems
Body image problems can torment a family member and create self-destructive thoughts and feelings that interfere with their relationships and disrupt their self-esteem. Body image problems usually emerge when a child’s search for a stable personal identity begins to dominate their lives. For most children, this transition takes place between their sixth and seventh year, the same time they begin school. Although the problem can begin in the home, it’s often made worse by the taunting of other children.
Our work with Denise and her parents, Frank and Mara, will illustrate how important it can be for a child—or any family member, regardless of their gender and age—to have a positive body image. Denise was six and exceptionally tall for her age when her parents consulted us. Because of her size, most people thought she was older and therefore more developed. As a result, they had expectations that she was unable to meet. Her father, Frank, compounded the problem by constantly saying that she was too big for her age. The issue simmered on the back burner until Denise started school. Then it came to a boil because of the insensitivity of her teacher and the taunting of her classmates, who began to call her “giraffe.”
We explained to Frank and Mara that Denise’s body image problem had created blockages in her first and second chakras—and that the two kwas had also been affected.
The condition of the first chakra affects a person’s sense of security and body image. The condition of the second chakra affects a person’s level of vitality and gender orientation. The two kwas also have a significant influence on body image because they provide a person with the prana they need to experience physical pleasure.
Solution: To help Denise overcome her body image problem, we taught her parents to perform two exercises. We recommend that you perform the same exercises with your child for at least two weeks or until they’re comfortable performing them alone.
In the first exercise, you and your child will activate and center yourselves in your first and second chakra fields. Then you will fill both chakra fields and the two kwas with prana.
After you’ve performed the first exercise for two weeks, you can help your child enjoy their body on both the physical and non-physical levels by teaching them to perform the Self-Love Meditation.
It’s their subtle field which supplies your children with joyful and satisfying feelings and sensations. Children and adults who experience their subtle field and the joyful feelings and sensations that emerge from it rarely develop long-term body image problems.
We recommend that you perform the exercise with your child for two weeks. After that, your child can perform the exercise on their own.
An adult who suffers from a body image problem should perform both exercises alone until the issue no long disturbs them.
Denise’s parents followed our instructions. Frank stopped making comments about his daughter’s size and instead encouraged her to participate in sports where her size would be an advantage. Because of his support, she began to play field hockey and quickly became a valuable member of a local team. He also taught Denise to perform the First and Second Chakras—Two Kwas Meditation and the Self-Love Meditation. Denise and her father practiced both meditations regularly and, by the time they’d completed the process, Denise’s body image had improved dramatically. By performing these exercises with your child, you can expect the same results.
Exercise: First and Second Chakras—
Two Kwas Meditation
We recommend that you teach this exercise to your child and practice it with them. You can also practice this exercise on your own if you suffer from a body image problem.
To begin the meditation, find a comfortable position with your back straight. Close your eyes and breathe deeply through your nose for two to three minutes. Then count backward from five to one and from ten to one. Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to go to my personal healing space.” Then bring your awareness to your body, soul, and spirit. Enjoy your healing space for five minutes. Then assert, “It’s my intent to activate my first chakra.” Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to center myself in my first chakra field.” Enjoy the shift for two to three minutes. Then assert, “It’s my intent to fill my first chakra field with prana and jing.” Take five minutes to complete the process. Then assert, “It’s my intent to activate my second chakra.” Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to center myself in my second chakra field.” Take a few moments to enjoy the shift. Then assert, “It’s my intent to fill my second chakra field with prana and jing.” Take five minutes to complete the process. Then assert, “It’s my intent to fill my right and left kwas with prana and jing.” Continue to fill the two kwas with prana and jing for another five minutes. Then count from one to five. When you reach the number five, open your eyes and bring yourself out of the meditation.
We recommend that you practice the exercise with your child every day for two weeks. After that you can move on to the Self-Love Meditation.
Exercise: The Self-Love Meditation
We recommend that you teach this exercise to your child and practice it with them. You can also practice this exercise on your own if you suffer from a body image problem.
To begin the Self-Love Meditation with your child, find a comfortable position with your back straight. Close your eyes and breathe deeply through your nose for two to three minutes. Then count backward from five to one and from ten to one. Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to go to my personal healing space.” Then bring your awareness to your body, soul, and spirit. Enjoy your healing space for five minutes. Then assert, “It’s my intent to visualize a screen eight feet (two and a half meters) in front of me.” Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to visualize myself on the screen.” As soon as your image appears on the screen, assert, “It’s my intent to radiate love from my human heart to the image of myself on the screen.” Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to radiate prana and jing in the form of unconditional love from my heart chakra to the image of myself on the screen.” Then assert, “It’s my intent to radiate transcendent love from my third heart, Atman, to the image of myself on the screen.” Enjoy the process for five minutes. Then assert, “It’s my intent that my image on the screen radiates love from all three hearts back to me.” Take ten minutes to experience the flow of love. Then release your image and the visual screen. Continue by counting from one to five. When you reach the number five, open your eyes. You’ll feel wide awake, perfectly relaxed, and better than you did before.
Continue to perform the exercise with your child until they no longer are disturbed by a body image problem.
Issue: Mobbing and Bullying
In the ethnology of bird behavior, mobbing takes place when large numbers of one species mob one or more members of another species that has been perceived to be a threat. In human interactions, mobbing occurs when a group of people “go after” a person because they are perceived to be different—and their behavior and/or beliefs have been judged by the group to be unacceptable.
People who participate in mobbing spread rumors and use threats as well as satire and sarcasm to isolate and intimidate another peron. Although mobbing is often compared to bullying, mobbing always involves a group. It also has another dimension to it that can make it more threatening. While bullying can be carried out by one person who is jealous, envious, or simply needs an outlet for their aggression, the goal of mobbing is to make a child or adult suffer—and to create an intolerable environment for them.
The psychological and physical violence that results from either mobbing or bullying can have lasting effects on both adults and children. Even the threat of psychological or physical violence can traumatize a child or adult by creating blockages that prevent them from expressing themselves freely and developing and/or maintaining a healthy self-image. People of any age who’ve been the target of mobbing or bullying frequently suffer from adjustment disorders, headaches, depression, skin diseases, and digestive disorders. Most if not all of these symptoms can have their foundation in subtle, energetic projections and trauma scars, which can disrupt the flow of subtle energy through the targets subtle field.
Solution: Since it’s difficult to stop other people from behaving badly, you must do whatever is possible to enhance your family members’ inner strength and self-esteem in order to minimize the problem.
To do that, you can teach them to perform the Self-Esteem Mudra and Empowerment Mudra. If your child is a target, perform both mudras with them every day for at least two weeks. If it’s an adult family member who has been targeted, we recommend that they perform the mudras for two weeks on their own.
After two weeks, you can begin to locate and release the blockages and trauma scars created by mobbing or bullying. An adult family member should continue to perform the mudras on their own after the blockages and trauma scars have been released. A child should continue to perform the mudra with a parent so that they will be fortified against the violence and psychological attacks that can accompany mobbing or bullying.
Exercise: The Self-Esteem Mudra
Perform the Self-Esteem Mudra (see Figure 16: The Self-Esteem Mudra) on your own or with your child regularly, along with the Empowerment Mudra.
Exercise: The Empowerment Mudra
The Empowerment Mudra is designed to transform prana into personal power—and to distribute it uniformly throughout your subtle energy field.
You can perform the mudra with your child if they’ve been the target of mobbing or bullying, or on your own if you’ve been the target.
To begin, find a comfortable position with your back straight. Then place the tip of your tongue directly behind the point where your teeth meet your upper gum. Put the outside tips of your thumbs together to form a triangle. Then put the tips of your index fingers together to form the second triangle. Once the tips of your index fingers are touching, put the outside of your middle and ring fingers together, from the first to the second joint. Then put the inside tips of your pinkies together to form a third triangle.
When you look down at your hands, you will see three triangles. The first triangle has been created by your thumbs. The second triangle has been created by your index fingers, and the third triangle has been created by your pinkies (see Figure 26: The Empowerment Mudra).
Figure 26: The Empowerment Mudra
Hold the mudra for ten minutes with your eyes closed. After ten minutes, release it. Then count from one to five. When you reach the number five open your eyes and bring yourself out of the exercise.
Releasing Negative Projections
Intimidation, physical violence, and mobbing will always be accompanied by projections of distorted energy. In fact, it’s projections on the subtle level that can have the most negative long-term effects. To counteract those effects, it’s essential to release the distorted fields. After they’ve been released, you can release the trauma scars that accompany them. To release negative projections, you will use the prana box. Since most negative projections come in the form of cords, attachment fields, and clinging fields, you can use the techniques you learned in chapter sixteen to release them.
Exercise: Releasing Trauma Scars
By using the prana box to release traumas scars, you will remove the legacy of psychological and physical violence that normally accompanies mobbing and bullying. To release one or more trauma scars, go to chapter twelve. The process is fundamentally the same, except that—this time—you will visualize an image of your child on your screen if they’ve been the target of mobbing or bullying.
Issue: Childhood Sexuality
Sexuality is much more than sex. It includes values, attitudes, feelings, and social interactions. Sexual development is one part of sexuality. It begins as soon as the child is born. Sexuality is another part. Both have an influence on how a child relates to other people. Infants and children may not think about sexuality in same way as adults, but they learn and interpret messages related to sexuality that will shape their future attitudes and relationships. One issue that can arise very early in a child’s development is the creation of sexual inhibitions.
We recognize that different cultures and subcultures can have different sexual norms. However, for a child or any family member to develop a healthy relationship to their own sexuality and to adult sexual relationships, they must be able—at the appropriate times—to spontaneously experience sexual pleasure.
Solution: To help a family member to experience sexual pleasure spontaneously and to prevent sexual inhibitions from disrupting your child’s sexual development, you can perform two exercises. The first will enhance the flow of prana and jing through a person’s microcosmic circuit. The second will enhance the flow of prana and jing through their right and left kwas.
For children under six, you can use the Visual Screen to perform the exercises. You can teach children older than six the techniques so that they can perform the exercises along with you—or, if they prefer, on their own.
Exercise: Microcosmic Circuit Meditation
To perform the Microcosmic Circuit Meditation for yourself, see page 108. To begin the meditation with your child, find a comfortable position with your back straight. Then close your eyes and breathe deeply through your nose for two to three minutes. Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to go to my personal healing space.” Then bring your awareness to your body, soul, and spirit. Enjoy your healing space for five minutes. Then place the tip of your tongue at the top of your mouth just behind your teeth. This is known as closing the gate. Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to create a visual screen eight feet (two and a half meters) in front of me.” As soon as the screen appears, assert, “It’s my intent to create an image of (child’s name) on the screen.” Take a moment to observe your child’s condition on both the physical and subtle levels. Then assert, “It’s my intent to bring my mental attention to the back of (child’s name)’s first chakra gate at the base of their spine” (see Figure 13: The Microcosmic Circuit). Once your mental attention is centered on the back of their first chakra gate, breathe into the back of the gate. Continue to breathe into it for one to two minutes. Then breathe normally again and move your mental attention slowly upward until it reaches the back of their second chakra gate. When it has reached the back of the chakra gate, assert, “It’s my intent to center my mental attention in the back of (child’s name)’s second chakra gate.” Breathe into the back of the second chakra gate for one to two minutes. Continue in the same way by activating the back of their third, fourth, fifth, sixth, and seventh chakras.
After you’ve activated the masculine gate of your child’s seven traditional chakras, continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to bring my mental attention to the front of (child’s name)’s seventh chakra gate at the crown of their head.” Once your mental attention is centered on the front of their seventh chakra gate, breathe into it for one to two minutes. Then move your mental attention slowly down the conceptual meridian until you reach the feminine pole of the sixth chakra gate, which is located by their brow. Breathe into it for one to two minutes. Then continue the process, in the same way, until you’ve activated the feminine gate of their seven traditional chakras.
Once you’ve activated the front of the seven traditional chakras, assert, “It’s my intent to fill (child’s name)’s seven chakra fields with prana and jing.” Give them ten minutes to enjoy the experience. After ten minutes, release the screen and the image of your child. Then count from one to five. When you reach the number five, open your eyes and bring yourself out of the meditation. Repeat as needed.
Exercise: Energizing the Two Kwas
To begin the exercise, find a comfortable position with your back straight. Then close your eyes and breathe deeply through your nose for two to three minutes. Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to go to my personal healing space.” Then bring your awareness to your body, soul, and spirit. Enjoy your healing space for five minutes. Then assert, “It’s my intent to create a visual screen eight feet (two and a half meters) in front of me.” As soon as the screen appears, assert, “It’s my intent to create an image of (child’s name) on the screen.” Take a moment to observe your child’s condition on both the physical and subtle levels. Then assert, “It’s my intent to fill (child’s name)’s right and left kwas with blue chi.” Give your child ten minutes to enjoy the process. After ten minutes, release the screen and the image of your child. Then count from one to five. When you reach the number five, open your eyes and bring yourself out of the meditation. Repeat as needed.
Issue—Lack of Self-Esteem
Self-esteem is so obvious to people who have it that its importance is rarely appreciated. For children and adults who lack self-esteem, however, existence can become a constant struggle. Fortunately, with what you’ve learned so far, you can free yourself or another family member from this self-limiting pattern so that they can enjoy their life and reach their full potential.
Solution: Self-esteem is directly connected to two things: self-confidence and inner joy. To increase self-confidence and inner joy, you (or they) will activate your first, third, and fifth chakras. Then you (or they) will fill all three chakra fields with prana and jing. For children under six, we recommend that you use the Visual Screen to activate your child’s chakras and fill them with prana and jing. If your child is older than six, teach them to perform the First, Third, and Fifth Chakra Meditation so that they can perform it along with you or, if they prefer, they can perform it on their own.
We recommend that you perform the exercise regularly, for at least two weeks. After that, you can teach your child to perform the Self-Esteem Mudra (see page 247). Once you’ve taught your child the mudra, you can perform it along with them—or they can perform it on their own. In either case, continue to perform the mudra until your child’s self-esteem has been fully restored.
Exercise:
First, Third, and Fifth Chakra Meditation
To perform the exercise for a child, find a comfortable position with your back straight. Breathe deeply through your nose for two to three minutes. Then count backward from five to one and from ten to one. Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to go to my personal healing space.” Then bring your awareness to your body, soul, and spirit. Enjoy your healing space for five minutes. Then assert, “It’s my intent to create a visual screen two and a half meters in front of me.” Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to visualize (child’s name) on the screen.” Once your child appears, take a few moments to observe their condition on the physical and subtle levels. Then assert, “It’s my intent to activate (child’s name)’s first chakra.” Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to fill (child’s name)’s first chakra field with prana and jing.” Take two to three minutes to enjoy the process. Then assert, “It’s my intent to activate (child’s name)’s third chakra.” Continue by asserting, “It’s my intent to fill (child’s name)’s third chakra field with prana and jing.” After another two to three minutes, assert, “It’s my intent to activate (child’s name)’s fifth chakra.” Then assert, “It’s my intent to fill (child’s name)’s fifth chakra with prana and jing.” Continue to fill all three fields with prana and jing for ten more minutes. Then release the image of your child and the screen and count from one to five. When you reach the number five, open your eyes and bring yourself out of the meditation.
To perform the exercise for yourself, visualize yourself on the screen and fill your chakra fields with prana and jing.
Exercise:
The Self-Esteem Mudra
To perform the Self-Esteem Mudra, see page 141. Practice the mudra on your own or with your child after you’ve performed the First, Third, and Fifth Chakra Meditation. Continue until you or your child no longer suffers from a lack of self-esteem.
21. Rudolf Hänsel, “Die zu häufige Nutzung digitaler Medien vermindert die geistige Leistungsfähigkeit unserer Kinder” (October 2012). http://www.zeit-fragen.ch/index.php?id=1170.