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Foreword
1. National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine. 2019. Vibrant and Healthy Kids: Aligning Science, Practice, and Policy to Advance Health Equity. Washington, DC: The National Academies Press. https://doi.org/10.17226/25466.
Introduction
1. “Major Depression.” National Institute of Mental Health. Statistics retrieved May 13, 2019, https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/major-depression.shtml.
Chapter One
1. Video: https://www.kidsinthehouse.com/teenager/parenting-teens/bonding-with-your-teen/managing-vs-consulting-your-teenager.
2. Than Healy. “Keepers of the Culture,” KnightLine, Nov 22, 2019.
3. Tim Elmore. “College admissions scandal—Could free range parenting prevent the next disaster?” Fox News Opinion, November 23, 2019.
4. “Supportive Relationships and Active Skill-Building Strengthening the Foundations of Resilience: Working Paper 13.” National Scientific Council on the Developing Child (2015): 2. http://www.developingchild.harvard.edu.
5. Juliana Menasce Horowitz and Nikki Graf. “Most U.S. Teens See Anxiety and Depression as a Major Problem among Their Peers,” Pew Research Center, Social & Demographic Trends, February 20, 2019.
6. Modified from Liz Evans. “25 Ways to Ask Your Teens ‘So How Was School Today?’ without Asking Them ‘So How Was School Today?’” The Huffington Post, December 7, 2017.
7. Gathered from Warren Berger. The Beautiful Book of Questions. Bloomsbury Publishing, 2018.
8. Donald Sheff. “Izzy, Did You Ask a Good Question Today?” The New York Times Opinion, January 19, 1988, https://www.nytimes.com/1988/01/19/opinion/l-izzy-did-you-ask-a-good-question-today-712388.html.
9. Madeline Levine. The Price of Privilege. Harper Perennial, 2006, p. 17.
10. Kirk Carapezza. “The Pressure on Kids—They’re Born into It,” WGBH News, November 18, 2019.
Chapter Two
1. Madeline Levine. “Raising Successful Children.” New York Times Opinion. Aug 4, 2012. https://www.nytimes.com/2012/08/05/opinion/sunday/raising-successful-children.html.
2. Interview with headmaster, November 23, 2019.
3. Jungmeen Kim-Spoon, Gregory S. Longo, and Michael E. McCullough. “Adolescents who are less religious than their parents are at risk for externalizing and internalizing symptoms: The mediating role of parent-adolescent relationship quality.” Journal of Family Psychology 26 no. 4 (2012): 636–41.
4. “Supportive Relationships and Active Skill-Building Strengthening the Foundations of Resilience: Working Paper 13.” National Scientific Council on the Developing Child (2015): 2. http://www.developingchild.harvard.edu.
Chapter Three
1. Carol Dweck. “Dweck Revisits the Growth Mindset.” Education Weekly, November 13, 2019. https://www.edweek.org/ew/articles/2015/09/23/carol-dweck-revisits-the-growth-mindset.html.
2. R. Weissbourd, S. Jones, T. Ross-Anderson, J. Kahn, and M. Russell. “The children we mean to raise: The real messages adults are sending about values.” Making Caring Common Project, Harvard Graduate School of Education (2014). http://sites.gse.harvard.edu/sites/default/files/making-caring-common/files/mcc_the_children_we_mean_to_raise_0.pdf.
3. Carol Dweck. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Ballantine, 2007.
4. Interview with Michael Dennin, Vice Provost for Teaching and Learning and Dean of the Division of Undergraduate Education, UCI, January 21, 2020.
5. Carol Dweck. “Dweck Revisits the Growth Mindset.” Education Weekly, November 13, 2019. https://www.edweek.org/ew/articles/2015/09/23/carol-dweck-revisits-the-growth-mindset.html.
6. Carol Dweck. “Dweck Revisits the Growth Mindset.” Education Weekly, November 13, 2019. https://www.edweek.org/ew/articles/2015/09/23/carol-dweck-revisits-the-growth-mindset.html.
7. Paraphrased from presentation by Lisa Damour. “Under Pressure.” Common Ground Speaker Series, Sacred Heart School, December 10, 2019.
8. Than Healy, Menlo School, KnightTime News, Fall 2018.
9. Tracy Hargen. “This Is What Happens When You Stop Fixing Things for Your Kids.” Grown and Flown. Retrieved December 31, 2019. https://grownandflown.com/stop-fixing-things-for-your-kids/.
Chapter Four
1. Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson. “Do you really ‘see’ your child?” New York Times. January 6, 2020. https://parenting.nytimes.com/preschooler/daniel-siegel-tina-payne-bryson.
2. www.scholarshipstats.com/varsityodds.html
4. “Real Sports with Bryant Gumbel 272.” HBO. November 2019. www.hbo.com/real-sports-with-bryant-gumbel/all-episodes/november-2019.
7. https://www.nationalservice.gov/pdf/05_1130_LSA_YHA_SI_factsheet.pdf.
Chapter Five
1. PDF for Teens, www.challengesuccess.com.
2. “The Sleep Connection.” UC Berkeley, Night Owl Study. https://thesleepconnection.com.au/new-study-kids-whore-night-owls-perform-worse-at-school/.
3. Margie Skeer and E. Ballard. “Are family meals as good for youth as we think they are? A review of the literature on family meals as they pertain to adolescent risk prevention.” Journal of Youth & Adolescence 42 no. 7 (2013): 943–63.
4. “The importance of family dinners VIII: A CASA Columbia White Paper.” National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University (2012). http://www.casacolumbia.org/addiction-research/reports/importance-of-family-dinners-2012.
5. The Family Dinner Project. Eat, Laugh, Talk: The Family Dinner Playbook. Familius, 2019, p. 16.
6. The Family Dinner Project. Eat, Laugh, Talk: The Family Dinner Playbook. Familius, 2019, p. 12.
7. The Family Dinner Project. Eat, Laugh, Talk: The Family Dinner Playbook. Familius, 2019.
8. “The importance of family dinners VIII: A CASA Columbia White Paper.” National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University (2012). http://www.casacolumbia.org/addiction-research/reports/importance-of-family-dinners-2012.
9. “Generation M2: Media in the lives of 8- to 18-year- olds.” Kaiser Family Foundation (2010): 34. https://www.kff.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/8010.pdf.
10. “Challenge Success—Stanford Parent Survey.” Challenge Success (2019).
11. Andrea Guthmann. “Tutors, private test prep coaches, homework therapists. Rich kids have all the academic advantages money can buy. But at what cost?” Chicago Tribune, April 5, 2019.
12. Marybeth Bock. “It’s Easy to Judge until It’s Your Kid, Let’s Try Compassion.” Grown and Flown. https://grownandflown.com/stop-judging-other-kids/.
Chapter Six
1. Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson. “Do you really ‘see’ your child?” New York Times. January 6, 2020. https://parenting.nytimes.com/preschooler/daniel-siegel-tina-payne-bryson.
2. Interview with Tiffany Shlain, author of 24/6: The Power of Unplugging One Day a Week, March 3, 2020.
3. Interview with Chelsea Brown, www.digitalmomtalk.com, January 23, 2020.
4. Centers for Disease Control. “Screen Time vs. Lean Time.” Infographic 2018. https://www.cdc.gov/nccdphp/dnpao/multimedia/infographics/getmoving.html.
5. Interview with Tiffany Shlain, author of 24/6: The Power of Unplugging One Day a Week, March 3, 2020.
6. Nick Bilton. “Steve Jobs Was a Low-Tech Parent,” New York Times, September 10, 2014.
7. Interview with Chelsea Brown, www.digitalmomtalk.com, January 23, 2020.
8. Interview with Tiffany Shlain, author of 24/6: The Power of Unplugging One Day a Week, March 3, 2020.
9. Jonathan Haidt and Tobias Rose-Stockwell. “The Dark Psychology of Social Networks: Why It Feels Like Everything Is Going Haywire.” The Atlantic, December, 2019 (emphasis added).
10. TedxTeen. “ReThink before You Type,” Oct 23, 2014. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YkzwHuf6C2U and http://www.rethinkwords.com.
11. Chris C. “Love What Matters.” Feb. 29, 2020. https://www.lovewhatmatters.com/sick-stomach-cell-phones-social-media-school-principal-parenting/.
12. The Family Dinner Project. Eat, Laugh, Talk: The Family Dinner Playbook. Familius, 2019, p. 17.
13. Adrian F. Ward, Kristen Duke, Ayelet Gneezy, Maarten W. Bos. “Brain Drain: The Mere Presence of One’s Own Smartphone Reduces Available Cognitive Capacity.” Journal of the Association for Consumer Research 2, no. 2 (April 2017). https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/abs/10.1086/691462
14. Interview with Tiffany Shlain, author of 24/6: The Power of Unplugging One Day a Week, March 3, 2020.
15. The Family Dinner Project. Eat, Laugh, Talk: The Family Dinner Playbook. Familius, 2019, p. 16.
16. The Family Dinner Project. Eat, Laugh, Talk: The Family Dinner Playbook. Familius, 2019, p. 17.
17. Interview with Brian Tickler, January 8, 2019.
18. Hannah Natanson. “Harvard Rescinds Acceptances for at Least Ten Students for Obscene Memes.” The Harvard Crimson. June 5, 2017. https://www.thecrimson.com/article/2017/6/5/2021-offers-rescinded-memes/.
19. Jeff Schiffman, Director of Admission, Tulane (blog post), January 2020. https://tuadmissionjeff.blogspot.com/2020/01/how-to-stay-admitted.html?m=1&fbclid=IwAR2rdHrE22eWxGoeurvDnHa6pJnQTsbmLuiS0_7OXQU7l0W1tTFO-BNkxmw.
20. Natalie Burg. “At Home Tech Tips to Keep Your Family Connected to Each Other.” Forbes, February 24, 2020. https://www.forbes.com/sites/capitalone/2020/02/24/at-home-tech-tips-to-keep-your-family-connected-to-each-other/#76ae9a1e25d8.
21. Natalie Burg. “At Home Tech Tips to Keep Your Family Connected to Each Other.” Forbes, February 24, 2020. https://www.forbes.com/sites/capitalone/2020/02/24/at-home-tech-tips-to-keep-your-family-connected-to-each-other/#76ae9a1e25d8.
22. Interview with Chelsea Brown, www.digitalmomtalk.com, January 23, 2020.
Chapter Eight
1. Interview with teacher, January 1, 2020.
2. Paraphrased from presentation by Lisa Damour. “Under Pressure” presentation, Common Ground Speaker Series, Sacred Heart School, December 20, 2020.
3. Paraphrased from presentation by Lisa Damour. “Under Pressure” presentation, Common Ground Speaker Series, Sacred Heart School, December 20, 2020.
4. www.challengesuccess.com. http://www.challengesuccess.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/CS_Flyer_Teens_042018_5.pdf.
5. Interview with Michael Dennin, Vice Provost for Teaching and Learning and Dean of the Division of Undergraduate Education, UCI, January 21, 2020.
6. Interview with headmaster, November 23, 2019.
7. Interview with teacher, January 8, 2020.
8. Interview with teacher, January 11, 2020.
9. Interview with headmaster, November 23, 2019.
Chapter Nine
1. Valerie Strauss. “US News Changed the Way It Ranks Colleges. It’s Still Ridiculous.” The Washington Post, September 12, 2018. https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2018/09/12/us-news-changed-way-it-ranks-colleges-its-still-ridiculous/.
2. Valerie Strauss. “US News Changed the Way It Ranks Colleges. It’s Still Ridiculous.” The Washington Post, September 12, 2018. https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2018/09/12/us-news-changed-way-it-ranks-colleges-its-still-ridiculous/.
3. Lynn O’Shaughnessy. “Can College Rankings Giant Keep Schools from Cheating?” The College Solution 2013. http://www.thecollegesolution.com/can-college-rankings-giant-keep-schools-from-cheating/.
4. Max Kutner. “How to Game the College Rankings.” Boston Magazine, August 26, 2014. https://www.bostonmagazine.com/news/2014/08/26/how-northeastern-gamed-the-college-rankings/2/.
5. Douglas Belkin. “For Sale: SAT-Takers’ Names. Colleges Buy Student Data and Boost Exclusivity.” The Wall Street Journal. https://www.wsj.com/articles/for-sale-sat-takers-names-colleges-buy-student-data-and-boost-exclusivity-11572976621_.
6. Valerie Strauss. “US News Changed the Way It Ranks Colleges. It’s Still Ridiculous.” The Washington Post, September 12, 2018. https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2018/09/12/us-news-changed-way-it-ranks-colleges-its-still-ridiculous/.
7. Liberal Arts Colleges. “14 Reasons Why US News College Rankings Are Meaningless.” https://www.liberalartscolleges.com/us-news-college-rankings-meaningless/.
8. Malcolm Gladwell. “The Trouble with College Rankings: What College Rankings Really Tell Us.” New Yorker, February 6, 2011. https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2011/02/14/the-order-of-things.
9. Ted O’Neill. “Admissions failure.” Speech delivered at Weissbourd Conference, May 2016. https://thepointmag.com/examined-life/admissions-failure/.
10. Interview with headmaster, November 23, 2019.
11. “A ‘Fit’ Over Rankings: Why College Engagement Matters More Than Selectivity [White Paper].” Challenge Success (October, 2018). https://www.challengesuccess.org/resources/research/white-papers/.
12. Interview with Michael Dennin, Vice Provost for Teaching and Learning and Dean of the Division of Undergraduate Education, UCI, January 21, 2020.
13. Alexandra Rhodes, Rhodes Educational Consulting, Facebook, December 18, 2019.
14. Lisa Micele, University of Illinois Laboratory School Urbana, IL, Facebook, April 30, 2019.
Chapter Ten
1. Jennifer Levitz and Melissa Korn. “‘Why Didn’t You Believe in Me?’ The Family Reckoning after the College Admissions Scandal.” Wall Street Journal, January 17, 2020.
2. Jennifer Levitz and Melissa Korn. “‘Why Didn’t You Believe in Me?’ The Family Reckoning after the College Admissions Scandal.” Wall Street Journal, January 17, 2020.
3. Jennifer Levitz and Melissa Korn. “‘Why Didn’t You Believe in Me?’ The Family Reckoning after the College Admissions Scandal.” Wall Street Journal, January 17, 2020.
4. John Woolfolk. “College Scandal: This Bay Area student newspaper nixed a popular map of where seniors are bound for college.” The Mercury News, May 28, 2019. https://www.mercurynews.com/2019/05/24/college-scandal-this-bay-area-student-newspaper-nixed-a-popular-map-of-where-seniors-are-bound-for-college/.
5. Anonymous parent, Facebook (on Writing Successful College Applications Facebook page), May 29, 2019.
Chapter Eleven
1. Courtney E. Ackerman. “Cognitive Distortions: When your brain lies to you.” Positive Psychology, 2019. https://positivepsychology.com/cognitive-distortions/.
Chapter Twelve
1. Mike Rowe, Facebook, February 17, 2015.
2. Content in this section adapted from Justin Muchnick. Teens’ Guide to College & Career Planning, Peterson’s Publishers, 2016.
3. Mike Colagrassi. “Why the College Dropout Myth Can Hurt Your Prospects,” Big Think, October 23, 2018. https://bigthink.com/personal-growth/college-dropout-myth-can-hurt-career.
Conclusion
1. “Challenge Success—Stanford Parent Survey.” Challenge Success 2019.