Chapter 2—Broken Chaos Detectors
1. Christina Baldwin, Life’s Companion (New York: Bantam Books, 1991), 75.
2. Ibid.
3. Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Deception (New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1993), 26.
4. Ibid.
5. Ibid., 88.
Chapter 3—They Come in All Kinds
1. Gary Chapman, Loving Solutions (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 1998), 197.
2. Christine Ann Lawson, Understanding the Borderline Mother (Northvale, NJ: Jason Aronson, 2000), 80.
3. Paul Meier, Don’t Let the Jerks Get the Best of You (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1993), 35.
Chapter 4—Control Freaks
1. Paul Meier and Robert Wise, Crazy Makers (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2003), 9.
2. Ibid., 32.
3. Patricia Evans, Controlling People (Avon, MA: Adams Media Corporation, 2002), 184.
4. Gary Chapman, Loving Solutions (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 1998), 102.
Chapter 5—The Big Hook: Aggressors and Egotists
1. Albert Bernstein, Emotional Vampires (New York: McGraw Hill, 2001), 69.
2. Ibid., 71.
3. Ibid., 74.
4. Ibid., 132.
5. Patricia Evans, Controlling People (Avon, MA: Adams Media Corporation, 2002), 54.
Chapter 6—The Big Hook: Borderlines, Sufferers, and Control Freaks
1. Marsha Linehan, Cognitive Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder (New York: Guilliford Press, 1993).
2. Gary Chapman, Loving Solutions (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 1998), 136.
3. Randi Kreger, Stop Walking on Eggshells (Oakland: New Harbinger Publications, 2002), 84.
4. Chapman, 137.
5. Patricia Evans, Controlling People (Avon, MA: Adams Media Corporation, 2002), 254.
Chapter 7—The Net of Deception
1. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1978), 62.
2. Ibid., 63.
3. Robert Bramson, Coping with Difficult People (New York: Ballantine Books, 1981), 96.
4. Ibid., 135.
5. Les Parrott, The Control Freak (Wheaton: Tyndale House Publishers, 2000), 34.
6. John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame That Binds You (Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1988).
7. Albert Bernstein, Emotional Vampires (New York: McGraw Hill, 2001), 80.
8. Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Deception (New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1993), 36.
Chapter 8—Foul Bait and Other Crazy-Making Lures
1. Randi Kreger, Stop Walking on Eggshells (Oakland: New Harbinger Publications, 2002), 57.
Chapter 9—The Powerful Bait of Irresponsibility
1. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1978), 36.
2. Ibid.
3. Gerald May, Addiction and Grace (San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 1988), 176.
4. John Gottman, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1994), 79.
5. Albert Bernstein, Emotional Vampires (New York: McGraw-Hill, 2001), 19.
6. Sam Keen, To Love and Be Loved (New York: Bantam Books, 1997), 118.
7. Ibid., 114.
8. Ibid., 119.
9. Gary Chapman, Loving Solutions (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 1998), 85.
10. Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Anger (New York: HarperPerennial, 1985), 138-39.
Chapter 10—Boundaries Deliver Freedom
1. John Bradshaw, Homecoming (New York: Bantam Books, 1990), 8.
2. Robert Hemfelt, Frank Minirth, and Paul Meier, Love Is a Choice (Nashville: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1989), 28.
3. Michael Gurian, Love’s Journey (Boston: Shambhala Publications, 1995), 106.
4. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, Boundaries (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1992), 24.
5. Ibid., 26.
6. Ibid., 104-5.
7. Henri Nouwen, Here and Now (New York: Crossroads, 1994), 131.
8. Charles Whitfield, Boundaries and Relationships (Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc., 1993), 17-38.
Chapter 11—The Freedom of Normalcy
1. Albert Bernstein, Emotional Vampires (New York: McGraw Hill, 2001), 14.
2. Anne Lamott, Traveling Mercies (New York: Pantheon Books, 1999), 248.
3. Nora Roberts, Blue Dahlia (New York: Jove Books, 2004), 117.
4. Patricia Evans, Controlling People (Avon, MA: Adams Media Corporation, 2002), 40.
5. John Bradshaw, Homecoming (New York: Bantam Books, 1990), 192-93.
6. Julia Cameron, The Artist’s Way (New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher, 1992), 44.
7. Ibid., 53.
Chapter 12—Total Freedom: Catch and Release
1. Gerald May, Addiction and Grace (San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco: 1988), 2.
2. Ibid., 13.
3. Ibid.
4. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, God Will Make a Way (Nashville: Integrity Publishers, 2002), 198.