Chapter 1: The Nature of Self-Esteem
Cognitive Restructuring for Self-Esteem
Chapter 2: The Pathological Critic
The Variable-Ratio Reinforcement Schedule
How the Critic Gets Reinforced
Positive Reinforcement for the Critic
Negative Reinforcement for the Critic
Chapter 3: Disarming the Critic
Chapter 4: Accurate Self-Assessment
Chapter 5: Cognitive Distortions
Chapter 6: Defusing Painful Thoughts
Combining Watching, Labeling, and Letting Go
Example: Tony and the Three Questions
Healthy Versus Unhealthy Values
How Shoulds Affect Your Self-Esteem
Challenging and Revising Your Shoulds
Atonement—When Shoulds Make Sense
Chapter 9: Acting on Your Values
Ten Weeks to Put Values into Action
Mistakes: Prerequisite for Spontaneity
Mistakes as Nonexistent in the Present
Raising Your Mistake Consciousness
Chapter 11: Responding to Criticism
Chapter 12: Asking for What You Want
Distilling the Assertive Request
Chapter 13: Goal Setting and Planning
Question 1: What Hurts or Feels Bad?
Question 2: What Are You Hungry For?
Question 3: What Are Your Dreams?
Question 4: What Are the Little Comforts?
Selecting Goals to Work On: The First Cut
Selecting Goals to Work On: The Evaluation
Rules for Creating Effective Self-Esteem Visualizations
Chapter 15: I’m Still Not Okay
Chapter 17: Building Self-Esteem in ChildrenBy Judith McKay, RN
A Special Challenge—The Child Who Is Different
Accepting Your Child’s Negative Feelings
Involve Your Child in Solving Problems
The Facts of Life—Consequences